I'm so angry...

[armywalaby]

All the time...I need tips on how to manage it.

It is difficult for me to just convert the energy into other things...for example, exercising. It just makes me even more angry. Any tips on how to manage it?

Thanks in advance.

[NickInMesa]

Originally Posted by armywalaby

All the time...I need tips on how to manage it.

It is difficult for me to just convert the energy into other things...for example, exercising. It just makes me even more angry. Any tips on how to manage it?

Thanks in advance.

You need to relax. But step 1 is to admit you have a problem.

You may want to avoid the triggers. Political stuff used to make me angry, now I just avoid the blogs, opinion news and talk shows and only tune in in November.

That's just one example. You may also want to talk to a counsellor or join a yoga/meditation class.

[::::BASSIST::::]

If you are angry all the time or very often I'd say a counsellor is what you need. Anger is natural and we all get there from time to time. However, to be angry almost always is an indicator that something needs to be looked into further with a counsellor IMO.

[MichaelScott]

Masturbate more. Think about dudes if thinking about girls doesn't fix the problem.

[armywalaby]

Originally Posted by ::::BASSIST::::

If you are angry all the time or very often I'd say a counsellor is what you need. Anger is natural and we all get there from time to time. However, to be angry almost always is an indicator that something needs to be looked into further with a counsellor IMO.

You're absolutely right. I'm currently in an outpatient rehabilitation program. Long story short, let's just say I got lost for a few months when I got out of the Army. I'm seeing professionals and the like, and it helps with the addictive personality.

I guess to be more specific, I get angry at things that I imagine most people would just find irritating or annoying. In the same token, if, lets say, it's the same entity that keeps triggering my anger, that in turn just throws more gas on the fire. This happens a lot.

To not reveal too much information, I have a feeling that it has to tie to some things that happened to me when I was young, which I have identified. It's as if anger is just my conditioned response to most things.

[armywalaby]

Originally Posted by MichaelScott

Masturbate more. Think about dudes if thinking about girls doesn't fix the problem.

GREAT IDEA! Unfortunately for me, moderation was something I never could comprehend. I imagine one day I'd wank myself into a severely injured prostate.

[MJ5150]

You need someone unbiased to help you find the reason you are mad all the time. When we do it ourself, we tend to justify why we are mad, so we get nowhere or only madder.

-Mike

[John Deacon]

Originally Posted by armywalaby

You're absolutely right. I'm currently in an outpatient rehabilitation program. Long story short, let's just say I got lost for a few months when I got out of the Army. I'm seeing professionals and the like, and it helps with the addictive personality.

I guess to be more specific, I get angry at things that I imagine most people would just find irritating or annoying. In the same token, if, lets say, it's the same entity that keeps triggering my anger, that in turn just throws more gas on the fire. This happens a lot.

To not reveal too much information, I have a feeling that it has to tie to some things that happened to me when I was young, which I have identified. It's as if anger is just my conditioned response to most things.

It does seem like a lot of soldiers coming home tend to have some mental issues. That is of course is not a crack at you at all, because I can't even imagine the stress that you were put under. The change of environment from the battlefield, to getting used to being back at home requires a decompression period. The best thing to do is to get help. Or playing the hardest, fastest songs you can to just wear you out, haha.

[Craig_S]

See a doctor - get some pills - get a counselor - lay off the caffeine - find a hobby - rub one off - whatever...

[armywalaby]

I don't want to paint an inaccurate picture here...I was never deployed in combat. I was stationed in Korea for three years, which I have heard about every combat vet I met over there claim that they didn't understand why the stress level was so much higher there in comparison to the middle east. We were safe from the hot metal, but I'm not sure if our brains survived.

This is all tough for me. I interpret me vocalizing my issues as being totally self-absorbed...but I know that this way of thinking isn't healthy.

I'll try to make a list. If something makes me mad, I'll write it down. My iPhone will make this easier.

[6jase5]

Not just counseling, but the RIGHT counselor. I might also suggest breathing exercises, yoga, meditation...but ultimately you have to find what works for you before drinking or something self-destructive becomes the answer to what's working for you.

[John Deacon]

Originally Posted by armywalaby

I don't want to paint an inaccurate picture here...I was never deployed in combat. I was stationed in Korea for three years, which I have heard about every combat vet I met over there claim that they didn't understand why the stress level was so much higher there in comparison to the middle east. We were safe from the hot metal, but I'm not sure if our brains survived.

This is all tough for me. I interpret me vocalizing my issues as being totally self-absorbed...but I know that this way of thinking isn't healthy.

I'll try to make a list. If something makes me mad, I'll write it down. My iPhone will make this easier.

It isn't self absorbed at all. Just because it is you wanting help, doesn't mean youre self absorbed, it means that you want to get better so you aren't angry all the time. It is a great thing to do. And even without actually being in combat, I am sure that being away from your home and stationed there is stressful.

[NickInMesa]

Anger can be an issue. Some ex-coworker was angry all the time, one day he got into an anger fit against me, and basically assaulted me in my office.

Bad idea. I ended up punching him and guess what? We both got fired.

Good thing is I was about to leave this job and I got a severance package in the deal, but that's not a reference I can use

So yes, be sure to control that.

[Yakob]

I like being angry.

Being angry, cynical, and sarcastic have kind of become my natural way of being over the years.

[JohnnyNacho]

Man, run. Everyday. It will help, I promise.

[cassanova]

You admitted you think you have a problem. The best thing for you to do now would be to seek out a counselor and get professional help.

One thing that helped me with my anger issues was to write my thoughts down in a journal. It'll help you visualize exactly what is triggering your anger and how you coped with it. Anger/Anxiety are normal emotions and okay to have, what you need to develop are better coping skills for it. A change in thinking patterns is more than likely also going to be needed on your part.

You might even have Intermittent Explosive Disorder or PTSD.

[A-Step-Towards]

Play drums i heard its just a bunch of smashing things making loud noises at least thats how my drummer plays, it should relieve some anger.

[Unrepresented]

I can relate. Sometimes the world needs someone to let it know it's wrong.

-- a passionate and unreasonable man.

[SSINTENSE]

Working out HARD does wonders. Use your anger on a long 3 mile run. When I was younger I focused out my frustrations and half sprinted the 3 miles. It felt real good, like I was doing something to get my anger out. It almost felt like punching a brick wall when you get really frustrated.

[Bassman316]

I can also relate. As happy a person as I am and as much as I laugh at things, I'm also a rather angry person. What I do is if I'm really angry or have a lot of emotion of any kind flowing, I tend to take it out on my basses. Really. Doesn't matter if I put on some heavy music and play to that or just go nuts on my own, it helps. I can also see how playing drums could help, probably more so than bass since you're hitting the crap out of things. So I'd have to say playing the crap out of whatever instrument you play would help a lot. Running or exercise they say helps as well.