Job Offer Out Of State

[deeptubes]

I'll try to keep this brief.

So, I got a job offer. VERY good money. Wife wouldn't have to work. The job would be primarily climate controlled, not so much right now. I suppose it would be a little "easier" to an extent. Currently, I've lived in the same house, a block from the beach in Va Beach, for 20 years. Good neighborhood. Great location. My wife and I grew up in the area. Would have to move about 30 miles north of Baltimore. Could probably afford 2 households, but I've worked on the road before and being without my family was torture. Can't do it without them. Been planning on raising our 2 year old little girl here. Excellent place to bring her up. She would have a lot of advantages growing up here. Wife is willing to move, but she doesn't particularly want to. It's a great opportunity for me professionally, but I think it would be better for my family to stay here. I don't think I'm going to take it.

When I started this, I was on the fence. Guess I worked it out. Thanks for the ears!

[iamlowsound]

Family comes first, looks like you figured that one out.

lowsound

[tastybasslines]

What percentage more are we talking about?

[MakiSupaStar]

Change it up.

[sandmangeck]

I vote move. You can rent the house the VA while your in near Baltimore.
You've got 3 years before she starts school. If you don't like it you could move back.
Your wife could also work in Maryland and use the extra money to pay off the VA house.

[Factor88]

Originally Posted by sandmangeck

I vote move. You can rent the house the VA while your in near Baltimore.
You've got 3 years before she starts school. If you don't like it you could move back.

What if his (and his wife's) old job is not availble? Not so easy just to give it a try and come back if you don't like it...or mabe it is....only the OP could answer that one.

BUt still, although family comes first you have to make a full evaluation. For example, the way things are now will you be able to afford to pay for your kid's college? Retire early? If not, could you do it if you made the move (and especially if your wife ended up going back to work after your kid starts school)?

How secure is your job now? How secure would your new job be? These are also important questions.

Not enough info to give you a good answer........

[Richland123]

I have been in a similar situation several times when my daughter was young and I was a single parent. I turned a few very lucrative job offers to stay here to raise her in a safe environment and she was first on my list. I am glad I did it but now, she is grown up and there is no decent work here at all anymore.

[kanonfodr]

I wouldn't want to raise a family anywhere near Baltimore, but would happily do Va Beach . Hang out, if you can afford to.

Peace,
Greg

[agent77]

Glad to hear you like VA Beach. I lived in the VA Beach/Norfolk area for 4 years and couldn't wait to get out. I did however, spend 3 of those 4 years in OceanView.

[deeptubes]

Yeah, I've got a really good spot. The beach is almost too big here. My daughter's going to love having a childhood in this house. She's already got a BFF next door who's only about 6 months older. She'll be going to good schools that were just demo'd and rebuilt in the past year or two. We've got a kind of "social safety net" here with friends and family. I think I've made the right decision.

[Pilgrim]

My wife and I moved from Washington to Texas, spent 13 years there, then moved to Colorado. Kids adjust, especially when they're young.

A lot depends on whether you feel good about the location you'd be moving to. You want your kids to be safe and you want decent schools. If the location would be in a metro area and you're not a metro area guy, think twice. I don't know Baltimore so I don't know whether or not I'd feel good about having a family in that area.

If you're the income generator, you WANT to make the move and the family is OK with it (even if not thrilled - I wouldn't expect them to be) then GO FOR IT. If not, then don't go.

[drummer5359]

I moved to the Baltimore area for a large promotion in 2005. We bought a house in Abingdon, which is about how far away we needed to be out of the city to feel safe. I made good money, loved my job, made some good friends, hated the area.

You live a block from Virginia beach, don't give it up.

Send me a message if you want me to explain.

[jrthebassguy]

Stack ya paper, son.