a little help from the lads?

Techmonkey · #1 06-21-2009, 04:08 PM

so i got dumped a couple of months ago and am still hopelessly in love. was getting over it, seeing new beautiful women, and she just tried to get me on IM and all of a sudden I fell back down to where I was.

deleted her on msn and facebook, luckily got a new phone number which she doesn't know the other day, off to africa for 6 weeks on wednesday and i'm only back here for another 7 weeks before moving to london, so will be able to forget about her.

and i know i won't ever forget completely, but i'll forget enough.

anyway, just wondering if any of the guys have any words of wisdom to help me through? i've been through the worst, i know that things can only look up. have been chatting to a beautiful blonde bassist (a real bassist, not a poser

) who is totally cute and has a great personality, hopefully things will work out with her.

cheers,

mat.

i_got_a_mohawk · #2 06-21-2009, 04:19 PM

Time and other chicks.

Tho I'm going through the same, recently broke up with my gf of ~3.5 years. Thought I was all fine and dandy. Walked past her in the street yesterday, got a hello and feel like being back to square one.

But, I still stand by that time and other chicks will help!

kydnav · #3 06-21-2009, 04:21 PM

Alcohol.

ForestThump · #4 06-21-2009, 04:29 PM

The end of one thing is the beginning of something else.
Just stay busy and don't get into the "blame game".
Get on with life and you'll meet someone else.

Techmonkey · #5 06-21-2009, 04:37 PM

all 3 of the above posts = epic win...

mohawk, sorry to hear - but burgh is full of beautiful women. tis where my ex comes from - hard being in south wales 'coz anyone scottish reminds me of her but hopefully that'll pick up in london.

hope things work out for you mate.

as for the alcohol - 7 cans of gaymers down, 3 to go, and then it's onto the kopparberg. can't wait.

and as for the staying busy, doing my best - got a 6" scar on my knee now from mountainboarding (have taken it up big time), doing my motorbike CBT when i'm back from travelling, started planning the ink that i've always wanted, have taken up skating and cycling again... and have started working on revising anatomy in preparation for (hopefully) starting med school in sept.

pluss have been trying to get my new band a gig supporting sonic boom 6 in august...

lots to get on with!

i_got_a_mohawk · #6 06-21-2009, 04:41 PM

You too mate, I'm sure they will

Wish I had the time to go out chasing tail, tho I will agree, there are plenty of hotties about!

MJ5150 · #7 06-21-2009, 05:32 PM

First suggestion would be to keep yourself busy, but it looks like you got that down.

How long were you together? If it is any length of time, those feelings just won't disappear. There are countless songs about what you are going through and they all touch our emotions because they are so true.

You're going to need time to distance yourself from her. Nothing can speed that up bro.

-Mike

GeneralElectric · #8 06-21-2009, 05:46 PM

The best way to distance yourself from her, is to make her distance herself from you. I dated the same girl since I was 14 years old, and were very much off and on, but we really broke up last March. We got back together again this year for about 3 months, and then I broke up with her again.

During the last time we were together, I ended up cheating on her, and I've never done that before. I realized it was time to call it quits, but I didn't tell her because I didn't want to hurt her feelings.

She's moved on with her life and ended up dating a guy thats almost twice her age, and she seems happy and healthy, which hurt. I felt like I did last year. But she still wanted me back. I told her the truth, so she wouldn't want me anymore and wouldn't want to talk to me.

And while its a painful situation, and one I went through myself, it does help to keep busy. But if you want her to **** off, make her not want to come back. I'm not saying to lie but...

rr5025 · #9 06-21-2009, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by kydnav

Alcohol.

might I add tail

hbarcat · #10 06-21-2009, 06:19 PM

In the words of Sam Kinison:

Just coke out for three weeks straight, don't shave, sell the TV - be a freak*** a- ****.

She'll come up to you after three weeks - crying - saying,
"I have to leave you. [sniff... snifff....] You're not the same man I fell in love with. All you want to do is do drugs and get high."

And she GOES AWAY!!!
She LEAVES!!!
It WORKS!!!
IT'S FLAWLESS!!!!

JNowiski · #11 06-21-2009, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by kydnav

Alcohol.

you gotta be careful with that one. thats what i did and its been a driving force in ending relationships before they start and ones established. most my friends that stuck around are alcoholics or work at bars.

time and distance is the best.

GsmithMusic · #12 06-21-2009, 06:22 PM

Think about something that you thought was significant a few years ago. Now think about how fleeting and meaningless it seems to you now.

When you think back to the "one" relationship, the person you thought you'd end up with, and it's almost a ****ing joke to think about after a few years goes by.

L-A · #13 06-21-2009, 07:09 PM

Most of the time us guys spend a lot of time trying to forget it, while it's a matter of learning to live with it. Then again, it still fades away. But it's of no use to expect it to leave no trace.

It's a flesh wound! It hurts for a while, it sucks when it happens and if you keep walking, you one day realize all that's left is a little scar.

heroincredible · #14 06-22-2009, 11:08 AM

Seems like you're dealing with it well so far. Just keep on doing that.

Just got out of a 6 year relationship on wednesday. It sucks, but I've been keeping myself as busy as possible. Think of this as a chance to reconnect with old friends.