Not so cool

pablomigraine · #1 06-10-2011, 08:14 PM

This is my very first ever personal thread on TB

My Wife left me in January for reasons I'm still in that dark about, and despite my best efforts, I am unable to feel good about anything on a regular basis. My other personal relationships have suffered, my decision making is less than sound, work and band have suffered, and I'm simply unable to cope with anything.

Totally miserable.

May as well say something about it somewhere.

PRW

bassteban · #2 06-10-2011, 08:19 PM

That's gotta suck- no word on why, just *bye*?

hover · #3 06-10-2011, 08:23 PM

All I can say is while it sounds like you still need closure, do not alienate your support group. Do not lose your sense of self in all this either.

nogoodwithnames · #4 06-10-2011, 08:29 PM

Been through this $hiit myself. I was in a funk for months, didn't talk to anyone, slept most of my day away, drank entirely too much when I wasn't sleeping, and generally hated life.

All I can say is take your newly acquired freedom and do anything and everything you had put on hold previously, you can find great new sources of enjoyment. That's how I started playing bass

and get out and meet some new people, life is too short to wallow. Just my experience, good luck to you man!

Linas · #5 06-10-2011, 08:38 PM

I have also been in a similar situation that sent me into a quite serious depression. I engaged in a lot of self destructive behaviors. In my personal situation, it really helped talking it out with people. I even saw a therapist while I was in university and that was included in my tuition (maybe an option for you if you have insurance?). If you want to talk about it more, feel free to PM. Good luck man, its a tough journey, but there is hope at the end. Its good you're at least letting it out here, surprisingly as silly as the OT community is, when it comes to serious stuff, there is a lot of support here.

tastybasslines · #6 06-10-2011, 08:51 PM

I moved out in early May. I'm right there with you buddy. Getting out and doing things and focusing on getting myself healthy is my only goal now. This too shall pass.

tastybasslines · #7 06-10-2011, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by nogoodwithnames

Been through this $hiit myself. I was in a funk for months, didn't talk to anyone, slept most of my day away, drank entirely too much when I wasn't sleeping, and generally hated life.

All I can say is take your newly acquired freedom and do anything and everything you had put on hold previously, you can find great new sources of enjoyment. That's how I started playing bass

and get out and meet some new people, life is too short to wallow. Just my experience, good luck to you man!

Im just breaking out of this...I think I put on 15 pounds in the last 6 weeks alone. I just don't care.

**pacojas** · #8 06-10-2011, 09:05 PM

the moral majority might rip me for this but here goes...

had a similar instance that left me lonely and confused for months. after a pro football game the fellows headed to a strip club. my primative instincts kicked in and i had the time of my life!!!

from that day on i began to rebuild my self-esteem and learned to enjoy being alive. it took a culture shock to light that fire. it may be bungie jumping for you to shake things up. find that inner fear and defeat it and stress and BS take a back seat to having a good life. gl.

MakiSupaStar · #9 06-10-2011, 09:07 PM

Quantity over quality. Go forth and go forth now. Go!

tastybasslines · #10 06-10-2011, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Quantity over quality. Go forth and go forth now. Go!

I'm thinking about going to this "fat acceptance" club. Should be easy pickins...I don't really care how fat they are right now.

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MakiSupaStar · #11 06-10-2011, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by tastybasslines

I'm thinking about going to this "fat acceptance" club. Should be easy pickins...I don't really care how fat they are right now.

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Atta boy! You gotta always remember that a fat chick always beats another night with your hand.

Pilgrim · #12 06-10-2011, 09:19 PM

Best thing for me was to work harder and more hours...good distraction while I put some time behind me.

I wish you the best...it's tough.

Linas · #13 06-10-2011, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Atta boy! You gotta always remember that a fat chick always beats another night with your hand.

shameful truth.

MJ5150 · #14 06-10-2011, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by tastybasslines

I'm thinking about going to this "fat acceptance" club. Should be easy pickins...I don't really care how fat they are right now.

I hope you're a black dude if you're going to go hit that up.

-Mike

tastybasslines · #15 06-10-2011, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by MJ5150

I hope you're a black dude if you're going to go hit that up.

-Mike

Nope, white.

skwee · #16 06-10-2011, 10:49 PM

Well, I'm sorry to hear about it, but I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to mention it amongst online friends. If you don't regularly exercise, I recommend it, especially yoga class. Get the body flowing, and the mind/psyche/heart will follow.

DwaynieAD · #17 06-10-2011, 10:54 PM

been there

it gets better

MJ5150 · #18 06-11-2011, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by tastybasslines

Nope, white.

Best wishes getting a piece of that fatty action. The odds are against you.

-Mike

**JdoubleH** · #19 06-11-2011, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Atta boy! You gotta always remember that a fat chick always beats another night with your hand.

And beauty is only a light switch away.

fourstringdrums · #20 06-11-2011, 01:01 AM

Been there over the last year, and I'm the one who started it all. I told my wife I wanted a separation last June and we were divorced in January. It was all for the best, and she wound up feeling what I was in time, and then proceeded to sleep with my best friend and take the last of my friends after she already got the house and everything else.

But life goes on and gets better in time, and it is for me, and it will for you. I wish you the best and hope you get the answers you seek.