Is it offensive to the people around you if you say you are unhappy with your life?

[funkalicious101]

Just popped into my head today and I didnt know what to make of it.

[Robybass]

If the people around you really loves you, they will try to help.

[Mark Wilson]

Look out \MM/, you've got some competition!

Maybe you're working for the KGB too...

[Chad Michael]

No it's not offensive, most people exchange the typical "how are you - I'm fine" BS ad nauseam.

Sometimes we are in a pickle or quite unhappy for one reason or another. "My brand new Corvette got a barely noticeable scratch at the carwash today" - or - "My dreamgirl broke my heart" - or - "I didn't win the bid on the Pedullofoderadowskywickenbackerzon" - or - "I got laid off today" - or - "My computer sucks because my gaming friends have better ones" "Just found out I have cancer"

I can sympathize with some situations, others.... not so much. But we all have thorns and appreciate when someone lends an ear.

[jomahu]

if they think it's a reflection on them, then yes.

[ROON]

I can't stand it when it comes up like;


"Hi how are you?"

"I'm good thanks, yourself?"

"Horrible, I hate my life"


It just comes across as a cry out for attention, not to mention is shows they don't really care how you are and only asked so they can go on to say how crap they are feeling. I have no problem with people saying they are unhappy with their life, it is good to have someone to talk too. I just hate it when it's done in a 'pay attention to me' manner. The humble "Hey I'm feeling down, got a moment to talk?" is a far more appropriate way to suggest you need to talk, IMO.

[bassplayer666]

watch any of the saw films. yes, some people take extreme offense to people not cherishing life.

[armywalaby]

Originally Posted by bassplayer666

watch any of the saw films. yes, some people take extreme offense to people not cherishing life.

Mmmmm......

Quite an extreme example there, sir.

[Relic]

depends who you are saying it to. "people around you" is a pretty large sweep. If you mean your closest friends or family - no it's not offensive. Since when is "help" an offensive word?
If they truly took offense then they're hearing but obviously not listening.

[unbasslichkeit]

Depends on whether or not they can do anything about it. Many people naturally want to try and make things better and problems for which there seem to be no solutions can frustrate them.

[WickedPissah]

Depends. I say that kind of stuff to my cousin/best friend all the time. She always tries to help me sort it out without being offended.

[cheesemonkey]

Originally Posted by ROON

I can't stand it when it comes up like;


"Hi how are you?"

"I'm good thanks, yourself?"

"Horrible, I hate my life"


It just comes across as a cry out for attention, not to mention is shows they don't really care how you are and only asked so they can go on to say how crap they are feeling. I have no problem with people saying they are unhappy with their life, it is good to have someone to talk too. I just hate it when it's done in a 'pay attention to me' manner. The humble "Hey I'm feeling down, got a moment to talk?" is a far more appropriate way to suggest you need to talk, IMO.

but its much easier to do it that way... besides somepeople who feel like crap doubt themselves and others around them and if they do "Hey I"m feeling down, got a moment to talk?" just feels a bit hard to do... and really thats same about of attention crying just cutting out the middle part.

[BassChuck]

Originally Posted by ROON

"Hi how are you?"

"I'm good thanks, yourself?"

"Horrible, I hate my life"


It just comes across as a cry out for attention,......

yea, and it is a cry for attention, and that might not be appriecated.

Most casual greetings aren't a moment of great information exchange or personal contact. Just a moment of acknowledgement and a pleasant exchange. If someone really needs help there are better ways to express it.

And I do think it can be offensive in some situations, say for instance a social gathering. A comment like "I hate my life" is not only a cry for help but a conversational hi-jacking... and a real mood killer. Again, there are ways that to look for help.

Here's a recent conversation I had:

him: Hi, how's it going with you?

me: Good. How about you?

him: Well... not so good. I just found out my girlfriend is sleeping with her husband again after she promised that she wouldn't do that.
So... I let him vent a little cause he just wanted to talk, but that was not a comfortable conversation. All the time, when he kept asking for advice, I had to hold back from saying, "hey man, the problem is obvious..... start looking." More often that not, people with problems just want to be heard, they don't want answers. Was it offensive? Not really... but I'll think twice before asking again.

[Jeremy Crockett]

This is why "Hello" or "Good afternoon" is an appropriate greeting for most people we encounter throughout our day.

It's silly to ask "How are you" when you have ZERO interest in the person's reply. Let's get back to the basics folks.

[Atoz]

If I am dissatisfied with my life and someone else is offended, that's a problem with him/her, not with me.

[MAJOR METAL]

Originally Posted by Mark Wilson

Look out \MM/, you've got some competition!

Maybe you're working for the KGB too...

My life has been dark since learning Mark Wilson is not attending the GTG.

[cheesemonkey]

Originally Posted by BassChuck

yea, and it is a cry for attention, and that might not be appriecated.

Most casual greetings aren't a moment of great information exchange or personal contact. Just a moment of acknowledgement and a pleasant exchange. If someone really needs help there are better ways to express it.

And I do think it can be offensive in some situations, say for instance a social gathering. A comment like "I hate my life" is not only a cry for help but a conversational hi-jacking... and a real mood killer. Again, there are ways that to look for help.

Here's a recent conversation I had:

him: Hi, how's it going with you?

me: Good. How about you?

him: Well... not so good. I just found out my girlfriend is sleeping with her husband again after she promised that she wouldn't do that.
So... I let him vent a little cause he just wanted to talk, but that was not a comfortable conversation. All the time, when he kept asking for advice, I had to hold back from saying, "hey man, the problem is obvious..... start looking." More often that not, people with problems just want to be heard, they don't want answers. Was it offensive? Not really... but I'll think twice before asking again.

Well here is the thing about asking someone "How's it goin'?" that questions tends to mean "How's it goin'?" well at least thats how i've always understand it. So if it isn't going good you would say "It's going bad" if they asked "How isn't it goin?" and its not goin good then you can say "Good"

[cheesemonkey]

Originally Posted by Atoz

If I am dissatisfied with my life and someone else is offended, that's a problem with him/her, not with me.

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[eedre]

Nobody likes having a Debbie Downer at work.