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08-23-2008, 06:50 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Florida | | | A question for the married guys.
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I've been with mine for about 1.5 years now. Shes brought up the topic of marriage and wanting to have a baby with me & all that spooky type stuff that scares the crap out of me several times.
I like the idea of eventually having a baby with her. I also think she'd make an excellent wife & do want to marry her. (She's done something NO woman has ever asked me to do & that's change a single thing about me, she accepts me 100% for who I am. Not an easy task btw) I just don't wanna rush into anything. Primarily because my last fiance & I didn't work out so well & I think that might be due to prematurely getting engaged, not 100% certain really. But, something in my gut feeling tells me that this gals actually the one, I just don't want to make the same mistake twice, even though shes positive I'm the one.
I guess my question is, How long were you with your girlfriend before you popped the question?
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08-23-2008, 06:54 PM
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We've been married 15 years now.
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08-23-2008, 06:54 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2008 Location: Michigan | | | I'm not married but I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years and we still aren't hitched.
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08-23-2008, 06:56 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2004 Location: Northern Virginia | | | I met my wife 3 years before we were married. Dated for a year and a half and have been married for 8 years now. It's a lot of work, but we're happy and going strong.
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08-23-2008, 07:01 PM
| | Banned | | Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Jacksonville, FL | | | Depends.
If you have a house, a car, and you're settled down. I think you may be ready. |
08-23-2008, 07:15 PM
|  | Total Hyper-Elite Member | | Join Date: May 2000 Location: Groom Lake, NV | | | If you're both over 27 and have good jobs, it might be OK. If you're under 23, forget it.
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08-23-2008, 07:16 PM
| | | | You'll never be "ready." If you wait for that, who knows how long you'll be single. My wife and I grew up in completely different states and never knew each other until we met in college. A year later we were married. 7 years later we are still married and have 5 children. Personally, I do believe there is a such thing as meeting the "one."
BTW, I'm only 26, 27 in Nov.
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08-23-2008, 07:21 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Florida | | Quote:
Originally Posted by Pacman We hooked up in February, and got married in August. But we were friends long before that.
We've been married 15 years now. | I've only known this one 6 or 7 months if that prior to hooking up with her. Quote:
Originally Posted by Munjibunga If you're both over 27 and have good jobs, it might be OK. If you're under 23, forget it. | I'm 38 & she's under 27. I've got a good job, she doesn't have a job. She's going to be enrolling in college as soon as I finish up my bachelors. Hopefully, that'll only take a year or less.
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08-23-2008, 07:30 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: mountains of western va | | | my wife and i knew each other for 3 years dated for 6 months got hitched. if you think she's "the one" man marry her.
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08-23-2008, 07:34 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: an ignore list near you | | | Dated 5, married 7.
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08-23-2008, 07:40 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2007 Location: San Diego, CA | | | I dated my wife for a year, got engaged for about 5 or so months and got married right around the 1.5 year mark. We've been married for just over a year and a half now...
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08-23-2008, 07:44 PM
|  | Jammin for the Lamb! | | Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Chicago - NW Burbs | | | We got engaged after 6 months but got married a year and a half later...we probably would have gotten married sooner, but we were both young and in college.....we got married the weekend AFTER my wife graduated (in hind's site, kind of a bad weekend choice!)....
It has been 21 years now....not all blissful, but, like you, I have a wonderful woman who accepts me "as I am" with ALL of my numerous (numerous, numerous) faults....
I do not always agree with Munji - but he makes sense here.....
On another note, take time after you are married to get to know each other and your habits (things WILL change after you move in with each other) before you have kids (we waited 3 years), BUT (BIG BUT!) DO NOT wait until you think you are "ready" to have kids, because, if you wait until you are "ready", you will never have kids and they are too wonderful and add way to much to a marriage to miss!
Good luck and Peace:
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08-23-2008, 07:58 PM
|  | I have a very tasty head. | | Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NJ | | Quote:
Originally Posted by basspraiser We got engaged after 6 months but got married a year and a half later...we probably would have gotten married sooner, but we were both young and in college.....we got married the weekend AFTER my wife graduated (in hind's site, kind of a bad weekend choice!)....
It has been 21 years now....not all blissful, but, like you, I have a wonderful woman who accepts me "as I am" with ALL of my numerous (numerous, numerous) faults....
I do not always agree with Munji - but he makes sense here.....
On another note, take time after you are married to get to know each other and your habits (things WILL change after you move in with each other) before you have kids (we waited 3 years), BUT (BIG BUT!) DO NOT wait until you think you are "ready" to have kids, because, if you wait until you are "ready", you will never have kids and they are too wonderful and add way to much to a marriage to miss!
Good luck and Peace:
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08-23-2008, 10:33 PM
|  | The Lowdown Diggler | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Huntington Beach, CA | | | dated for a year. Engaged for a year. Been married for almost seven. We have a five year old son. Listen to Munji. |
08-23-2008, 10:37 PM
| | Banned | | Join Date: May 2005 Location: Inland Empire | | Quote:
Originally Posted by cassanova A question for the married guys.
I've been with mine for about 1.5 years now. | 
My wife and I started dating exclusively in 85, got married in 93 and just celebrated 23 years of being together two weeks ago. |
08-23-2008, 11:09 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Georgia | | | It's a serious decision. My wife and I have been married for 12 years. Before that we dated for 4 years. One of those years was an engagement.
It wasn't that I was scared to be married. I wanted to be sure I could take care of my wife and the possibility of a family.
After I purchased the ring I carried it around in my pocket for more than 2 months.
I even went the distance and asked her father for his approval. I expected him to tell me no. For some reason he let it all go through. 12 years later and life is good most of the time. The other times I am willing to place her in a box in front of Wal-Mart with a sign that says "Free to a good (no, make that ANY) home". Today is one of those times.
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08-23-2008, 11:17 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Missoula, MT | | Quote:
Originally Posted by Munjibunga If you're both over 27 and have good jobs, it might be OK. If you're under 23, forget it. | This might be the best post you've ever made here.
My buddy, who is 22, just proposed to his 20 year old girlfriend of 4 years. I just think ... shouldn't you, you know, be out dorm life when you pop the question?
I'm 21, my girlfriend of 4 years is 20. I see myself marrying her but not for a while. 25 at the absolute youngest.
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08-23-2008, 11:23 PM
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EXAR pedals rep for North & Central America | | Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: PDX, OR | | I'm 37, my fiance and I lived together for five years before I asked her. She had been bugging me about it for the last four years.  Eventually I decided I could commit, and once I made the leap it doesn't seem scary anymore. |
08-24-2008, 12:01 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Massachusetts | | Quote:
Originally Posted by cassanova
I'm 38 & she's under 27. I've got a good job, she doesn't have a job. She's going to be enrolling in college as soon as I finish up my bachelors. Hopefully, that'll only take a year or less.
| If I were you, I'll wait untill she finish college.
The biggest reason for divorce is the lack of money, and college is very expensive.
Or at least wait until she get's the college grants.
If you get married before that, then you'll have to pay for her tuition because you have a good job, and she would not be approved for your income.
You pay taxes and you have the right to it, use it.
Experience talking here, I had to pay for not waiting few months more. After that struggle, we are still married 20 years latter.
Only my oppinion. 
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