Random Drunk Old People at Parties
Okay, so my dad retired at 56. He has worked in China, Thailand, Khasackstan, Angola, Russia, Nigeria (we all lived there), Venezuela, and a few places in the USA.
All the people were cool. I knew most of them. All of the sudden this waaaaay drunk couple shows up. I introduce myself and shake this guy's hand. And try to release. He said "is that all you got?" I mentioned that I play bass, so, no, I do not want to get into some silly handshake battle (I don't even know him!).
He won't let go. He says "I'm not done with you boy." Again, never met him. I throw I minor shoulder lock and back off. He then gets into some silly wrestling stance, and says, "oh, so you wanna wrestle?"
I've got 80-90lbs on him, wrestling and judo experience. He goes to me. I push him away, and say "I don't want to rip your rotator cuff old man. Then I back away and rejoin the party.
My brother saw the whole thing. It was just weird. Then he goes on and on about how he's bipolar and stuff. Well, I'm bipolar too, and I don't act that way.
Have any of you had to deal with drunk old people? What should I have done? I didn't hurt him, but he really, really tried to hurt me, and then tried to start some silly wrestling battle.
This is a massive first for me. I didn't want an ambulance to bust up the party. Plus, I would've been called the aggressor, since the dude was way out of his element.
Sorry to vent. I am just bipolar and really on a manic trip now that things are over. He ruined the party. He ruined it for my mom and dad. He probably messed me up for days.
Try not to dwell on it too much. It sounds like you handled it perfectly well.
Sometimes people are just stupid, regardless of age. His being drunk only added to the idiocy.
The fact that both of you walked away relatively unscathed (physically) means that you handled it perfectly well. Don't dwell on it just because he was a douche.
As said, you did good. You had no way of knowing what was to come and handled it well.
I know what you mean, though. I'm 60 and have a friend I've known since I was 20 (he's also 60) and this guy still thinks the parties in full swing. I saw him at a gathering about a month ago and I didn't want to be near him because he was so drunk. But he's been an alcoholic for years and God only know how he's made it this far. But at this gathering he had a lot of moments of being obnoxious. I kept thinking "get the **** away from me."
I don't even want to be around people like that anymore. Advice? The old line "you can't argue with a drunk" is very true.
You did good. It's over with now, move on. Don't dwell on it... that ain't good for ya dude.
Your probably less wound up than if you would have actually fought him.
Its really easy for people to say let it go , I know its not always that easy.
It may help to write it out ,which you are doing.
I think everybody has had a similar experience at one time or another. You handled it well. Think about that . You did good.
If he has issues as you stated he may be suffering mental anguish and is full of regret for his actions and lack of control over his behavior.
You both may be suffering different reactions at the same time.
Forgive the man ,truly forgive him ,you'll feel better
I hope you find some peace and have a wonderful day.
I've actually run into more dumbazz drunk YOUNG people than old. Age doesn't matter. At a certain point they are ALL annoying. You did fine, now you need to chill.
Once, I was at a local bar down the street for Sunday football. I was alone, and there was a group of 4 older men, drinking their asses off. One of them invited me over for a shot of tequila. So I went over there and sat down. After a little while, the guy who invited me flipped and literally went Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde on me. He said, "What did you say to me?" Now, I had said absolutely nothing, zero. His friends told him that I had said nothing, but it was too late by that point, and he was already in full ogre mode. He got up, which then caused me to get up, and half hardheartedly pushed me. His friends asked him, "What are you doing?" He tells me that he is going to kick my ass.
Now, I train in Muay Thai and know how to defend myself so I take a boxing stance. I'm lit too, but I have no intention of hitting him. He is acting the fool. He tries to lunge at me and I step back and he falls down. The barkeep then apologizes to me as he saw the whole thing and asks the man to leave. The whole group of guys grumble at him..."(NAME), you did it again." The whole group of guys are angry that they have to take him home and leave the game. I felt bad for him - I wouldn't want to be like that when I'm older.
There are just some people that look for confrontation - you did the right thing Tool.
he said there used to be a bar south of Nashville called the county line, and older guys used to congregate there and drink and play poker
one of Goose's friends went in there and was invited to sit down in a poker game.
after he won a pot, one of the old guys there turned to him and said..."if i catch you dealing off the bottom of the deck again, i'm going to shoot you"
Goose said his friend just got up and walked away...." i knowed he was going to catch me again...cause i didn't do it the first time"
Haha! That's a smart man, and a good lesson!
Well, since were telling stories, I was doing a job for a couple with disabled husband. He was a cool guy for days, no problem. One day, just before lunch, his b.i.l. shows up with something in a bag. I come back from lunch, he's crocked out of his mind. I tried to work, he's insulting me, telling me he loves me, putting his hands on me, generally acting like an idiot. Ignored him for about 5 minutes. I come from a family of drunks so I know this ain't getting better. I pull out my drop cord and say "hey ! go plug this in for me, okay" ?? As he staggers off and is trying to see the outlet on the wall to plug into, I walked out and went home. His wife called that night apologetic and embarrassed. I told her forget it, I've been on both sides of that fence. I came back the next morning, he sat in the chair and didn't say a word or move a muscle. I know *he* knew what an @$$ he made of himself, not to mention how sick he must have been. That was the end of it. Getting drunk pays back big time, for no extra charge. I know knees elbows and forehead, but choose not to use them. I enjoyed the afternoon off.
I thought I was gonna hear that he electrocuted himself.
next time put him in a Sleeper Hold while you sing a lullaby in the key of "Cm"! :hiding:;)
Haha... thanks for stories. Stayed the night at my parents' place, as I live a couple hours away. Some venting and a good night's sleep did wonders. The bipolar thing will get you more wound up than is necessary some times.
Anyway, it got smoothed over, and everyone I care about is happy and healthy. Turns out the guy also has some psychiatric problems. The worst part is that I found out this morning that HE was the designated driver! Dude was pre-gaming a retirement party lol. Looking back it's more funny than troubling. I should probably ask if they successfully DUI'ed their way home...
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