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12-08-2010, 08:54 AM
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All I could think of when I saw this was how many of us on this forum are so guilty of this. If only my wife knew how much 'treating my GAS' really costs!  http://money.cnn.com/galleries/2010/...ing/index.html
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12-08-2010, 12:39 PM
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Originally Posted by bassalo  | She's got YOU fooled. If only YOU knew how much HER watching QVC really costs.
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12-08-2010, 06:22 PM
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12-09-2010, 12:10 AM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Michigan's U.P. | | I did the secret spender thing on a couple of bicycles...specifically my mountain bike. My wife has access to the online banking as we have joint accounts. So I had the MTB on layaway and only paid about 1/3 of it from that account. She saw the amounts and said, gee that is a pretty expensive bike! If she only knew.... 
It is not that I fear her or have to ask permission, I just get sick of explaining why things like a Giant Trance 2 is "needed" over a 90 dollar K Mart wonder Huffy! Though I didn't hear her question when I bought her the woman's version of my commuter/around bike town for her birthday...
You'd think after 21 years of marriage she'd realize that I am very conscious of the value of the things I purchase vs the price and am really rather frugal with my spending, even if it is an impulse buy, and I do tend to buy things that are good quality and will last.
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12-09-2010, 01:45 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Vancouver, BC, CANADA | | | Ah...shoes. I understand. |
12-09-2010, 03:16 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: QLD, Australia | | | I work in a shop that sells extreme sports gear, particularly watersports gear.
You have no idea how many times I have ordered in a specific colour of kitesurfing kite for someone so that the wife/husband doesn't notice they have traded in for the latest model.
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12-09-2010, 04:44 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Waco, TX | | These things reflect real issues for some of these people. Such as this: Quote: |
I have three kids. They are always needing clothes or shoes and I totally buy them on the sly. When the American Express bill comes, then I get in trouble. I'll use my mother's credit card and give her cash from the groceries. I stash things in the guest bedroom. Christmas is a great time to bring extra gifts and purchases into the house. I can slip purchases in under the tree. Santa always is very generous. But I get why my husband's upset, I definitely over shop.
| Personally I consider this behavior a serious personal and marital issue that will probably eventually also manifest itself in other ways if it hasn't already.
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12-09-2010, 05:53 PM
| | | | "Men don't understand the need for the shoes we already have, let alone the new ones we need to buy."
Maybe this is because I'm a man and I don't understand the need for shoes women already have, let alone the new ones they need to buy, but I cannot fathom a reason why ANYONE would NEED as many shoes as the woman in the picture has, especially if she's trying to save money for things that (I at least consider to be) more important, such as a house.
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12-09-2010, 06:06 PM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: San Diego/LA | | | I've never fought about money in a relationship and never will. My parents never have and they were not loaded, just wise, same with my in-laws. Frankly, I wouldn't have married a person who wasn't financially responsible as it bleeds over into many things. |
12-09-2010, 06:09 PM
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Originally Posted by the article Clint Cantwell: Hides his meat receipts | I bet he does. |
12-09-2010, 06:10 PM
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Originally Posted by 6jase5 I've never fought about money in a relationship and never will. My parents never have and they were not loaded, just wise, same with my in-laws. Frankly, I wouldn't have married a person who wasn't financially responsible as it bleeds over into many things. | It seems like people that don't have much money are less likely to fight over it because they recognize how to prioritize things.
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12-09-2010, 06:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Disraeli Gears "Men don't understand the need for the shoes we already have, let alone the new ones we need to buy."
Maybe this is because I'm a man and I don't understand the need for shoes women already have, let alone the new ones they need to buy, but I cannot fathom a reason why ANYONE would NEED as many shoes as the woman in the picture has, especially if she's trying to save money for things that (I at least consider to be) more important, such as a house. | Have you seen Mariah Carey's shoes?
She has a closet full of them. 
But she can afford a few dozen houses as well. |
12-09-2010, 07:20 PM
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12-09-2010, 07:45 PM
|  | THIS HAND OF MINE GLOWS WITH AN AWESOME POWER! | | Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: USA; Mitchellville, Maryland | | Quote:
Originally Posted by Disraeli Gears "Men don't understand the need for the shoes we already have, let alone the new ones we need to buy."
Maybe this is because I'm a man and I don't understand the need for shoes women already have, let alone the new ones they need to buy, but I cannot fathom a reason why ANYONE would NEED as many shoes as the woman in the picture has, especially if she's trying to save money for things that (I at least consider to be) more important, such as a house. | Pssh.
1) Her "collection" isn't even that big. My brothers is comparable.
2) Her shoes don't even look all that great and, per pair, probably cost a fraction of what my brother and I pay for ours. The funny thing is, girls can get GREAT looking footwear for a fraction of the price that guys can.
I personally, don't see a problem with collections of any kind but I think there should be guidelines or something to distinguish between hoarding and collecting. Collections should be well, neat, well organized, and capable of display to some degree. I could see myself having a collection that size after a few years but that's only if I just stopped spending money on bass gear. And I would definitely wear them all, lol.
I guess I'm actually a secret spender myself though. I don't have any dependents or anyone besides myself that need be concerned with how much money I have but no one besides myself and the price-wary denizens of TB know even roughly how much money I have in gear. If anyone my family knew they'd flip out of sheer surprise (not anger though, luckily, lol).
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12-09-2010, 08:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Kwesi Pssh.
1) Her "collection" isn't even that big. My brothers is comparable.
2) Her shoes don't even look all that great and, per pair, probably cost a fraction of what my brother and I pay for ours. The funny thing is, girls can get GREAT looking footwear for a fraction of the price that guys can.
I personally, don't see a problem with collections of any kind but I think there should be guidelines or something to distinguish between hoarding and collecting. Collections should be well, neat, well organized, and capable of display to some degree. I could see myself having a collection that size after a few years but that's only if I just stopped spending money on bass gear. And I would definitely wear them all, lol.
I guess I'm actually a secret spender myself though. I don't have any dependents or anyone besides myself that need be concerned with how much money I have but no one besides myself and the price-wary denizens of TB know even roughly how much money I have in gear. If anyone my family knew they'd flip out of sheer surprise (not anger though, luckily, lol). | I wasn't taking issue with owning that many shoes so much as I was with the notion of "needing" that many shoes.
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12-09-2010, 08:12 PM
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The point of the story is not about how many shoes you have. You can't be a secret spender if you don't have a significant other with whom you share your finances.
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12-09-2010, 08:59 PM
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Originally Posted by Disraeli Gears I wasn't taking issue with owning that many shoes so much as I was with the notion of "needing" that many shoes. | Ah, ok. I actually don't get that either.
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12-09-2010, 09:27 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: (M)a$$hole. | | | I'd hate to think what that Leslee Kelly chick looked like before her "beauty treatments". *shudder*
Oh, and it's not "mystery" in the marriage, it's deception. idiot.
don't get me started on how stupid that woman looks posing with her shoes on that table. talk about a shallow existence.
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12-10-2010, 06:00 AM
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Originally Posted by DigMe Kwesi,
The point of the story is not about how many shoes you have. You can't be a secret spender if you don't have a significant other with whom you share your finances.
bc | me and the wife do not share our finances.
I find the thought of it very weird, and I have friends who do with there significant others.
we have a joint account that all bills come out of, we have split the bills equaly and we just put the money for them in that account. anything else is all ours. I have no need to secretly spend and we never fight about money.
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12-10-2010, 07:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Jonyak we have a joint account that all bills come out of, we have split the bills equaly and we just put the money for them in that account. anything else is all ours. I have no need to secretly spend and we never fight about money. | I learned that trick when living with a number of friends as flatmates. Less things that are shared, less things to develope an issue about. With my previous girlfriend, we had different bank accounts and went over every grocery bill etc. to divide personal buys from shared stuff, and then refunded each other at the end of the month. Zero fights about finances.
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