So... This has happened.

Radical Edward · #1 07-21-2010, 06:45 PM

I left my boyfriend some time ago and I've begun dating someone else now. He's cute, smart, funny, is amazing with my daughter and likes me for who I am. I couldn't be happier... However, there is a catch. He's a friend of my ex and it's started a LOT of drama. They weren't great friends to begin with and rarely hung out and I don't think I should give up a chance with a great guy just because it's going to piss him ( my ex) off. I gave him 7 chances! Who seriously gets 7 chances? On top of it all with my ex I put up with finding another woman's underwear in our room on 3 occasions, him constantly putting me down, him flirting with his ex's all the time, and telling me what I could and couldn't do constantly. He blew it, not me, imo. I never cheated, was honest with him, cleaned, cooked, gave him everything he wanted and held up a job. Not to say that I'm perfect as we've all made our mistakes.. but here's my question: Was it wrong of me to go for it with this guy that makes me finally feel like I can be myself?

Thanks!

KeithBMI · #2 07-21-2010, 06:49 PM

Well, your problem is obvious...

He's not me.

Radical Edward · #3 07-21-2010, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by KeithBMI

Well, your problem is obvious...

He's not me.

That made me snort a bit. LOL.

David1234 · #4 07-21-2010, 06:56 PM

With respect, it sounds like you might actually be rebounding. You are, after all, thinking about your ex a lot and living for his approval (sort of) and pretty much not over the pain he caused. The worry here is that all three of you can get hurt, mostly the new man - but that's life.

You could say to the ex "I'm sorry if that's hurt your feelings; that wasn't my intent, but please live with the fact that I'm dating Mr Cute now"

TJ55 · #5 07-21-2010, 06:58 PM

Of course I only have your side of the story to draw from, but your ex sounds like a clown to me. I wouldn't worry about what he thinks in the least. If your new guy can handle the relationship like a man, then I say do your thing.

Jim Campbell · #6 07-21-2010, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikaela Ellinger

I left my boyfriend some time ago and I've begun dating someone else now. He's cute, smart, funny, is amazing with my daughter and likes me for who I am. I couldn't be happier... However, there is a catch. He's a friend of my ex and it's started a LOT of drama. They weren't great friends to begin with and rarely hung out and I don't think I should give up a chance with a great guy just because it's going to piss him ( my ex) off. I gave him 7 chances! Who seriously gets 7 chances? On top of it all with my ex I put up with finding another woman's underwear in our room on 3 occasions, him constantly putting me down, him flirting with his ex's all the time, and telling me what I could and couldn't do constantly. He blew it, not me, imo. I never cheated, was honest with him, cleaned, cooked, gave him everything he wanted and held up a job. Not to say that I'm perfect as we've all made our mistakes.. but here's my question: Was it wrong of me to go for it with this guy that makes me finally feel like I can be myself?

Thanks!

it is wrong of you to allow your ex any control over your life.....,and you are giving him that power......as soon as the ex starts with even the most infinitesimal drama ......just say"i've got somewhere else to be"....."i've moved on,so should you".....

all the talk of how good you were to him is feeding him ,not you......

username n/a · #7 07-21-2010, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by KeithBMI

Well, your problem is obvious...

He's not me.

MY VINYL COLLECTION IS BETTER THAN YOURS, Jerk Nozzle!!!@!!1!!

Radical Edward · #8 07-21-2010, 07:02 PM

Thanks for the input, all! And so you all know.. it's a man I've known for 2 years and I'm pretty sure by now I have a good idea of who he is. Lol. I don't think this is rebounding.. I've been sick of my ex for a long time and just put up with his **** out of pity and hope for things to happen that never would.
I'm quite happy now.. but jeeze.. FB drama. Lol. (We have a lot of mutual friends.)

KeithBMI · #9 07-21-2010, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by username n/a

MY VINYL COLLECTION IS BETTER THAN YOURS, Jerk Nozzle!!!@!!1!!

Everyone knows that you are just a wannabe hipster that doesn't even own a turntable. At least I use my vinyl for DJ'ing.

Radical Edward · #10 07-21-2010, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by KeithBMI

Everyone knows that you are just a wannabe hipster that doesn't even own a turntable. At least I use my vinyl for DJ'ing.

Hey now.. STFU!!!!
Lol.

5StringBlues · #11 07-21-2010, 07:07 PM

You really should give Keithbodymassindex a chance.

After all,he has touched boob.

hover · #12 07-21-2010, 07:08 PM

Ugh. did someone say drama?

Stanley Design · #13 07-21-2010, 07:10 PM

It hurts to lose a woman even if it's your own fault. It hurts even more to see that woman happy with your buddy. As much as you are free to do as you please, it might be easier to understand where his emotions are coming from.

Radical Edward · #14 07-21-2010, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by hover

Ugh. did someone say drama?

I did. A few times.

And Stanley, I do.. but he should've thought about that before ****ing some other bit** on our bed, or when he made me lose all of my friends because he was rude as hell to them.. or when he got jealous when I went to visit my daughter. I understand where he comes from, but there's nothing I can do about it, really. His friend is a much better man than he is or probably has ever been. Hopefully he can work on himself and treat his next girl right.

KeithBMI · #15 07-21-2010, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikaela Ellinger

Hey now.. STFU!!!!
Lol.

Holy crap, why are we not friends on Facebook?

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Originally Posted by 5StringBlues

You really should give Keithbodymassindex a chance.

My name is Keith B and I live in Michigan. I will forever be taunted for picking this username.

hover · #16 07-21-2010, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikaela Ellinger

I did. A few times.

Right. And nothin says "Springer" like starting it here. Where's the bald bouncer and the cast of "People of Wal Mart"???

Stanley Design · #17 07-21-2010, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikaela Ellinger

I did. A few times.

And Stanley, I do.. but he should've thought about that before ****ing some other bit** on our bed, or when he made me lose all of my friends because he was rude as hell to them.. or when he got jealous when I went to visit my daughter. I understand where he comes from, but there's nothing I can do about it, really. His friend is a much better man than he is or probably has ever been. Hopefully he can work on himself and treat his next girl right.

Exactly, there's nothing you can do to stop him from the way he's feeling at this point. All you can do is wish him good luck.

Hutzbordello · #18 07-21-2010, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by KeithBMI

Well, your problem is obvious...

He's not me.

gogol fans unite

also...........go lesbian

FL Knifemaker · #19 07-21-2010, 07:17 PM

Well....

If this one doesn't work out, I know a bald, fat knifemaker with nice moobs and a BMW

basstotheface · #20 07-21-2010, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by hover

Right. And nothin says "Springer" like starting it here. Where's the bald bouncer and the cast of "People of Wal Mart"???

With the newly free man?