So my wife decided to leave me...

blendermassacre · #1 10-12-2010, 11:50 PM

because she needs to find herself. We have (had) been together since we were both 18, and we were married at 21 (I'm curently 24. She tells me that she needs to find herself, because she doesn't know who she is, and cannot do that while maintaining our marriage.

I'm moving in with a friend of mine this week, and am going to try to make things work. I don't want this at all, but she is saying that there is nothing I can do or could have done to prevent this situation.

****.

sloasdaylight · #2 10-12-2010, 11:54 PM

Wow, that sucks broheim.

Hate to sound cold, but I hope you signed a pre-nup.

Hope everything works out for you.

blendermassacre · #3 10-12-2010, 11:55 PM

we don't really have two dimes to split, as I'm a student and we both work part time. All of the **** we paid for (couch, big tv, etc) I don't really care about, and our bed can't fit where I'm going.

IconBasser · #4 10-12-2010, 11:57 PM

whoaaa that blows massive chucks, buddy. Sure did come out of the blue. Also, "finding herself" sounds like a bigger pile of poo than you can find walking behind a herd of elephants. I don't mean to pry into your personal life, but I'd definitely try and ask her what her reasons for leaving actually are. If that really is her reason, then she seems like one prone to illogical (and detrimental) flights of fancy, at least from an outsiders perspective, and you might be better off with somebody a bit more stable.

GregC · #5 10-12-2010, 11:57 PM

Oh man! I'm so sorry, my friend. That's terrible. I wish you nothing but the best and hope it all works out. PM me if you want to talk.

bassistkll · #6 10-12-2010, 11:59 PM

If it's any of our business are there any kids involved?

bwv1013 · #7 10-13-2010, 12:00 AM

thoughts are with you friend. here's to better times ahead!

Dr. Cheese · #8 10-13-2010, 12:01 AM

Hey , I only met you once at the GTG, but you strike me as a really nice guy. I sure hope your wife realizes that decent people are not that easy to come by. My prayers and best wishes for you.

sloasdaylight · #9 10-13-2010, 12:01 AM

At least that's good. You got my facebook and I'll be up for the next 30-40 minutes or so if you feel like talking man.

blendermassacre · #10 10-13-2010, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by IconBasser

whoaaa that blows massive chucks, buddy. Sure did come out of the blue. Also, "finding herself" sounds like a bigger pile of poo than you can find walking behind a herd of elephants. I don't mean to pry into your personal life, but I'd definitely try and ask her what her reasons for leaving actually are. If that really is her reason, then she seems like one prone to illogical (and detrimental) flights of fancy, at least from an outsiders perspective, and you might be better off with somebody a bit more stable.

I'm pretty sure that is truly it. She has had a really ****** upbringing, and her parents are continually ******. We got together at a young age, and I think she just needs space to work her **** out.

That being said, it really really sucks.

Thanks Greg. I'm really hoping that some time apart can fix things, but obviously it's not a fool proof plan.

kesslari · #11 10-13-2010, 12:01 AM

I feel for you. Prayers and positive energy for you to find some peace and a good resolution to this.

Deluge Of Sound · #12 10-13-2010, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by bwv1013

thoughts are with you friend. here's to better times ahead!

+1.

blendermassacre · #13 10-13-2010, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by bassistkll

If it's any of our business are there any kids involved?

no kids. we are both agreed on not having kids.

and thanks guys, I really appreciate it.

totallyfrozen · #14 10-13-2010, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Dr. Cheese

...I sure hope your wife realizes that decent people are not that easy to come by. My prayers and best wishes for you.

+1
I'm really sorry this is happening to you. What a SUPER lame deal!

sandmangeck · #15 10-13-2010, 12:10 AM

I'm sorry to hear that sir. Do you think it has anything to do with her losing all the weight? I don't want to come off the wrong way. But I've got a coworker that had the same surgery, and now is getting ansy to leave her husband. Keep yourself busy. It helps.

blendermassacre · #16 10-13-2010, 12:13 AM

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I'm sorry to hear that sir. Do you think it has anything to do with her losing all the weight? I don't want to come off the wrong way. But I've got a coworker that had the same surgery, and now is getting ansy to leave her husband. Keep yourself busy. It helps.

I think in part. Not because of the "look how hot I am" factor but more so because of the "my whole life has changed" factor. Apparently it's VERY common among weight loss surgery patients to get divorced.

TBird1958 · #17 10-13-2010, 12:16 AM

Take good care of yourself, good thoughts to you.

sandmangeck · #18 10-13-2010, 12:16 AM

Right. I'm sorry man. Are you just seperating? Or does she actually want a divorce. I believe she could re-center herself with a seperation.

Skeletomania · #19 10-13-2010, 12:20 AM

To be truthful, there isn't whole lot of people who got married such a young age nowadays will have a forever lasting relationship. More than likely she doesn't want to settle at such a young age, and want to be more "independent."

blendermassacre · #20 10-13-2010, 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by sandmangeck

Right. I'm sorry man. Are you just seperating? Or does she actually want a divorce. I believe she could re-center herself with a seperation.

not too sure right now. I'm kind of just playing it by ear. I'm HOPING that a separation will work things out, and I know divorce is not really a quick process, so all I can do is hope.