So, when did you move in with your SO?

Tsal · #1 02-10-2008, 07:10 PM

I'm interested in the topic, since we are planning to get our stuff together with my current girlfriend, with who I've been together for a year and a half. There are no financial issues involved, we'll have about the same rent in the new apartment with more space than in our single boxes, and we can get the apartment from the same, good area near the Uni, so it's really a just a relationship thing. I haven't lived together with a girl before, so I'm a tad excited and even a bit worried about all this.

I'm sure that many of you have done the move many times, so I'd be curious at which point you decided to move together and if there are stories to be told? I suppose we also get to see if Dis has broken the record around here, what did it take, two months for her?

fenderhutz · #2 02-10-2008, 07:13 PM

I think we were living in sin within 4 months.

Been with her 9 years. Been married for 5.

I can tell you we clicked on a very good level, never had any arguments (and really still haven't).

MakiSupaStar · #3 02-10-2008, 07:26 PM

N E V E R. Hold out as long as you can.

Barfly · #4 02-10-2008, 07:57 PM

When we got married. Till then we just shagged all over the joint. Good times, asti.

IanStephenson · #5 02-11-2008, 02:32 AM

The day we got together.

She had a flat, but she stayed over, and never went back... She stopped paying for her flat after about a month.

(together 8 years, married 3, 2 kids)

Ian

A9X · #6 02-11-2008, 03:19 AM

Never.

DigMe · #7 02-11-2008, 06:41 AM

When we got married.

bc

DigMe · #8 02-11-2008, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by fenderhutz

I can tell you we clicked on a very good level, never had any arguments (and really still haven't).

9 years and you've never had any arguments? Time to start being honest with each other then.

bc

Jared Lash · #9 02-11-2008, 07:15 AM

After the paternity test on Maury Povich.

Oxblood · #10 02-11-2008, 07:23 AM

After 3 years.

5andFretless · #11 02-11-2008, 10:35 AM

Since May 14, 1983.

bassman1185 · #12 02-11-2008, 12:12 PM

We will when we get married this summer.

HollowBassman · #13 02-11-2008, 12:31 PM

Haven't moved in together yet, but maybe after we've been married a couple of years.

fenderhutz · #14 02-11-2008, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by DigMe

9 years and you've never had any arguments? Time to start being honest with each other then.

bc

She's an artist and understands what it's like to have a life and hobbies.

disenchant · #15 02-11-2008, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Tsal

I'm interested in the topic, since we are planning to get our stuff together with my current girlfriend, with who I've been together for a year and a half. There are no financial issues involved, we'll have about the same rent in the new apartment with more space than in our single boxes, and we can get the apartment from the same, good area near the Uni, so it's really a just a relationship thing. I haven't lived together with a girl before, so I'm a tad excited and even a bit worried about all this.

I'm sure that many of you have done the move many times, so I'd be curious at which point you decided to move together and if there are stories to be told? I suppose we also get to see if Dis has broken the record around here, what did it take, two months for her?

LOL, he hasn't moved in yet because my roommate hasn't gotten her big ass out of the way. So it will be six months when he does. But I knew he was The One after about 10 minutes of knowing him.

I lived with my ex-husband for about 2.5 years before we got married. The only thing I'd say is make sure you're on the same timeline as to what moving in means. Are you planning on marrying this girl? Is she planning on marrying you? Is moving in a step toward getting married, or is it a "lets try this and see." It doesn't matter what the reason is for moving in so long as you both agree.

Geoff St. Germaine · #16 02-11-2008, 01:43 PM

My wife and I moved in together after 2 months. We got married a little over a year after that.

KeithBMI · #17 02-11-2008, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Oxblood

After 3 years.

Woah.

Explain?

SuperDuck · #18 02-11-2008, 04:42 PM

After about six years.

Then we lived together for about one year before we got married, which was last October.

Tsal · #19 02-11-2008, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by disenchant

I lived with my ex-husband for about 2.5 years before we got married. The only thing I'd say is make sure you're on the same timeline as to what moving in means. Are you planning on marrying this girl? Is she planning on marrying you? Is moving in a step toward getting married, or is it a "lets try this and see." It doesn't matter what the reason is for moving in so long as you both agree.

I assume you are expecting an answer, so I'll just comment that we are in a good understanding about the matter, and she said she was interested earlier on, but didn't want to open the discussion before I did. I'd say it's a sign of our relationship moving into a somewhat steady phase, if anything. We aren't exactly planning anything, though - even considering anything related to marriage after only a year and a half would be considered moving very fast. I think typical pre-marriage dating time in Finnish culture would be about 5 years. My sister, for example, got quite timely married when she was 27.

Although, I must say that there are exceptions to the rule. I have a friend who was married after two months, but they had known for a couple of years. Also, they both were members of a gospel-related band, which would partially explain the quick resolution.

disenchant · #20 02-11-2008, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Tsal

I assume you are expecting an answer, so I'll just comment that we are in a good understanding about the matter, and she said she was interested earlier on, but didn't want to open the discussion before I did. I'd say it's a sign of our relationship moving into a somewhat steady phase, if anything. We aren't exactly planning anything, though - even considering anything related to marriage after only a year and a half would be considered moving very fast. I think typical pre-marriage dating time in Finnish culture would be about 5 years. My sister, for example, got quite timely married when she was 27.

Although, I must say that there are exceptions to the rule. I have a friend who was married after two months, but they had known for a couple of years. Also, they both were members of a gospel-related band, which would partially explain the quick resolution.

Well it sounds like you're in for smooth sailing! The only times I've seen it go bad when people move in together is when one person sees it as a "step toward marriage" and the other doesn't. So the one person expects things to progress forward while the other is content.

Have a great time!