Stress officially sucks.

J. Crawford · #1 06-10-2009, 09:13 AM

Sorry if this breaks the rules about summer posts, Maki, but at the moment I dont care. This is just a rant thread to get some things off my mind and into words.

1. Some of you may remember my thread about my grandpa breaking his neck, and the possibility of death. He is my best friend, and without him I would have fell apart. I know he will pass, but that time hasnt come. He is still in his neck brace for another 2 months, btu insanity has kicked in and he is breaking the rules, doing things he isnt supposed to do. Its hard to make a 67 year old man listen.

2. My brother fell and broke both wrists, and his nose, with 3 stitches in his nose too. Then today I find out he needs reconstructive surgery in both hands to heal correctly. Im not worried about that, the docs in Pittsburgh are great as I know from experience of my grandpa, as much as the fact that he is the local basketball prodigy, already having scouts at games, and being on every team available. He is 12, if I didnt mention is above. Without ball, scholarships could possibly fall apart.

3. I was elected president of my Junior class, something I wanted forever. But that was before numbers 1 and 2 occurred... Now I have the stress of 1 and 2, along with practically the whole pressure and planning of Junior Class Prom, and fundraising for it.

4. And my girlfriend cheated on me... I know, Im young, but so what? Youngsters have feelings too, guys. 4 months of happy turned into being cheated on sucks, no matter the age.

I know they may not be the worst problems you have read, and maybe you have worse, Im sorry, but putting things into text or words helps. I guess I just have a lot of stress for a 16 year old, and its getting harder by the day.

Sorry if I wasted your time, or if I offended anyone by taking self pity. Kind words are great, but silence is accepted also.

Either way, thank you TB for keeping me sane and giving me a sanctum to let things go and keep my mind off of such challenging things.

Smileys were inappropriate for the post, thus why I included none. But one could sum it up would be, the ever so infamous,

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mkrtu9 · #2 06-10-2009, 09:21 AM

sorry to hear about it.... try and delegate on the prom thing, it will reduce your stress at least a little. good luck

Joe Gress · #3 06-10-2009, 09:31 AM

1. The one thing I have found out in life is that old dog that moved around a bunch before they got hurt will not stop when they get hurt. They keep going. It is much better to see an older person up, moving, active, and passionate than not. If he still has his stubbornness and fire in him, all the better. Encourage him, do things with him, try to keep him from doing seriously stupid things. He will heal, it will just take him longer. But not as long as a person who's will has left.

2. Your brother is 12. He will heal. Don't let him do things that will screw up the healing process though. (this could really affect him later in life if he does not let it heal correctly) Keep his spirits up and encourage him just like your grandpa. The spirit to succeed is what drives pretty much all of us. But we need reminders every once in a while.

3. A position in leadership always brings on stress and trouble. Make yourself goals and work on them one at a time. And remember, your the president, you can ask people to help you. The weight of the world is not on your shoulders, only the weight when stuff goes wrong. Find help to make sure stuff does not go wrong.

4. Dump her. I hate to say this, but she is not for you. Move on and keep looking. There are lot's of fish in the sea out there, including ones that are better for you.

MakiSupaStar · #4 06-10-2009, 09:37 AM

Exercise. It puts stress into perspective.

J. Crawford · #5 06-10-2009, 09:37 AM

Thanks guys, and Joe, thank you for taking time to respond like you did. I know my problems arent terrible, they could be worse, but stress can realy dig into a 16 year old.

And Maki, I actually started back on my workout regime the other day just to take some strsss out. Thats where Im headed in about 30 minutes.

Joe Gress · #6 06-10-2009, 09:39 AM

Oh yeah, and like maki said:

Exercise is your best bet for putting stress on the back burner. Clear your mind and take one problem at a time. Don't let it get to you.

J. Crawford · #7 06-10-2009, 09:46 AM

Leaving in a bit to break da schweaty balls, or exercise in non-SNL lingo.

9mmMike · #8 06-10-2009, 09:50 AM

As you make your list, realize that there are some things you can do something about and some you cannot. Focus your time and effort on what you can affect.
You are too young for stress. It will stunt your growth or some such thing for sure. LOL

J. Crawford · #9 06-10-2009, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by 9mmMike

As you make your list, realize that there are some things you can do something about and some you cannot. Focus your time and effort on what you can affect.
You are too young for stress. It will stunt your growth or some such thing for sure. LOL

Well, Im already 6'3" so Im not worried about my growth.

Stickk · #10 06-10-2009, 10:07 AM

I know just how you feel man. My dad lost his job and my girlfriend cheated on me (with one of my friends). But I just keep trying to look forward, maybe it'll all get better sophomore year.

Stickk · #11 06-10-2009, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Jordasch

Leaving in a bit to break da schweaty balls, or exercise in non-SNL lingo.

"But the thing that I most like to bring out this time of year are my balls."

Just tryin' to cheer ya up!

tplyons · #12 06-10-2009, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by 9mmMike

As you make your list, realize that there are some things you can do something about and some you cannot. Focus your time and effort on what you can affect.
You are too young for stress. It will stunt your growth or some such thing for sure. LOL

This is some great advice... don't sweat what you can't impact. Yeah, your brother needs surgery, nothing you can do but send him good vibes, right? Just focus on what you have control over, dump your cheating girlfriend, and the only thing you have on your plate is the prom. Guess what, enlist some help.

Stress is part of life... it used to get me down and now, I thrive on it. Sure, getting out and running a mile or two really helps me when it gets bad, but otherwise, stress forces me to prioritize.

I understand that with you family comes first, as it should. However, you can't be stressing about those two people... express your feelings if need be, but people don't change unless THEY want to change. Get in, say what you need to say, and cross your fingers, but don't stress about it.

Get out there, start running, start enlisting help for the prom, and dump the girl. In a few months time, you'll look back on this time and realize that you're better off for having experienced all this.

EricF · #13 06-10-2009, 10:36 AM

The fact that you have a handle on what is causing your stress is a good start. Also, these are all temporary things. Your grandpa and brother will heal, prom will pass, and you'll find a hotter girl that digs you for real. Find time to exercise, find time to laugh, do what you can about the rest, but you are not responsible for holding the world together. Take it one day at a time, if you have to.

J. Crawford · #14 06-10-2009, 11:08 AM

Thanks guys, it means a lot.

And Stickk, thanks for the Schweaty Balls picture. I knew it would come into play once you popped into the thread. Plus, youre too young to stress your Sophomore!

BillyRay · #15 06-10-2009, 11:32 AM

Regarding the gf thing, "Put it in her ..." and then dump her. I'll let you finish the age-old saying (hint: the final word start with the letter between O and Q). It sucks, but at least it happened now, 4 months into, instead of in 3 years, when you are living togheter.

I'll also second the exercise suggestion. It's been a logn time since I've been able to exercise properly because of injuries, and I notice that stress is much more prevalent in my life right now.

Stickk · #16 06-10-2009, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Jordasch

Plus, youre too young to stress your Sophomore!

Yeah, I guess the 1 year age difference makes all of the difference.

J. Crawford · #17 06-10-2009, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Stickk

Yeah, I guess the 1 year age difference makes all of the difference.

It does when it comes to legality, drinking, and driver's license, so yes, it does!

And Billy Ray, you definitely put a spin on the gf thing.

Georynn · #18 06-10-2009, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Jordasch

Sorry if this breaks the rules about summer posts, Maki, but at the moment I dont care. This is just a rant thread to get some things off my mind and into words.

1. Some of you may remember my thread about my grandpa breaking his neck, and the possibility of death. He is my best friend, and without him I would have fell apart. I know he will pass, but that time hasnt come. He is still in his neck brace for another 2 months, btu insanity has kicked in and he is breaking the rules, doing things he isnt supposed to do. Its hard to make a 67 year old man listen.

2. My brother fell and broke both wrists, and his nose, with 3 stitches in his nose too. Then today I find out he needs reconstructive surgery in both hands to heal correctly. Im not worried about that, the docs in Pittsburgh are great as I know from experience of my grandpa, as much as the fact that he is the local basketball prodigy, already having scouts at games, and being on every team available. He is 12, if I didnt mention is above. Without ball, scholarships could possibly fall apart.

3. I was elected president of my Junior class, something I wanted forever. But that was before numbers 1 and 2 occurred... Now I have the stress of 1 and 2, along with practically the whole pressure and planning of Junior Class Prom, and fundraising for it.

4. And my girlfriend cheated on me... I know, Im young, but so what? Youngsters have feelings too, guys. 4 months of happy turned into being cheated on sucks, no matter the age.

I know they may not be the worst problems you have read, and maybe you have worse, Im sorry, but putting things into text or words helps. I guess I just have a lot of stress for a 16 year old, and its getting harder by the day.

Sorry if I wasted your time, or if I offended anyone by taking self pity. Kind words are great, but silence is accepted also.

Either way, thank you TB for keeping me sane and giving me a sanctum to let things go and keep my mind off of such challenging things.

Smileys were inappropriate for the post, thus why I included none. But one could sum it up would be, the ever so infamous,

, or

.

As for #'s 1,2,and 3 these are things that came to pass outside of your control, when you struggle to control that which is beyond your control, it will make you crazy and frustrated. Try to relax... Things have a way of working themselves out sometime.

As for #4, you don't truly become a Man until some girl rips your heart out, and puts it on display...

Things will get better... Stressing out about it wont make it any better,

Stickk · #19 06-10-2009, 01:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jordasch

It does when it comes to legality, drinking, and driver's license, so yes, it does!

It sucks having a late birthday.

i_got_a_mohawk · #20 06-10-2009, 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jordasch

Sorry if this breaks the rules about summer posts, Maki, but at the moment I dont care. This is just a rant thread to get some things off my mind and into words.

1. Some of you may remember my thread about my grandpa breaking his neck, and the possibility of death. He is my best friend, and without him I would have fell apart. I know he will pass, but that time hasnt come. He is still in his neck brace for another 2 months, btu insanity has kicked in and he is breaking the rules, doing things he isnt supposed to do. Its hard to make a 67 year old man listen.

2. My brother fell and broke both wrists, and his nose, with 3 stitches in his nose too. Then today I find out he needs reconstructive surgery in both hands to heal correctly. Im not worried about that, the docs in Pittsburgh are great as I know from experience of my grandpa, as much as the fact that he is the local basketball prodigy, already having scouts at games, and being on every team available. He is 12, if I didnt mention is above. Without ball, scholarships could possibly fall apart.

3. I was elected president of my Junior class, something I wanted forever. But that was before numbers 1 and 2 occurred... Now I have the stress of 1 and 2, along with practically the whole pressure and planning of Junior Class Prom, and fundraising for it.

4. And my girlfriend cheated on me... I know, Im young, but so what? Youngsters have feelings too, guys. 4 months of happy turned into being cheated on sucks, no matter the age.

I know they may not be the worst problems you have read, and maybe you have worse, Im sorry, but putting things into text or words helps. I guess I just have a lot of stress for a 16 year old, and its getting harder by the day.

Sorry if I wasted your time, or if I offended anyone by taking self pity. Kind words are great, but silence is accepted also.

Either way, thank you TB for keeping me sane and giving me a sanctum to let things go and keep my mind off of such challenging things.

Smileys were inappropriate for the post, thus why I included none. But one could sum it up would be, the ever so infamous,

, or

.

I have to +1 Maki's comment about excersise. It allows you to free your mind, at least for a short period.

1) I hope your grandfather makes a full recovery. Regarding breaking rules, have you tried approaching him and telling him how much you want to see him recover etc?

2) Sports is only one way to get scholarships etc. With good surgeory and a strict and well maintained course of physiotherapy during his recovery I am sure he will come through ok. He is still young and at that age you are dynamic and adapt to change quickly. I can understand the concern, but try and keep up a happy side, try and be the bigger brother there. May not seem like it at times, but I bet he looks up to you. And if you keep a positive attitude im sure it will help him immensly.

3) Do your best. If it is prooving too much for you, I'm sure the faculty staff will understand and either help you more or allow you to pass the torch.

4) It happens a lot sadly. On the brighter side, you only had 4 months together when it happened. And a clear time to cut the cord. Similar happening here, but after almost 4 years. Cut it, move on.

Also, confide in your parents. If need be talk to a guidance counciler at the school. It sometimes helps a lot just to get it off your chest.