Turn offs on a first date

[Tat2dHeart]

Originally Posted by SBsoundguy

I would never even bother ordering fish at a restaurant if that was the case. It sounds too risky to me.

There are certain types of restaurants that I never even go into because the risk of cross-contamination is too big - like sushi places. I have to be careful in any place that serves shellfish and mushrooms. Even putting my steak on the same place on the grill that shellfish has been cooked is enough to make my face go numb for a few hours.

Having an allergy to specific foods is no reason to stop going out in public and eating at restaurants when good communication with the staff will allow me to have just as much enjoyment in the experience as any other diner. I see no reason to suck the fun out of my life over an allergy.

Here's how I see it....we've established that we have differing opinions on this. So - as long as you never invite me on a date that has a meal component and I never ask you to cook for me, we should be totally okay to see each other. What time are you picking me up on Saturday?

[NML1986]

When you are desperate, nothing is a turn off.

[will33]

Originally Posted by hover

C'mon, it's not luvin, it's ba ba bah baah baaaaaah, luvin. And nothin says luvin like a McChicken wedged into a McDouble (aka MCGangBang)

I guess at least you don't have to tip. Means more beer money....that's a plus.

[pocketgroove]

Being picky or specific is fine by me (I'm a very strict vegetarian), so long as there's not an air, of condescension or an attitude accompanying it. Always be gracious and polite to the servers, and it shouldn't even be a problem.

I went out on a first date with a nice enough young man, with the pre-communicated understanding that I was a vegetarian. The food situation went fine...however, then came conversation. When he started talking about hunting, bragging about the buck he killed, and telling me about his buddy who shoots small animals (squirrels, birds, stray cats...) in his backyard...well, that part didn't go so well. Who does that?

[Tat2dHeart]

Originally Posted by pocketgroove

...well, that part didn't go so well. Who does that?

People who do not want to go on a second date, but are too scared to tell you to your face that they're just not that into you.

[MAJOR METAL]

Is inquiring about someones HIV status being too intrusive on a first date?

[Eric Perry]

Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

Is inquiring about someones HIV status being too intrusive on a first date?

"Hi. I'm Kevin. Nice to finally meet you. Now, tell me... You don't have the AIDS, do you?"

[MAJOR METAL]

Originally Posted by Eric Perry

"Hi. I'm Kevin. Nice to finally meet you. Now, tell me... You don't have the AIDS, do you?"

The therapeutic delivery works every time!

[MatticusMania]

Originally Posted by hover

(aka MCGangBang)

Now we're talking my idea of a first date...

Originally Posted by JamesGoodall

The casual use of any illicit substances besides marijuana.

I wont go out with a girl who doesnt smoke marijuana casually. And I prefer they at least be okay with my use of psychedelics. Theyre free to join me in space if they please.

Originally Posted by Tat2dHeart

Even putting my steak on the same place on the grill that shellfish has been cooked is enough to make my face go numb for a few hours.

Depending on what kind of date it is, that could be a good thing.

[Eric Perry]

Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

The therapeutic delivery works every time!

[Eric Perry]

Originally Posted by MatticusMania

....Depending on what kind of date it is, that could be a good thing.

Congratulations! You just won one free interwebz! Hahaha!

[hdracer]

Originally Posted by Tat2dHeart

. I have food allergies and I've always thought that the flashing red lights and sirens on the ambulance, the gasping for air, the spinning of my surroundings before the total blackness, and all the accoutrements of the emergency room were a far harsher buzzkill than my being very specific about how to handle my fish in the kitchen so it doesn't get cross-contaminated by your crab-crusted lobster.

Have we dated?

I have had dates have allergic reactions to food but the most embarrassing was the time 5 minutes after being seated (Ruth's Chris) my lovely date goes into a epileptic seizure. After knocking everything off the table and falling out of her chair a doctor that was there having dinner jumped in to help her. After they loaded her on the ambulance I paid for the drinks (they didn't even get to us) and flipped the waiter a 20 I left and ate at Famous Dave's had some BBQ and listened to some blues.

[pocketgroove]

Originally Posted by Tat2dHeart

People who do not want to go on a second date, but are too scared to tell you to your face that they're just not that into you.

I think he was just clueless...I actually had the hardest time getting rid of him afterwards.

[Tat2dHeart]

Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

Is inquiring about someones HIV status being too intrusive on a first date?

Not if it's a dealbreaker. I tend to prefer that dealbreaker questions get asked before or on a first date to limit wasting time. There is, of course, a good way to ask and a not so good way to ask.

Originally Posted by MatticusMania

Depending on what kind of date it is, that could be a good thing.

Hahaha! I knew I could count on you to chime in. Just waiting on one more TBOTer's two cents worth.

Originally Posted by hdracer

Have we dated?

I have had dates have allergic reactions to food but the most embarrassing was the time 5 minutes after being seated (Ruth's Chris) my lovely date goes into a epileptic seizure. After knocking everything off the table and falling out of her chair a doctor that was there having dinner jumped in to help her. After they loaded her on the ambulance I paid for the drinks (they didn't even get to us) and flipped the waiter a 20 I left and ate at Famous Dave's had some BBQ and listened to some blues.

I don't think so. I've never dated anyone from MN. But we could have skipped the expensive steakhouse and just gone straight for BBQ and blues. I'm way more low-key than that.

Originally Posted by pocketgroove

I think he was just clueless...I actually had the hardest time getting rid of him afterwards.

Egad.

[Silver Blues]

Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

Is inquiring about someones HIV status being too intrusive on a first date?

...You are HIV... Aladeen.



The day I went to see that was not the high point of my month.

--Silvie

[hdracer]

Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

Is inquiring about someones HIV status being too intrusive on a first date?

Unless you are planning on having unprotected sex with them that night I think it would be a little to forward.

[JamesGoodall]

Originally Posted by hdracer

Unless you are planning on having unprotected sex with them that night I think it would be a little to forward.

So that's a yes...?

[Jim Nazium]

Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

Is inquiring about someones HIV status being too intrusive on a first date?

My first thought was "Hell yes it is, he must be kidding." But on second thought, I don't think it has to be. Let's face it, gay men are a high risk population, and it's something you are going to want to know. I think it could be handled politely and appropriately.

[Gopherbassist]

Originally Posted by matante

You're the third or fourth guy who has mentioned make-up and hair color. I'm a bit shocked by it. Are you guys hippies or something?

No. Dyed hair looks ugly.

Originally Posted by matante

That goes without saying. We all want a woman who is a "10" with no make-up on. Still, no matter how beautiful they are, most women enjoy coloring their hair and wearing make-up. It's a basic feminine trait. To hold that against them doesn't make sense.

Actually, it does. You don't want to live with or spend large amounts of time with someone that does things that you find unpleasant. Some times, the little things count the most.

[hdracer]

Originally Posted by Gopherbassist

No. Dyed hair looks ugly.

You mean to tell me that you don't know any woman that colored their hair?

I don't know any that don't.