I'm sorry for your loss(es).
I'm glad you're realizing that people aren't bulletproof, and actions have consequences - even if your friends haven't come to these conclusions yet.
I don't know the details and don't need to, but sometimes I look at stuff and wonder what it will take for people to Just. Figure. It. Out. Or maybe I'm just an old fuddy-duddy and have no idea what younger people go through these days.
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