Valentines Day...yes or no?

[casualmadness]

I for one refuse to acknowledge V-day. I belive it to be a bull s_ _ _ "holiday" and therefore I refuse to only pick one day to tell/show my SO how I feel about her. In my entire life, I've acknowledged it one time. That was for my ex wife, while we were still dating. I felt dirty for doing so...but I caved.
My current g/f seemed a little let down when I explained my feeligns about V-day. But I did tell her that since we will be together we should make dinner together andmaybe buy a bottle of wine and have a nice romantic dinner at home. No cards and flowers and crap...just us at home enjoying the company of each other.
Do you do V-day?

[Mark Latimour]

Originally Posted by casualmadness

I for one refuse to acknowledge V-day. I belive it to be a bull s_ _ _ "holiday" and therefore I refuse to only pick one day to tell/show my SO how I feel about her. In my entire life, I've acknowledged it one time. That was for my ex wife, while we were still dating. I felt dirty for doing so...but I caved.
My current g/f seemed a little let down when I explained my feeligns about V-day. But I did tell her that since we will be together we should make dinner together andmaybe buy a bottle of wine and have a nice romantic dinner at home. No cards and flowers and crap...just us at home enjoying the company of each other.
Do you do V-day?

Wow, so I guess you will be single in the next couple of weeks.

[casualmadness]

Originally Posted by Mark Latimour

Wow, so I guess you will be single in the next couple of weeks.

No. If you will go back and actually read my thread you will see that I explained that my g/f and I will be together on V-day. We are planning to make dinner together and open a bottle of wine and spend our time focusing on just being together as oppossed to candy, flowers, cards, etc.

[CincyBassMan]

Dude, she's disapointed in you! Surprise her with chocolates! Chicks LOVE chocolates! My wife and I are going on 15yrs together (both our 2nd time around). If I don't bring her chocolates on Vday, I'm Toast!

Anyway, it's not about you. It's about them...

Russ

[Flabby1]

making dinner together, and getting a nice bottle of wine. sounds like ur celebrating v-day to me.

i'll be eating some delicious bbq and my wife will love her flowers

[mjolnir]

I'm with you, casualmadness. I've got no problem spending time with my girl and giving her gifts and surprising her with stuff, but I find it very odd that people actually need a specific day to give them an excuse to do all that.

THAT'S WHAT YER SUPPOSED TO DO ALL THE DAMN TIME.

[casualmadness]

Originally Posted by Flabby1

making dinner together, and getting a nice bottle of wine. sounds like ur celebrating v-day to me.

Yep. My point was, I don't need overpriced crap to show my g/f how much she means to em and in all honesty; I think spending time making dinner with her and sitting down to a nice dinner together that we made is much more romantic than shoving some overpriced chocolates in her face that took you all of 3 minutes to pick out. Just my $.02 though...

[MakiSupaStar]

Originally Posted by CincyBassMan

Dude, she's disapointed in you! Surprise her with chocolates! Chicks LOVE chocolates! My wife and I are going on 15yrs together (both our 2nd time around). If I don't bring her chocolates on Vday, I'm Toast!

Anyway, it's not about you. It's about them...

Russ

Whatever you do, DON'T BUY HER CHOCOLATES!

It's telling her that you're ok with her letting her @$$ grow.

[casualmadness]

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Whatever you do, DON'T BUY HER CHOCOLATES!

It's telling her that you're ok with her letting her @$$ grow.

You sir, are truly wise

[MakiSupaStar]

Originally Posted by casualmadness

You sir, are truly wise

Give her a DIAB. If she doesn't like it tell her she can choke on it.

[Bryan316]

I DON'T BELIEVE IN LOVE
I NEVER HAVE I NEVER WILL

[PSPookie]

Originally Posted by CincyBassMan

Anyway, it's not about you. It's about them...

No, it's not. The last time I checked, it was supposed to be about romance and love. That means it's for both people.

I have been fighting the Valentines Day = Kiss Your Woman's Butt Day misconception for years.

[casualmadness]

Originally Posted by PSPookie

No, it's not. The last time I checked, it was supposed to be about romance and love. That means it's for both people.

I have been fighting the Valentines Day = Kiss Your Woman's Butt Day misconception for years.

Another fighter for the man team!

[CincyBassMan]

Whatever

[disenchant]

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Give her a DIAB. If she doesn't like it tell her she can choke on it.

I got a DIAB for Xmas. I loved it! Good gift, all you need is a box and some scissors!

Being in a relationship is about treating the other person the way they would like to be treated. So what if you think Valentine's Day is silly, or you should treat your woman like that every day? The point is, Valentine's Day exists, and a woman should be treated like she wants to be treated on that day (and vice versa). If she originates that it's not important to her, then great. But if it is, you're disappointing your woman--no matter how silly YOU think it is. And you telling her not to be disappointed just invalidates her feelings. There's nothing worse than having your SO make your feelings unimportant. Plus, the reward will be your SO's face when you present her with flowers or a special gift or a nice dinner. Or a DIAB.

Personally, I could take or leave Valentine's Day. But I like feeling important on my birthday, and it hurt like hell when my ex-husband didn't get me ANYTHING on my birthday (not even a card!) because he thought birthdays were unimportant past the age of 5.

[pointbass]

Originally Posted by disenchant

Being in a relationship is about treating the other person the way they would like to be treated. So what if you think Valentine's Day is silly, or you should treat your woman like that every day? The point is, Valentine's Day exists, and a woman should be treated like she wants to be treated on that day (and vice versa). If she originates that it's not important to her, then great. But if it is, you're disappointing your woman--no matter how silly YOU think it is. And you telling her not to be disappointed just invalidates her feelings. There's nothing worse than having your SO make your feelings unimportant. Plus, the reward will be your SO's face when you present her with flowers or a special gift or a nice dinner. Or a DIAB.

Exactly, 1000% correct .....

[casualmadness]

Originally Posted by disenchant

I got a DIAB for Xmas. I loved it! Good gift, all you need is a box and some scissors!

Being in a relationship is about treating the other person the way they would like to be treated. So what if you think Valentine's Day is silly, or you should treat your woman like that every day? The point is, Valentine's Day exists, and a woman should be treated like she wants to be treated on that day (and vice versa). If she originates that it's not important to her, then great. But if it is, you're disappointing your woman--no matter how silly YOU think it is. And you telling her not to be disappointed just invalidates her feelings. There's nothing worse than having your SO make your feelings unimportant. Plus, the reward will be your SO's face when you present her with flowers or a special gift or a nice dinner. Or a DIAB.

Personally, I could take or leave Valentine's Day. But I like feeling important on my birthday, and it hurt like hell when my ex-husband didn't get me ANYTHING on my birthday (not even a card!) because he thought birthdays were unimportant past the age of 5.

I agre 100%. However, don't you think that making a nice dinner together and spending time alone together (not in front of the teleivison) is a good V-day? My point to all of this is that I don't subscribe to the go out and buy a bunch of crap theory. I guess I was midleading to say that I don't recognize V-day. I just don't participate in the mass purchasing of overpriced crap. I have plans for us. But they don't involve rushing to the stores with the other drones and paying outrageous prices for crap.
I'll be honest in saying that if my g/f needs a card or flowers on V-day to feel appreciated then she isn't the one for me. I will still do something for us because it is about us and why we are together. I just don't belive that the standard candy and flowers is required. And in all honesty; I think the standard gifts on the same day every year would make it less special to most women. Just my opinion though.

[disenchant]

Originally Posted by casualmadness

I agre 100%. However, don't you think that making a nice dinner together and spending time alone together (not in front of the teleivison) is a good V-day? My point to all of this is that I don't subscribe to the go out and buy a bunch of crap theory. I guess I was midleading to say that I don't recognize V-day. I just don't participate in the mass purchasing of overpriced crap. I have plans for us. But they don't involve rushing to the stores with the other drones and paying outrageous prices for crap.
I'll be honest in saying that if my g/f needs a card or flowers on V-day to feel appreciated then she isn't the one for me. I will still do something for us because it is about us and why we are together. I just don't belive that the standard candy and flowers is required. And in all honesty; I think the standard gifts on the same day every year would make it less special to most women. Just my opinion though.

I guess the answer to that is I would think a nice dinner and spending time together would be a good Valentine's Day--but it doesn't matter what I think since you aren't dating me. What does your girlfriend think? And does what she think about Valentine's Day clash so much with what you think that it's a deal breaker?

Sure, there are girls out there who expect diamonds or a giant stuffed gorilla for Valentine's Day. And maybe that's why those girls are still single!

If your GF seemed disappointed that you aren't into giving gifts on the holiday, then she's prolly one of those girls who wants a little gift. C'mon, what person SERIOUSLY doesn't like getting gifts? Plus you could get something you'll both love...like massage oil or a bottle of wine. The best Valentine's Day gift I ever got was flowers and the new (at the time) Van Halen CD.

[jsbass]

Originally Posted by casualmadness

I for one refuse to acknowledge V-day. I belive it to be a bull s_ _ _ "holiday" and therefore I refuse to only pick one day to tell/show my SO how I feel about her. In my entire life, I've acknowledged it one time. That was for my ex wife, while we were still dating. I felt dirty for doing so...but I caved.
My current g/f seemed a little let down when I explained my feeligns about V-day. But I did tell her that since we will be together we should make dinner together andmaybe buy a bottle of wine and have a nice romantic dinner at home. No cards and flowers and crap...just us at home enjoying the company of each other.
Do you do V-day?

Nope. I share the same ideology as you on that one.

[casualmadness]

Originally Posted by disenchant

I guess the answer to that is I would think a nice dinner and spending time together would be a good Valentine's Day--but it doesn't matter what I think since you aren't dating me. What does your girlfriend think? And does what she think about Valentine's Day clash so much with what you think that it's a deal breaker?

Sure, there are girls out there who expect diamonds or a giant stuffed gorilla for Valentine's Day. And maybe that's why those girls are still single!

If your GF seemed disappointed that you aren't into giving gifts on the holiday, then she's prolly one of those girls who wants a little gift. C'mon, what person SERIOUSLY doesn't like getting gifts? Plus you could get something you'll both love...like massage oil or a bottle of wine. The best Valentine's Day gift I ever got was flowers and the new (at the time) Van Halen CD.

Well, my g/f and I will be celebrating our first V-day together this year. We had the convo about it a few days ago. She went out of her way to tell me that she wasn't expecting a gift or a card or anything. I then decided it was a good time to explain my thoughts on Vday to her. She did seem a little disappointed. Maybe I misinterpreted her reaction. That's possible. But then she said that her ex always bought her a dozen roses, every year on Vday. She said that kinda killed it for her because it was standard issue for him and thats all he ever did. Nothing else for the rest of the year. So I then explained that my ex wife and I would usually make dinner at home and maybe open a bottle of wine...maybe a massage, candles, etc. A night of no television, no reading, no alone time: a night of spending time together remembering why we were together. And that's my plan for my g/f and I. I won't buy her a card. I won't buy her flowers. I will wear very nice clothes and I will cook and light candles and try my best to be funny, charming, and interesting. I think that spending a night like that will be much better than if I brought her some flowers and then turned the television on and treated the night as busines as usual.