Well, this sucks..

[Radical Edward]

I may hafta sell my bass and amp. I'm pretty heart broken about it. Long story short, I quit my job because I had money saved up to provide some relief until I could find a part-time job because my work schedule went from 40 hours to 60 in a hurry and was cutting into the time that I not only want to, but legally have to spend with my kid. I wasn't getting any sleep, because I was constantly trying to find time to spend with her and it was a 3rd shift job, and I ended up getting some bleeding ulcers, my hair started falling out, etc, etc.. on top of the fact that certain aspects of my job affected my PTSD and I was having serious break-downs at work.
So,.. I quit. Well, my boyfriend makes good money and him and I were renting a bedroom from his mom to try to save up for a house so my kid could have her own room, and to also help out his mom with her bills. We were paying $300 a month for one room.
When I quit, my boyfriend was off running some errands and had the car so I called her to get me. It wasn't exactly a planned thing, but I had another break-down at work and my boss was yelling at me, and I panicked. I know.. I messed up. Stupid move.
Anyway, she picks me up an hour later and goes on to tell me how I'm not good enough for her son and how I'm not welcome in her house because I quit and she doesn't even give me a chance to get my stuff and drops me off at my moms'.
The most messed up part of this is that we spent a lot of our taxes to fix up her dog, because she couldn't afford the vet bills and was very attached to it... so we didn't have a lot left. Then the car startd having issues and we had to fix that..
Ended up spending what I had left on a hotel for a few nights because my mom didn't have room and I had nowhere to go.

Annyyyway.... A friend of mine is the hiring manager at a fast food joint and says for me to stop by tomorrow and I'll have a job, but in the mean-time I'm pretty much couch hopping and I gotta find a place ASAP... so, I'm probably going to have to sell my bass and amp, because though my boyfriend makes good money, he got sent home twice from work for machines breaking down this week and they're scheduling more maintenence and we're strapped for cash. I'm heart-broken and sick of all of this. I try to help people out, and this seems to be what happens.. Isn't doing anything for my health, either. I've been sick as a dog.
Okay, so this wasn't really a short sory, but I'm considerably upset about all of this. I tried to do the right thing here. I saved money, I researched places, had it all planned out and then this happens..

[SamanthaCay]

My honest opinion here is that you need to stop worrying about helping others for awhile and learn to help yourself.
If you can’t do that and be independent of others you’re not helping anyone.
And for the love of god don’t date guys who live with their mom!
In fact going back to that whole independence thing, don’t date anyone, if you don’t have your s&%^ together stay out of relationships.

[Radical Edward]

Originally Posted by buchananbass

My honest opinion here is that you need to stop worrying about helping others for awhile and learn to help yourself.
If you can’t do that and be independent of others you’re not helping anyone.
And for the love of god don’t date guys who live with their mom!
In fact going back to that whole independence thing, don’t date anyone, if you don’t have your s&%^ together stay out of relationships.

Hahaha. Well, the guy I'm dating lived with his mom to help her out and is a great guy. He's great with my daughter, he helps out with everything he can, treats me right, and honestly I never thought I'd find someone as weird as I am, but he's pretty much it. I couldn't be happier with him.
And I've definitely been working on helping myself before others, but I can't just sit there while a dog is suffering and she's the type to just not take an animal to the vet and let it die a slow death, before admitting there's a serious problem. I just can't do that. Heh. I know it's a problem, but I figure that the world needs to look out for those who can't.
Also, it's hard for me to ever be alone. I'm not very sane.. as I'm sure you've all noticed. I had a rough life growing up, and pretty much, tbh I need someone there for when I'm having those days where I can't handle being crazy anymore. I guess it's pretty sad, but it's a truth I have to live with.

[sandmangeck]

I think the bass and amp should be the least of your worries. You barely mentioned not having custody of your kid. You should worry about that.

[ShredderMaximus]

wow, bummer. Like what Buchananbass says, you should stop trying to help everyone else when you can't even help yourself, the only ones you should be concerned with right now are you and your daughter. Weirdly enough, you remind me alot of my sis. Single mom, barely scraping by, too concerned about other people, list goes on and on.

But that really is sad about your bass, I'm not sure how much they'll ream you for it, but could you possibly pawn your bass and buy it back later? I dunno, I do suppose you gotta do what you gotta do and I wish it all works out for ya soon Ed

[Radical Edward]

Originally Posted by ShredderMaximus

wow, bummer. Like what Buchananbass says, you should stop trying to help everyone else when you can't even help yourself, the only ones you should be concerned with right now are you and your daughter. Weirdly enough, you remind me alot of my sis. Single mom, barely scraping by, too concerned about other people, list goes on and on.

But that really is sad about your bass, I'm not sure how much they'll ream you for it, but could you possibly pawn your bass and buy it back later? I dunno, I do suppose you gotta do what you gotta do and I wish it all works out for ya soon Ed

Thanks.. and those who know me well here know the situation with my daughter and me, and she's happy and healthy and above all else I always make sure she has what she needs and that she is safe. I'm actually staying with her father right now, so I get to see her all day, every day.
That said, until this all happened we were doing great and saving up, and life was good. It's just a rough patch we're going through and we'll pull through like we always do. I'm tougher than I seem and above all else, I look after my own. That's the type of person I am, and I'm not going to stop being caring now. I simply can't. But I HAVE been making sure that I have what I need before most others, but I couldn't have seen this happening any more than any of you could've. I'll have a job by tomorrow, and my boyfriend and I will both be up and running again in a week or two and things will be good again, but for the moment I need cash.. and really all I have is my bass and my amp, so I don't really have a choice. It's my first and only bass, and only my second amp.. and I'll miss them horribly, but as I said, I'll do what needs to be done to look after myself and my own.

[ShredderMaximus]

Do you need the cash for rent? Or just surviving money? If the later I would happily go on a ramen only diet for a week or 2 to save my bass, and if the earlier could you possibly offer to help out around the house for a little extra time til you get rolling again? Maybe laundry and dishes every day or so til you can pay maybe...

[Radical Edward]

Originally Posted by ShredderMaximus

Do you need the cash for rent? Or just surviving money? If the later I would happily go on a ramen only diet for a week or 2 to save my bass, and if the earlier could you possibly offer to help out around the house for a little extra time til you get rolling again? Maybe laundry and dishes every day or so til you can pay maybe...

For a security deposit on a place. And, there's no chance of my boyfriend's mom letting me live there again. It's not really about the job. It's about me being from a poor family and her family being "upper class" as they say... I'm not good enough, in her eyes.. and I can't stay with my daughter's dad much longer cuz his girlfriend.. or whatever.. is moving back in here soon. I have a few friends who said I could crash at their places for a bit, but really I don't want to just use people. That's not right, imo. I messed up here, and I have to accept the consequences of my actions, even if they were unforseen.

[ShredderMaximus]

One thing I've noticed with myself, is that I'm always trying trying to please alot of people by helping them out, giving a hand, whatever. But when the shoe is on the other foot, I'm very resistant to receiving help, be it pride, modesty, or just not wanting to burden other people. But what you got to realize is that if they offer, and its a good friend that you think actually wants to help and isn't just being polite, don't be afraid to accept, let someone help you out for a change. And I doubt if your a nice houseguest and maybe even help out a bit, a few weeks shouldn't put them out to bad, especially if you give back when your on your feet.

P.S. sorry if this doesn't apply to you

[Radical Edward]

Originally Posted by ShredderMaximus

One thing I've noticed with myself, is that I'm always trying trying to please alot of people by helping them out, giving a hand, whatever. But when the shoe is on the other foot, I'm very resistant to receiving help, be it pride, modesty, or just not wanting to burden other people. But what you got to realize is that if they offer, and its a good friend that you think actually wants to help and isn't just being polite, don't be afraid to accept, let someone help you out for a change. And I doubt if your a nice houseguest and maybe even help out a bit, a few weeks shouldn't put them out to bad, especially if you give back when your on your feet.

P.S. sorry if this doesn't apply to you

Lol. It's all good. I hear ya. The biggest issue I have with taking them up on their offer is that one is an ex who still loves me and the other is a guy who I haven't really spoken to very much in the past 2 or 3 years and I'm considerably sure has a huge crush on me. I don't want to lead anyone on or anything. If it comes down to it, yeah... I'll accept the help, but I'd rather not ad more drama to my life, if I can help it. Lol.

[hrodbert696]

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The other thought is that I wouldn't jump straight to selling your bass. You'll lose money in the long run when you want to buy another one than if you had held onto it. Also, if you're headed toward being a gigging musician, the bass is an asset for income. Selling it will allow you to pay one or two bills and then it's gone. Keeping it can wind you up making enough money to pay a bill or two each month, permanently. See if you can weather these couple of weeks without selling.

[ShredderMaximus]

Sorry, got a little introspective there, but in that case, milk it, then go psycho b**** on him, guaranteed you'll never have to worry about him again and you get what you need. I'm sure you got it in ya (don't all women?)

[Skitch it!]

This sounds all over the place dear, just put your focus in one direction, you and yours, I wouldn't say hell is other people completely, but it can be, I tend to drop them, like I never knew them.

[machine gewehr]

Girl,if I ever win the lottery I'll come to the US,I'll hire hitmen (yes,multiple hitmans) to get rid of any one giving you BS,you can have the custody of your kid,I'll marry you and make you the woman of my house.

When this happens,I dare you to post a thread in TBOT as to whan a jerk your husband is!!! I'll hire hitmen (yes multiple hitmans) to follow you everywhere you go,I'll make you feel you can be gone any time yet not let them pull the trigger,I'll make you paranoid schizoprenic,you hear me???

[fourstringdrums]

Originally Posted by machine gewehr

Girl,if I ever win the lottery I'll come to the US,I'll hire hitmen (yes,multiple hitmans) to get rid of any one giving you BS,you can have the custody of your kid,I'll marry you and make you the woman of my house.

When this happens,I dare you to post a thread in TBOT as to whan a jerk your husband is!!! I'll hire hitmen (yes multiple hitmans) to follow you everywhere you go,I'll make you feel you can be gone any time yet not let them pull the trigger,I'll make you paranoid schizoprenic,you hear me???

Uh....Just....uh....

I know you're kidding (good lord I hope so) but still...uh....

[THand]

Originally Posted by Radical Edward

Lol. It's all good. I hear ya. The biggest issue I have with taking them up on their offer is that one is an ex who still loves me and the other is a guy who I haven't really spoken to very much in the past 2 or 3 years and I'm considerably sure has a huge crush on me. I don't want to lead anyone on or anything. If it comes down to it, yeah... I'll accept the help, but I'd rather not ad more drama to my life, if I can help it. Lol.

You don't have female friends?

[Radical Edward]

Originally Posted by machine gewehr

Girl,if I ever win the lottery I'll come to the US,I'll hire hitmen (yes,multiple hitmans) to get rid of any one giving you BS,you can have the custody of your kid,I'll marry you and make you the woman of my house.

When this happens,I dare you to post a thread in TBOT as to whan a jerk your husband is!!! I'll hire hitmen (yes multiple hitmans) to follow you everywhere you go,I'll make you feel you can be gone any time yet not let them pull the trigger,I'll make you paranoid schizoprenic,you hear me???

Lol. Well, I appreciate the offer. When you win the lotto, let me know.
Ahahahahaha...

And to TH: Well, no. Not really. I have a female friend, but she lives pretty far away and is also staying with her mom who is a crazy *****. Most women instantly are all "catty-like" with me, so it makes things difficult.

[THand]

It sounds like you could benefit from finding a good (perhaps older and wiser) female friend/mentor. Somebody to help you get on your feet and help you get on the right path. With guys, there is always going to be jealousy, accusations, and other drama going on. My advice is to seek out an older female (maybe at a church...even if you don't normally go) who can help you get on your feet and take care of your child. Then worry about guys. Also, selling your gear would only be a temporary fix to what sounds like a much bigger problem.

[machine gewehr]

Originally Posted by fourstringdrums

Uh....Just....uh....

I know you're kidding (good lord I hope so) but still...uh....

I wasn't kidding.I'm just not the kind of guy to have cocaine parties with tens of chicks buy sports cars buy a yatch and have cocaine parties on it too,if I won the lottery.

I'm kinda guy to travel to the other side of the planet and order deaths of people whom I don't know and marry a crazy chick kinda crazy guy.

Originally Posted by Radical Edward

Lol. Well, I appreciate the offer. When you win the lotto, let me know.
Ahahahahaha...

Check your PM box tomorrow night,Saturday night is the lotto night.

[MJ5150]

I can see how your boyfriends mom feels. If he really does make good money, and you just quit your job, then she is probably afraid you're in it for the money.

-Mike