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07-13-2008, 11:51 PM
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What acts do you consider as 'cheating' on a spouse or significant other?
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07-14-2008, 12:12 AM
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07-14-2008, 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by fourstringdrums  Why don't you just tell us what you're doing... | If he has to ask, it's cheating.
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07-14-2008, 12:16 AM
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07-14-2008, 12:18 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: New Hampshire | | | There is such a thing as emotional cheating as well. I think if you're at a point with someone other than your spouse where you're sharing deep emotional connection that you're not giving to your spouse, it's cheating.
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07-14-2008, 12:27 AM
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07-14-2008, 12:30 AM
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Originally Posted by fourstringdrums Why don't you just tell us what you're doing behind your girl's back and we'll tell you if we think it's cheating or not. | It's not so much what I'm doing but what she did.
edit: It's all sorted out and wasn't a huge problem or anything, just been on my mind so I was wondering what people considered as cheating.
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07-14-2008, 12:33 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: New Delhi, India | | | in my opinion its one's personal perspective. but if you have it worked out with your partner to a common point of agreement then its a little easier, but thats just my opinion and am only 18 but it works for me
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07-14-2008, 12:34 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Boston, MA | | | Between me and my girlfriend, pretty much anything we don't enjoy seeing in public. We do have an open ended relationship, no I don't get to sleep with other girls, but I have many female friends, she has many male friends. We both find it acceptable to give a kiss on the cheek to close ones, hugs, and those. We don't mind if one of us goes out to dinner with some of the opposite sex without us being there, we just trust each other. We just know what's right and not I guess. In the end I'm waking up to her every morning and she's waking to me. Besides on public discussion of sex to other people we're both horrible prudes.
I guess an example is dancing. We started taking a ball room and salsa dancing class in high school. We were constantly shuffling partner and just something I got us too. Even to this day I don't mind, just another want to meet new people, make new friends.
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07-14-2008, 01:40 AM
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Originally Posted by heroincredible What acts do you consider as 'cheating' on a spouse or significant other? | "Long" kisses and up is cheating (I'm Italian; short kisses on the lips, one or both cheeks, forehead, etc are fine). If it lasts more than a 1/2-second, that's a no-no - so is any groping or anything sexual.
In a mutually agreed upon ménage à trois ou plus, obviously, none of this applies.
Dancing is fine as long as there's nothing romantic going through your head.
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07-14-2008, 02:22 AM
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Endorsing Artist: Karl Hoyt Basses | | Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: upstate NY | | | In my 42 years once, and only once, has an excuse for dabbling worked. Seven little words that saved my butt and kept me with the same woman with no other temptations of any kind for over 10 years now. I can't say that I "regret" my one dalliance, but in retrospect it was a bad idea. Sure was fun at the time though.
Those 7 words:
"But honey...there were TWO of them!"
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07-14-2008, 02:34 AM
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Originally Posted by CallieBum73 Anything I cant or wont do in front of my husband...I concider cheating | +1.
Depending on the relationship you have with your SO, it can be a very restrictive or widely open rule. |
07-14-2008, 04:39 AM
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07-14-2008, 04:54 AM
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Originally Posted by bigfatbass In my 42 years once, and only once, has an excuse for dabbling worked. Seven little words that saved my butt and kept me with the same woman with no other temptations of any kind for over 10 years now. I can't say that I "regret" my one dalliance, but in retrospect it was a bad idea. Sure was fun at the time though.
Those 7 words:
"But honey...there were TWO of them!"
Mrs Bigfatbass, I love you. You are a beautiful, rare, and tolerant woman, and I am one very lucky man.
As for the OP, good luck brah, you'll need it! |
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07-14-2008, 07:34 AM
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Originally Posted by CallieBum73 Anything I cant or wont do in front of my husband...I concider cheating | I cheat everytime I potty then. 
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07-14-2008, 07:38 AM
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Originally Posted by CallieBum73 Anything I cant or wont do in front of my husband...I concider cheating | Man, that rules out Xbox 
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07-14-2008, 07:49 AM
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07-14-2008, 07:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Benjamin Strange Cheating is doing something that you know would hurt your partner if they found out about it. | Damn, playing Xbox naked is out
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07-14-2008, 07:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Mark Latimour Damn, playing Xbox naked is out | But playing Wii naked is ok. |
07-14-2008, 07:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Mark Latimour Man, that rules out Xbox | LOL! That one is so true!
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