What should I do??????

[jady]

OK, here's my situation. I am moving out from my house. The ex is keeping it and staying there with the kids.

I have 2 options,

1.) Get my own apartment. It will make things pretty tight moneywise with the child support but having your own place has numerous perks.

2.) Move into a room in a house with a guy I work with. It will save me about $600/mo and he has a 2 year old so my kids will have a friend there and they are welcome anytime (the roommates are used to kids being around) He said even if it is only temporary that is cool so if it doesnt work out I am not in a lease or anything.

What to do, what to do........

[LowDown Hal]

I would go with option 2.

At least temporarily. Stash $500.00/$600.00 a month for a while and then buy a place to live.

[NJL]

do whatever it takes to get yourself back on your feet!

when i divorced, i had to live with my dad, then i got an apartment (only 440 sq feet - with a 120lbs Rottie as a roommate) - now i'm a homeowner and live by myself (3 bedrooms, 2 Bath)...

get yourself back on your feet. good luck!

[Croox]

I'd do the room mate thing untill you get some scratch for a place of your own.

[FL Knifemaker]

I would try option two. When I got divorced and was paying support, things were tight.

[NJL]

in addition, if you happen to have health insurance, get some counseling, every little bit helps.. if you don't have insurance, there should be some free counseling available if you look around a bit.

[TheDarkReaver]

Option 2 for sure, save up that money.

[Relic]

When I divorced, I lived with my dad for a while and set $ aside. Once I had enough I got my own place and it was great. I'd say option 2 in order to get to option 1.

[jady]

Cool guys, that was what i was thinkin but I just needed to hear it from you fine folks!!!!

[NJL]

Originally Posted by jady

Cool guys, that was what i was thinkin but I just needed to hear it from you fine folks!!!!

Keep your head up! Everything will get better, but you gotta just be strong!

[playinpearls]

Originally Posted by LowDown Hal

I would go with option 2.

At least temporarily. Stash $500.00/$600.00 a month for a while and then buy a place to live.

+1

[Relic]

Originally Posted by NJL

Keep your head up! Everything will get better, but you gotta just be strong!

a BIG HUGE +1 to that.

[Stumbo]

Get your agreement in writing, even if its temporary or not. Even if he's a "good buddy". Sometimes things happen that are not under your control. State law covers landlord/tenant relationships. Both have certain rights.

For example, if one of your kids gets hurt at his house, will his home owner's insurance pay the medical bills? Or what if he loses his job and wants you to leave immediately? All kinds of things may happen. What if one of your kids injures one of his kids? Will you be responsible for the medical bills? Do you have an umbrella policy? Keep all your insurances up to date. You may want to increase your auto insurance limits, especially the medical payments.

I also recommend getting renter's insurance for your stuff. Also put a lock on your bedroom door.

Your local office supply usually has pro-forma rental agreements.

Good luck.

P.S. All the above is based on experience. I don't sell insurance or anything like that.

[NJL]

Originally Posted by Stumbo

Get your agreement in writing, even if its temporary or not. Even if he's a "good buddy". Sometimes things happen that are not under your control. For example, if one of your kids gets hurt at his house, will his home owner's insurance pay the medical bills? Or if he loses his job and wants you to leave immediately. All kinds of things may happen.

I also recommend getting renter's insurance for your stuff.

Your local office supply usually has pro-forma rental agreements.

Good luck.

great call, friendships can get bruised very easily with just the most minor things... plus i think Jady said they work together, too...

[disenchant]

I moved into my own apartment after my divorce and things were TIGHT but my sanity was worth more than the money I would have saved living with my parents or a friend. At that point I needed time alone to find myself again and I didn't need my mom hovering over me every second or friends chattering about how happy everything was for them or making sympathetic clucking sounds. It seems like unless someone has been through a divorce, they never really know what to say. Divorces are a mixture of sadness and relief; I don't know how to put that into words.

I played a lot of bass, read a lot of books and enjoyed only having to worry about me. I'm one of those people who holds it together in front of others, so I was glad to not have any "audiences" except my cats.

But that was just me. I didn't have child support to worry about. I'm not really going to advise you either way, not knowing how you handle things. Some people need the support of others, I'm more independent.

[MakiSupaStar]

Move into a whorehouse. They'll take care of the kids while you take care of them.















Or the roommate thing might be a good idea too.

[peterbright]

Can you bring home strays?

[CrashClint]

I would go with the room mate. It may not be the best situation in the world, but if you can hang for a year you can put $5,000 - $7,000 in savings.

[txbasschik]

Originally Posted by NJL

in addition, if you happen to have health insurance, get some counseling, every little bit helps.. if you don't have insurance, there should be some free counseling available if you look around a bit.

+1,000,000!!! When my 1st husband and I separated and divorced, I got some counselling through the Austin Y. I paid on a sliding scale according to what I earned at my job. It was something like $7/month. The counselling really, really helped me recover and get back on my feet again.

Cherie

[txbasschik]

Originally Posted by jady

Cool guys, that was what i was thinkin but I just needed to hear it from you fine folks!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS!!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Cherie