I don't get it! People today seem to refuse to TALK to each other. Instead they text or post on Facebook, and then wonder why things get messed up. Pick up the phone and talk to people!
Ok so this is a bit of rant, but there is a point to be made at the end so please bear with me.
Basically I'm a little frustrated with a family bombshell that landed on me at midnight last night/this morning. This is of the permanently disowned variety, and could have been avoided if the players had acted their age instead of like school children.
Ok to protect the "innocent" I'll do it like this: BACKSTORY:
Person A is dating (and made baby with) Person B's brother. Person A and B's brother are now living the good little suburbanite life and the family has accepted Person A into their world with open arms. A & B have not really ever talked; I mean they've been in the same room maybe 5 times. It's not a bad relationship up to this point, just a nonexistent one.
Person B has been living under the shadow of the family's "Golden Child", her brother. An example of the favoritism is that even though she scored higher in her SAT's than her brother, dad and stepmom paid for his college in full, while not paying anything for hers. As a child she also went through a rough life dealing with an ugly divorce of her parents and her mom’s abusive boyfriend. All of this has given her a hard edge and a rather black and white view point of things. She's a tough girl on the outside, but is fragile on the inside if you know what I mean. THE DRAMA:
Person A called Person B while drunk a week ago and read Person B the riot act "You're no good and will never amount to anything" speech. Obviously Person B is hurt and pissed. The brother calls and apologizes for Person A. Person B accepts with a grain of salt.
Person A then sends a TEXT apology a week later (yesterday). Person B then sends back a very long winded and eloquent "apology not accepted" and while there wasn't any mudslinging there was definitely some "F-U" attitude in it. Person A then responds with a "You'll never see your nephew again". Having read the exchange, B brings up many good points like "you don't know a thing about me" and "First you made my brother apologize for you, then you wait a week to talk to me about it?" but she definitely should have handled it with a bit more tact than she did.
Anyway, last night I was awoken at around 12:30 with an "I've been disowned" and "she's the daughter they really wanted, not me" text. This of course is the first I'd heard of it. That's when I was sent a bit of the texts of the back and forth. Apparently after this mess, Person B has been unfriended by Person A, her brother, and her stepmother, and will never see her 1 year old nephew again. Really?!
Person A is in the wrong for the original drunken "you’re no good" thing
Person B is in the wrong for her "apology not accepted" thing.
B's brother is stuck in the middle, and siding with his girl
The stepmom is astounding to me, but she and Person B never really got along so I'm not too surprised.
What a wacky world.
PEOPLE PEOPLE!!!!! TALK TO EACH OTHER! Jeeez! Texting is NOT talking to each other. If distance makes it impossible to do it face to face pick up the phone and CALL THEM!!! For the techno lovers SKYPE it. BACK TO MUSIC:
I know it has been discussed several times already but .... I'm using this real world example of how people’s feelings get hurt and stuff just gets all blown out of proportion when it doesn't need to be that way. If your band is experiencing some drama, even if it's just light weight stuff, you really need to talk to the people involved face to face, and not via text.
Simply talk to them.
I need stiff drink.