Working 'full-time' and going to school? In need a life coach
I picked up a job over the summer working part-time, but I wasn't making enough money. I switched to full-time and I'm much happier with my paychecks....
Anyway, I started my senior year of high school (at a local 'college-prep', so it is a bit 'harder' than it would normally be... :rolleyes:) this past Thursday. I work at a restaurant/fast food joint now doing about 38 hours a week, working until 11-12:30pm on weekdays.
I'm just worried because I don't know if I'll be able to balance everything. I will have school, work, lacrosse off-season is starting soon; as not only a "senior leader" but also a defensive captain, it is important that I be there, and I have 50 hours of community service to complete by January. Once lacrosse starts, I will no longer have days off, as it will be taking up my two days off from work. On top of all of that, I need to get my @$$ into high-gear on the college application process because it is important that I meet the deadline for early decision/action.
TB is a rather close-knit community and there is always someone who is willing to help. I'm hoping there is someone who is/has going/gone through a similar situation and can talk me through it. Or if there is someone who is an expert at time management, studying, lacrosse, work ethics, applying for college or all of the above... I could use some serious coaching, here or a pm would be great if you prefer discretion. I really appreciate it. I can't seek the help of my school counselor because I am always busy after school, my mom just retired and is struggling to make enough money to pay her mortgage, my dad can't even keep a job for more than a month or two (I love him, but he is very immature; not like a child, but he isn't really an adult) so I don't even think I want his help, and out of my three siblings; my oldest brother lives in LA and is IMPOSSIBLE to get in touch with, my sister lives in Louisiana and is very busy with her job, and my brother, who is the closest to my age (but still 7 years older, so emotionally we're more like acquaintances than relatives), is a new father, is working an internship with an hour commute, and is being trained for another job. I don't have anybody else around me I can seek for help.
I'm kinda laughing about how I intended this thread to be kinda short... but I digress. I'm not trying to get sympathy or tell you a sob story. I am just a 17 year old who bit off more than he can chew and is in need of a little guidance. Any help whatsoever is GREATLY appreciated. Thank you very much.
I really don't want to quit my job or cut my hours until completely necessary. I'm saving up for an 86-92 BMW e30 M3 as a graduation gift to myself. I want this car more than I've ever wanted any material item in my life, it is pretty much my dream car and I really want to get it now while I'm still young and my expenses are relatively low... I don't want to grow up pissed off at myself that I never bought this car while I had the chance. I already have over $2k saved up (and I'd have $3k but I recently had to pay a $780 bill to fix my current car). With $2k in the bank, and my car being worth about $3000, I figure I have AT LEAST $8500 more to make before I graduate to be able to afford one.
You will pretty much hate your life for the next 9 months, but if a car is worth that then go for it.
You're college bound then? I suggest you prioritize, and see what's at the top of the list. Because I think you're over scheduled.
From above, I hear academics, work/cash, car, sports, college.
I'd suggest that college should be at top of list. That means maintaining grades and getting your apps in on time.
The rest you can sort through. If you're good enough with sports to get an athletic scholarship, suggest sports my influence the college side.
Depending on where you go to college, a car may be something you neither need nor want. Just saying.
Yup, you're over booked.
Something will suffer.
In college I was gigging 3-5 nights a week to pay for school, rent,life.
It impacted my grades a lot.
You can't always get what you want......
Man, you don't make it easy. Why'd it have to be an E30 M3? I love E30's. Argargarg...I really don't want to do this, but:
You're not gonna get one that has less than 125K on it with a decent price tag. They're usually rebuilt (~$3K in PARTS) at around 150-180K, because the engine simply loses compression, starts leaking. Control arm balljoints/bushings are likely to go, and you want to replace them with aluminum arms. Trailing arm/subframe bushings, well. They're bushings. Bushings die. Steering rack is likely to go to poop ($500 o.O for a rack?!)...regardless that it's older, it's still all BMW prices. Not cheap!!
So, you drop ~$12K on a car that's probably gonna last 25,000 miles before you drop another $5+K into it while struggling with college, and it sits in a garage/shop/backyard.
This is not a daily driver. You need money. Especially if you can't do the work yourself, lots of money! E30 M3's are a labor of fanatical love, and it WILL eat your wallet, spare change, and pocket lint.
Sorry for the doom and gloom, brother, but. You seem like you've got a great plan going for yourself, and a good head on your shoulders. Buying the wrong platform will eat into your time, money, sanity, and leave you stranded, bumming rides on the back of your roommate's moped to hit Jack in the Box for $1 tacos, 'cause you haven't eaten in three days. Your first priority has to be focusing on getting through college.
If you really want it, smart and fast? My suggestion, get something like an MIS, medical peon, useful engineering, or pharmacology degree. Come out instantly making $50+K/year. Get the E30 with a clean swap. Done!
Or get a clean S13 240sx with coilovers/arms and a 1/2jz for $6K, then weld the diff and come drift!! (:
Or, simply wait. It'll come, man. I know that dream. I know it seems like an eternity right now, but it's not. As long as you don't major in pottery, or medieval Italian literature, or auto body/mechanic or some other non-lucrative degree (or get some co-ed preggers and jump into a mortgage) -- it'll happen. If you DO major in something like that, make sure you love the hell out of it. And ramen noodles.
Don't worry about being pissed you didn't get this car. In hindsight, you won't care, and you'll have pleeeenty of time after college to save up and surround yourself with all sorts of wicked fun stuff.
And beware of student loans and credit cards. Evil evil things. And pay attention to math! And look both ways crossing the street. Don't forget to wash behind your ears.
My biggest regret for my high school years has to do with buying a car,and I only spent $3k or $4k on mine.
If there was a solution for ALL of those issues and a clear path for your future including education would you want to hear it? send me a PM
First things first---time management. Get off TB and the social internet in general. Unless you're networking for work or school with a specific purpose, don't use the internet.
After seeing the cost breakdown on your dream car I'd say forget it and put education at the top of your list and unless you expect to pay your way through college with sports it needs to slide to the back burner as well.
School first, job second, after that whatever blows your dress up most and can be fitted in to the tiny bit of time you will have left after education and work.
As for the car, rather than set unrealistic goals of trying to have one on the budget of a semi starving student, immerse yourself is school and graduate with honors so you can start out in the middle of the food chain rather than at the bottom. Work a few years and save enough to buy your fully restored dream car, then look at the money pile and the car and decide if the car is still worth it you. If so hunt one up and enjoy it without having to decide if you want to eat for the next month or buy parts for a restoration project already 5 years gone and still not done.
Something has to give I can tell you that for sure college is no joke man.
Get some federal student loans through the'fafsa program and go to part time. Lacrose is gonna have to get dropped unless its getting you a scholarship to pay for college. If not drop that, how many pro lacrose players are their? I know you love it but school and survival have to take priority.
Finally the e30 m3 those cars are very expensive you need at least 10k and better be good at doing your own work because there is alot of maintenance. For example you need to take thevalve cover off to adjust the valves because they came with solid lifters failure to do so will cost you an engine. Mess it up its an engine.
A cheaper alternative is a 318is they are the closest to the m3 spec, just swap the engine. If you want to be a purist. Go to college cut your hours graduate bang some sorority sisters then graduate with your degree get a badass job then buy two of them. Yes two m3s because you can afford them now and you'll need one when the other one breaks and your searching and waiting a month or two for parts, that are on perpetual back order.
You are a 17 year-old with a ton of potential and all the right ingredients to be so successful in whatever you choose to do in life!
Here's my 2-3 cents as a mom helping her own kid through the college process:
As others have mentioned and as important as it is to right now, please don't burn yourself out for a car. Save that money for school as it sounds like you may not have a lot of family financial support. Get used to the idea that if you want to go to college, you may have to do this all on your own. My parents only had $10K to help me and I had to take care of the other $90K - it was awful and I don't wish that on anyone, but I did it, and paid it off and I love my job.
** Depending on where you go to school, you may not even be allowed to have a car on campus your first year - so be sure and check that out.
What are you interested in for a major? Use your school's college navigation program (assuming they have one) to research your schools and apply for scholarships. Try and set up an appointment with your school's counselor during lunch, before school or during a study hall, or go now. Up here they work all the way through the summer. MAKE time now to utilize the professionals who do this for a living….This will save you a lot of time later.
Did you take your SAT's yet? If not or you need to retake them, sign up soon. September 6th is the deadline for the October test.
Once you know where you want to go to school and what it will cost, go to http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/ and use the preliminary calculator to see what you might qualify for in Federal Financial Aid for loans/grants. Register to get your PIN number (write it all down and keep it in a safe place) then after January 1st you can go online and complete the application. You will need to get your parent's tax return information as well as your own. Each state has different deadlines - so wherever you'd like to attend, be sure you take note of those dates.
Get your 50 hours of required community service set up now! Visit http://www.volunteermatch.org to find student opportunities in your area. You may be limited because of your age so be sure and check for any age requirements to save you time. Do this ASAP as there are often things that have to be done before getting started like background checks and health screens and orientation. See if your school requires it to be all at one place or if you can divide it up - but get this checked off your list. It takes my volunteers all summer to rack up even 40 hours with their busy schedules.
Advice for future you…..
Once you get to college, figure out how to work on campus. This is a huge time-saver and there are often jobs where you can work and actually get some studying done at the same time.
I know it seems far off, but if you will be living on campus, my best advice is that once you get there find out how to become a Resident Assistant (usually you can apply in the Spring of your Freshman year for the following Fall). That completely covered my room and board for 3 years and I had my own room. Each college is different, but it's usually a pretty sweet deal. You just have to get involved with Residence Life early on so you get recommended.
You may not realize it, but you are building character and that is something that cannot be bought. It will definitely come across in your essays, interviews, work-ethic, and in life in general.
So take a deep breath and use the resources you have at hand. I'm sure your family is very proud of you. Maybe now that your mom is retired, she can help you research scholarships, or you can volunteer together somewhere to get those hours covered. I'm sure she'd love to be involved somehow and there's so many ways to help besides financially.
You can do this!!
It's not like high-school actually requires work, nor does undergraduate studies ime. but anyways. You'll do fine.
Hello Tommy Gun!
I am going to be a freshman at college soon. Like a poster said before, prioritize what you need. Do not overload yourself with too many things. If you feel overwhelmed, take a break; you've earned it.You seem to be a very smart young man who is responsible and knows how to balance things.
OK, since we're on college majors now:
Go to US Bureau of Labor Services website. Look at jobs. Ideally, ones that are growing, and that make the money you need to make.
Second, go to IPEDS College Navigator. Find colleges that offer the degree that get you into the above. You can search by locality and price as well. Study, shop, apply, enter.
Plus all the FAFSA stuff previously mentioned.
I'll try to touch on as man points as I can, but my relaxation time is short tonight.
1) I hate to kill everybody's hopes for me but I am 99.9% set on majoring in education, I want to be a teacher.
2) Lacrosse can't be dropped. Its how I find my zen. If I have a couple of hours on my hands, instead of watching tv or surfing the web, I go out and play wall-ball. Practice is basically a therapy session for me. I'm certain I will go on to play at the collegiate level, but it will be DIII or a club, neither of which can offer athletic scholarships. I'm decent, but very small for my position and I've only been playing 3 years, not my whole life.
3) In all truthfulness, I really just want an E30. I'd also settle for a Benz 190e 2.3-16. At the same time, if I'm dropping $10k+ of my hard earned money at 18 on a car, I don't want to settle. Honestly, I love the car I have now and I bet it has another 80k or more miles left in it. But in a perfect world, I would be buying the M3 this upcoming May. If I don't get the car, then that is life I suppose. I'll have $13k in the bank and I'm 100% okay with driving my little lancer around for another 4 or 5 years.
4) As far as college tuition goes, there are schools I could get a "full-ride" to on a honors college and need based financial aid combined scholarship. I got a 29 on my ACT and I will hopefully get a 30 or a 31 if I retake it. I have also heard 'rumors' about a program that Texas has that if you go to a state school graduating with a teaching degree and teach at an assigned public school in Texas for 5 years (I think?), the state will forgive/pay off all of your student loans. I've heard about it from multiple people, but I have yet to actually read anything about it.
5) Talkbass is also another luxury I won't give up. I am here far less than I used to be, but I do visit when I have no other obligations (work, school work, etc) just for the entertainment. Facebook is almost obsolete for me at this point, I hardly get on.
I'd like to thank everybody for their insite so far. It has been helpful and eye opening. Especially bassmom, thank you for the post and links you showed me. taphappy as well, although I do appreciate all of the posts so far. Thank you guys
I think you've got a realistic plan. It stretches the boundary of what is realistic though. That's a very busy schedule but it can be done. Here's the important thing: if school and something else conflict school comes first. If that schedule becomes unworkable for you that may mean dropping to P/T or giving up lacrosse.
I don't know if the car is that great of an idea. Other folks have talked about maintenance costs and all that. High school life and college life are two very different beasts. A car simply isn't the big deal in college that it is in high school. Especially if you're wanting a teaching degree it isn't really necessary. Maybe if you wanted to impress MBAs at a nice private uni the car would be a good idea. But what is cool in high school is often no big deal in college.
And different unis are different, but at least at my local 4-year, trying to commute to school by car adds 5-10 minutes to what it'd take on a bicycle for most of the student-oriented neighborhoods. And then you've gotta pay for parking. Cut the car completely and your saving time, gas, insurance, parking.
I'd say invest in a nice bicycle, something that goes fast, but that's me. You'll meet a lot more girls riding a bike and nobody asks for a ride. And it'll drop your basic expenses to school, rent, and food. Which means a lot more disposable money.
Save that money you're making so you can do some cool stuff while you're in college.
np, bud! Yeah, Bassmom nailed it. Especially this:
In any case, best of luck!!
In grad school I was a full-time student, I worked full-time as a D&A Counselor, and gigged anywhere between 4-10 times a month.
During my last semester, I was an unpaid intern 8-3 Monday through Friday. I had classes two nights per week, and held my counseling job two four hour nights per week. I continued to gig, just not as frequently. The only day that was typically "free" was Sunday. On Sunday I did schoolwork, laundry, etc.
If you want it bad enough, you'll adapt. If not, you won't. Simple as that.
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