Your hardships.

Stanley Design · #1 05-25-2010, 05:18 PM

What hardships have you been facing the past few years, and how have you been dealing with them? Are you having a more positive experience with them nowadays or are they still a daily struggle?

Personally I had a few that are probably pretty common. A drinking problem, money problem and a woman problem.

The woman problem still bothers me to an extent but I accepted it almost 2 years ago and it doesn't hold me back. I moved far away for while and grew and experienced life and became a much happier person.

The money problem eventually lead to me having to overhaul my finances and move back home. I plugged away at it and it's in a much more manageable place now. Getting there, but it's going to take time.

The drinking problem turned out to be not so much of a problem at all. When I was having money problems it was a major contributor, I took a few breaks from it and got my finances a little bit more in order and now I can drink sometimes when I have a bit of cash. It turned out I'm not a problem drinker, it's just an expensive habit and my money problems were being blamed on the easy out.

All in all, I'm doing a lot better than I was a year or two ago. I'm not where I'd like to be, but I'd rather be here than anywhere else that I see as a possibility.

How have you grown?

metallicafan18 · #2 05-25-2010, 05:22 PM

I've been dealing with Type 1 Diabetes for the last 4 years. I hate it with a passion, but since there is no cure, I'm stuck with it. I keep it monitored, eat well, and pray for a cure soon.

XtreO · #3 05-25-2010, 05:32 PM

No problems. Can't say I've grown anything aside from in height (and girth, which might be a problem if I let myself get over 215 lbs) over the past few years. Only problems now are exams, and I look forward so much to getting them over with it hardly can be callaed a problem.

**lowendfriend** · #4 05-25-2010, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by metallicafan18

I've been dealing with Type 1 Diabetes for the last 4 years. I hate it with a passion, but since there is no cure, I'm stuck with it. I keep it monitored, eat well, and pray for a cure soon.

My son has Type 1 since 4 years old, picked up Celiac Disease (Gluten/Autoimmune disorder) at 14....at 16 he nearly died from a severe nut allergy. He graduated from Brandeis University Sunday (btw, Paul Simon did "The Boxer" at the commencement where he got an honorary degree) and he is starting a paid PhD program in BioChem at Boston University Medical Graduate School in September.

**** happens followed soon thereafter by life. Take heart, don't try to keep you bG as low as most endocrinologists tell you (so you can drive, occasionally have a drink and actually have a life.)

Best of luck. My son will be researching for a cure.

shadowtippy · #5 05-25-2010, 06:08 PM

Hardships...Split up with my wife, got back together, were working on splitting up again, then she ate her gun.

Dealing with it...Got back together with the woman I've been in love with for 28 years. She helped me through the loss of my wife, (And, no, she wasn't the cause of the split.)

jrthebassguy · #6 05-25-2010, 06:33 PM

Had carpal tunnel syndrome surgery on both hands at the tender age of 18. I'll never have 100% strength in my wrists again, but I've found I'm still able to play music with decent success. Though I've found it's harder to play bass than guitar, so I tend to stick with guitar more these days.

Had a kidney stone the size of a walnut surgically removed - going into the surgery the surgeon said I had a 50/50 shot of losing my left kidney. Thankfully, it works and I piss like a champ.

Woman issue - not as bad as some others, but I will say even though it happened so long ago, I still have a serious issue when it comes to trusting women sometimes. They tend to have to work twice as hard as prior to this woman entering (and later exiting) my life.

tigerbass · #7 05-25-2010, 07:04 PM

Like everyone I've had alot, but long story short, the biggest is Ulcerative Colitis. I had my entire colon removed 8 years ago. It sucks big time.
I also had my left ankle fused 7 years ago, which makes using multiple effects interesting sometimes.

Araillac · #8 05-25-2010, 07:12 PM

I've had type 1 diabetes for about 4 or 5 years now and, my fault on this one, since I haven't been taking care of my teeth and my wisdom teeth getting in the way, I have an infection in my gums and a lot of cavities in between teeth which are just now getting taken care of. Been on strong pain killers for the pain from the infection. But I've learned long ago to just take what you're given and make the best of life.

Thunderscreech · #9 05-25-2010, 07:18 PM

Let's see:
Not going back to the community college that offers degrees in Architectural Drafting/Industrial Design has murdered my GPA and made me basically waste my time yet again. I've been trying to figure out if i have anxiety issues, ADD, Depression or some unholy unity of the three. I've been talking to a counselor in working towards getting this dealt with as well as modifying my thought process to make me a kinder, gentler Thunderscreech, for the most part anyways...

to deal with these above issues I've applied some rum- and whiskey-based medicine as needed, and never in excess. Because, really, I don't have it that bad....

Unrepresented · #10 05-25-2010, 11:38 PM

For the most part, I think I've left most of my hardships about 500 miles behind me.

**jmattbassplaya** · #11 05-26-2010, 12:35 AM

No hardships for me. After 5 years of pretty consistent crap (although nowhere near as bad as a lot of other people) I`ve finally gotten my life together, broke away old ties that only held me down, and have finally put myself as first priority over others. It`s nice. I`m finally dating a girl who`s actually good for me and doesn`t cause drama, I`m getting my act together with school and have begun to make short term and long term goals, I`m working out again, and I`m pursuing music to a degree that makes me happy.

If I can offer some advice to anyone going through hard times it`s this - figure out what`s making you unhappy and change it. If you`re in an unhealthy relationship then end it. If you`re friends are only putting you down then find new friends. If your work sucks... then keep it but start looking for something else

. Basically, life is too short to be unhappy or to do things that only make you upset. Do what makes you happy and everything else will just fall into place

IconBasser · #12 05-26-2010, 12:41 AM

hm... being a successful phone salesman while despising the fact that I'm a salesman. The tourettes doesn't help with easing the work environment...

blendermassacre · #13 05-26-2010, 01:03 AM

My wife and I have been living with her parents for over a year. Her dad, who is my boss, is the most negative person I've ever met. Her mother is addicted to his negative attention. I just started my freshman year of college, being married and almost 24. Working a bunch and going to school is pretty stressful in of it self, but I would like to see my wife every once in a while. She (by choice) works 3 part time jobs, which is nuts. She works for her dad, works at a bakery, and cuts hair, as well as modeling, photoshoot hair, and hanging out with friends / her 10 year old sister.

Luckily, we're planning to move out in september, so the stress of living with my inlaws is going to go away. Hopefully school and work (like the next 3 years of it) go well.

/bitch

drteeth · #14 05-26-2010, 01:25 AM

I had cancer four years ago. Apart from that, no complaints.

blendermassacre · #15 05-26-2010, 01:28 AM

I think that the interesting thing about hardships, is the fact that everyone's are terrible to them, until you read about someone's other than your own

A-Step-Towards · #16 05-26-2010, 01:40 AM

I graduated in january 2008 and was lost so i drank everyday tell october of that year, i i forced myself to go to school that fall, because i knew thats the only thing that would change me.

Its now the end of my sophmore year, I have paid cash for everything and dont owe anyone a cent,and i have saved enough money to pay for the next 2 years of school in cash, and bought myself my dream bass early.

Lifes good , 2 years ago i wanted to drink myself to death. Enjoy life and if your not enjoying it, make a change. Its really not hard if you want it.

XigXag · #17 05-26-2010, 01:40 AM

No hardships of my own. My wifes' family OTOH, My mother in law is fighting cancer, and my father in law is fighting the city and a big hospital over property. So while not my hardships, I get the stress just the same.
I dont have advice on dealing with it.

I do hate my job, but thats every job I've ever had so...

blendermassacre · #18 05-26-2010, 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by A-Step-Towards

I graduated in january 2008 and was lost so i drank everyday tell october of that year, i i forced myself to go to school that fall, because i knew thats the only thing that would change me.

Its now the end of my sophmore year, I have paid cash for everything and dont owe anyone a cent,and i have saved enough money to pay for the next 2 years of school in cash, and bought myself my dream bass early.

Lifes good , 2 years ago i wanted to drink myself to death. Enjoy life and if your not enjoying it, make a change. Its really not hard if you want it.

that's awesome man. i'm trying to do the same as far as lack of debt. God speed.

BlakeJustBlake · #19 05-26-2010, 01:57 AM

I've been trying to deal with anxiety disorder for about a year and a half now. It does have its ups and downs, however, right now I'm in a pretty bad down. It started because I felt the left side of my face go numb a few weeks ago and I think that has just pushed me over the edge to where I'm constantly anxious again. I fear several times a day that something is happening that will kill me in a few moments, so I constantly live in the belief and fear that I'm about to die. Sometimes it's easier for me to just ignore some feeling and say that I'm blowing it out of proportion, other times it snowballs into me pacing around, my heart beating quickly, questioning whether I should go to the hospital.

I'm always afraid to go to the doctor or to anywhere to ask anyone about anything that I'm feeling because I fear that they'll just instantly call whatever problem I'm having anxiety related, even if it truly is. Even though this affords me minor comfort, it doesn't do me as well as a test or something. Sometimes when I go to a doctor or something they treat me as if I'm wasting their time, so I'm also afraid of this. I'm afraid of wasting their time and my parents' money.

In the past few weeks I've had several x rays of my mouth, a CT scan, all of which have come back clear, seen countless doctors and been prescribed Atarax and Buspirone. Nothing has been diagnosed, other than it possibly being anxiety related. However I still feel extremely anxious because I still feel like my face can feel numb, and sometimes my left chest will feel numb, right now my left foot feels sort of numb which is new and thus a cause of anxiety, and most the time I think I'm either having a stroke or a heart attack or a blood clot or something potentially life threatening at that moment.

Also I've been having some acid reflux problems in the midst of all of this, I started a 14 day treatment of prilosec today because I've been waking up with my saliva being brown and my stomach feeling like it's burning.

Though my made up, psychological pains may not be as actually debilitating as some of yours sound, they're still extremely scary and I fear for my life constantly.

Outside of that I've been doing poorly in school because I spent the first half of it high as a kite, but only stopped because of how anxious I had become. I spent the semester before that drunk most of the time until I met my current girlfriend. So, as far as school goes I'm pretty in the hole, but I see things getting better.

The only thing that's truly been looking good for me for the past while has been playing the bass, so cheers to that keeping me going.

need4mospd · #20 05-26-2010, 08:00 AM

My mother-in-law has been living with us for a year. Oh yeah, and her 10 year old daughter who is the least disciplined turd on the planet. She's been getting roughly $1000 a month for child support which she spends on cigarettes and her $700 a month car payment. Only a couple months ago did she finally get a job which she is already wanting to quit. I had to give up my music space for a bedroom just to have them sleep on the couch.

I've been trying to be as supportive as I can knowing they came from a BAD situation. I won't get into that here as it depresses me just to think about it. I know it's hard on her to have to move in with her own daughter as her only option.

But luckily, she's moving out this July into her own place. The joy I'm experiencing at that thought are greater than graduating college, getting a new car, having a baby, and jamming in the world's best band.....combined.