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04-19-2007, 11:59 AM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Seattle, WA | | Quote:
Originally Posted by fingers  A word... when it comes to the planning part of the wedding, agree with everything and when asked your opinion respond "Hmmm, Well what do you think?" She's (and her mom) been dreaming about the big day for a long time. My daughter, who is 4, has already asked me to marry her many times. I don't think I thought about it until I was 21. Make it her day. Make her the princess. Be her prince. | ...and then say, "But honey, I'm hiring the band!"
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04-19-2007, 01:21 PM
| | | | Ok so a serious response to this thread is now required since so many of you went there.
My wife and I have been together for 17 years and married 13 in May. We still adore each other to this day. Having had a child has added even more dimension and richness to it. I wouldn't change a thing.
For us marriage requires constant attention, examination, reevaluation, and compromise. At it's core is an unwavering respect for each other especially when we disagree. That respect allows us to consider each other's point of view and adjust as required. This makes the sum of the two greater than either of us.
We are fortunate to have had 17 years together prior to having children. We know each other vary well and are adept at having fun together. We have come to love each others idiosyncrasies. I don't know how couples who are newly married when they have children get to know each other at the same time.
All the best to you two. Be kind and gentle with each other. Think only of what you can bring to the relationship each day rather than what you can take from it. If you both do that and make it a habit the result is fantastic. |
04-21-2007, 11:29 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Englewood, CO | | | Good advice.. thanks. The one thing that does seem to be very difficult for me to convey sometimes is that just because I disagree with her, doesn't mean I don't respect her point of view or think she is intelligent. I'm good at being an opinionated boar. It is really surprising how easy it is for us to hurt each other un-intentionally as we grow closer, and it takes a lot of forgiveness and patience sometimes. Scary stuff, but really exciting!
Oh, i dug up a pic...
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04-21-2007, 11:55 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Maui | | It seems that the process of learning how to a share a life with someone is always evolving. That you love this woman is a given; but I think it's really important that you also like her, and respect her individuality. Let's face it, you're going to be spending a lot of time together, so it has to be someone you really enjoy hanging out with.
I'm married to my best friend, and we both know that we have each other's backs, no matter what. Of course, there's also the advantage of having each others fronts as well. 
Nice pic, BTW. |
04-21-2007, 03:13 PM
| | | | Yea. She's hot enough. I'd do it. |
04-21-2007, 06:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Uncletoad Yea. She's hot enough. I'd do it. | haha...
I think my boss said "if she was a car, I'd buy her".
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04-21-2007, 10:34 PM
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Originally Posted by 5stringDNA haha...
I think my boss said "if she was a car, I'd buy her". | And so you shall. Many many times.... |
04-23-2007, 08:00 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Las Vegas Nv. | | | Congrats my fellow bottom freeder!! My wife and I just celebrated 31 years (one more day and she's outta here!) It's really simple to maintain a great marraige... Rule #1 don't sweat the little S*#t...rule #2 It's all little S##t, in a hundred years who's gonna care. Always have fun together,lean on each other,and make sure she knows she is your best friend...And Play Lots Of Hockey!!! you know what I mean. |
04-24-2007, 11:29 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Englewood, CO | | Quote:
Originally Posted by wingnut Congrats my fellow bottom freeder!! My wife and I just celebrated 31 years (one more day and she's outta here!) It's really simple to maintain a great marraige... Rule #1 don't sweat the little S*#t...rule #2 It's all little S##t, in a hundred years who's gonna care. Always have fun together,lean on each other,and make sure she knows she is your best friend...And Play Lots Of Hockey!!! you know what I mean. |
I played hockey from when I was 8 or so, but had to quit at 21 due to a lower back injury, unfortunately. She can't even ice skate... (yah I get it.. just being smart)
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