To those of you who are married:

[Marcus Johnson]

Originally Posted by kiwlm

I was just about to start a thread on whether your other half (not necesary spouse) enjoy the same type of music as you do. But guess the implication is almost the same!

In my case...Nope.

[Joe Taylor]

Married to a VIOLA player! Kind of says it all!


She plays viola, sings alto and play piano. She also cleans fish and talked me into buying my bass.

We play in two symphonies. That is the same tow symphonies.

Joe

[BassGuyNL]

Originally Posted by Finger Blister

My wife is a superb soprano with perfect pitch, also plays piano.

Her entire family are trained musicians.
My father in law is a professional choir director and plays guitar.
My mother in law was also a professional choir director in San Francisco and plays piano.

Many musicians on my side of the family as well.

My wife does not play music. The good side is that she thinks that anything I do on either electric or double bass is fantastic!
Looks kinda like this: Me: My dear wife:

On the other hand, I have always been kind of jealous when I'm at the house of a family like Finger Blister's (see quote), instruments lying around everywhere and music and singing all around you. I have just started a new small group (me, singer, sax, piano) to play jazz standards, and I'm lucky enough to have a music room with piano, so we can practice at my house (no drummer to freak out the neighbours!). Hopefully, our enthousiasm and the sight and sound of playing music at our house will rub off on my daughters of 2, 4 and 5 years old.

[BassGuyNL]

Originally Posted by kiwlm

I was just about to start a thread on whether your other half (not necesary spouse) enjoy the same type of music as you do. But guess the implication is almost the same!

Since I met my non-musician wife, I have been taking her to lots of jazz and fusion gigs she would not have gone to otherwise. After a while, she actually started to enjoy types of music she did not like at all before we met. One memorable show was Alain Caron, when she was about 38 weeks pregnant of our first child, who was jumping up and down quite happily on the sound (and probably sensation) of the bass.

On the other hand, although I have always been aware of his great voice, by keeping Luther Vandross albums in the CD player almost all the time, she turned me into a big fan of his.

[SleeperMan2000]

Originally Posted by Park his Johnson

My non-musician wife is totally cool with all my purchases.

That will no doubt change drastically when I stop getting work.

So you live in paradise, play bass professionally for a living, and have a wife who is totally cool with your purchases.

Next you're going to tell us she's stunningly beautiful and won't let you near the kitchen.

Let me know where you found that genie bottle!

[Marcus Johnson]

Originally Posted by SleeperMan2000

So you live in paradise, play bass professionally for a living, and have a wife who is totally cool with your purchases.

Next you're going to tell us she's stunningly beautiful and won't let you near the kitchen.

Let me know where you found that genie bottle!

She's f***in' drop-dead gorgeous, enough so that I feel honored to do all the cooking. I draw the line at clipping her toenails, though.

I met her when she rented a room in a house I was sharing with a bunch of other folks. As if Someone just pretty much dropped her into my lap, so to speak.

[Heifetzbass]

I am mainly a classical player and married the boss. That's right- she's management!

She has an arts management degree and is General Manager for one of the local orchestras. There are days when it can be tricky, but I stay neutral on all the orchestra issues. As long as I don't get too involved in the player/management issues then we have a peaceful day...

She doesn't play an instrument, but has a great love for music and supports my habit. (She makes more $$ than me.)

We have a better relationship than any of the musicians I dated over the years. I think it is better to be with a non-musician but with someone that has an appreciation for what you do.

FWIW
Brian

[Danny Adair]

We performed together in high school groups; it's how we were acquainted. Since then she's given up the flute, which is a crying shame because she was awfully good.

[.matthew e wengerd.]

it took a flute-playing wife to understand mine.

[Don Higdon]

I never tell my wife what I spend on a bass, and she never asks, not even when I had 7 of them. We have an understanding that when it's over, I'll be ahead dollar-wise.

She was a soprano in the all-state chorus. A permanently ruptured ear drum ended all that.

[Ed Fuqua]

I don't think the musician/non-musician thing is as important as a spouse that understands the creative impulse. Buddy of mine has a wife that thinks it's fine when he is doing gigs, cause he's making money. What she has trouble with is the sessions, rehearsals, practicing etc. It's like "if you ain't getting paid, why are you bothering?"

Instrument purchases have to be considered in the enviroment of the group's economic realities. If you are carrying a lot of debt and you want to spend $10K on an instrument, that's harder than spending $20K on one if you have the mortgage paid off.

It's a tougher call when you want a new instrument and the wife (be she corporate executive or second trombone) wants to get the kitchen redone...

[Edwcdc]

Originally Posted by Ed Fuqua

I don't think the musician/non-musician thing is as important as a spouse that understands the creative impulse. Buddy of mine has a wife that thinks it's fine when he is doing gigs, cause he's making money. What she has trouble with is the sessions, rehearsals, practicing etc. It's like "if you ain't getting paid, why are you bothering?"

Instrument purchases have to be considered in the enviroment of the group's economic realities. If you are carrying a lot of debt and you want to spend $10K on an instrument, that's harder than spending $20K on one if you have the mortgage paid off.

It's a tougher call when you want a new instrument and the wife (be she corporate executive or second trombone) wants to get the kitchen redone...

Funny that you mentioned the kitchen thing. Seems as of late when I bring up a potential purchase with the finance department, (aka the wife) she throws the new kitchen thing in my face. Today she was trying to drag me on a vacation in August that I don't want to go on so I suggested we spend the money on a new kitchen instead. She bought it. Maybe I will have a new bass by October.

[Edwcdc]

Oh, not to get off track. She is pretty much tone deaf, can't sing at all. Dosen't play anything except me.