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[bassbully]

Originally Posted by Krause

Talked to the x-wife last night, and she told me to take everything. The sofa, bed, TV, car, stereo, take it all she said I don't want them, and she is going pay the morgage. She wants out fast.

Also talked to the band, and they are talking about having me replace there bass player. And they seemed pretty happy that I am now availabile.

I guess things do happen for a reason.

Thanks al lot for all the advice about my situation and what I need to do. This is why I love this fourm.

Something smells here. I know the sound of that statement and it normally means i found someone else and am washing away my life of you...been there

Do get legal advice..dont trust her...it could ruin you.

Good job on the gig...hope you get it!!

[jmattbassplaya]

I`m not a lawyer or anything so take this with a huge grain of salt - By no means let her be paying the mortgage 100% by herself. Seek legal advise now and keep doing payments towards the house yourself.

[Stumbo]

So what did your lawyer say?

I suggest you read through this before you let things go any further: http://www.divorcenet.com/states/ohio/ohfaq02

If she's at fault for the divorce, it seems that she'll owe you a bundle. It also appears that you should file first.

[xgator4u]

Screw that, MAKE her sell the house. If she wants to buy it fine, but sell it to someone, and get out of that mortgage. You do not need that kind of responsibility,nor the obligation. What about when YOU decide to buy a house or rent one, and they say well, you cannot qualify for the payments because you have THIS mortgage/obligation. They will not try to hear " well my x-wife is paying that". ALSO, do you REALLY want her living there in your house with some other dude? SELL the house, and get all of the other stuff QUICK, before she changes her mind.

[bluewine]

Originally Posted by DeluxeRed

Time to lawyer-up, buddy. If your name is on the mortgage--either alone or as a couple--then YOU are responsible for paying it. If she stops paying, the hammer comes down on YOU. And mortgage companies really don't like taking one of the applicants off of a note, because then they have one less person to go after if they foreclose. YOU still owe the money. All of it. It doesn't matter who lives there, it doesn't matter what arrangement you make with her (short of a court order compelling her to pay). WATCH YOUR BACK! A foreclosure could haunt your for the rest of your life! Especially when you want that gig (or job or car or loan) but they won't insure you because your credit rating is trashed.

yeah, in this case get a lawyer, if there are no kids, you could come out of this as clean and free as a 17 year old bass player on tour. WOW! how cool would that be. NICE!

[bluewine]

Originally Posted by xgator4u

Screw that, MAKE her sell the house. If she wants to buy it fine, but sell it to someone, and get out of that mortgage. You do not need that kind of responsibility,nor the obligation. What about when YOU decide to buy a house or rent one, and they say well, you cannot qualify for the payments because you have THIS mortgage/obligation. They will not try to hear " well my x-wife is paying that". ALSO, do you REALLY want her living there in your house with some other dude? SELL the house, and get all of the other stuff QUICK, before she changes her mind.

+1 Do it, I've been there.

[nortonrider]

People Change! Sucks, but it happens.

Sorry to hear about your breakup, it's never a good feeling when it happens to you.

I would get in touch with the band and let them know that your situation has changed and that you would like another shot. What's the worst that could happen?