Bandmate demanding you play after surgery

SMILEYSIXX · #1 07-17-2011, 09:08 AM

Tomorrow I have to have an emergency procedure to remove my wisdom teeth. Recording was supposed to happen Friday, but I can't practice. How would you respond if you were in this situation, a bandmate responded by demanding you practice after this kind of procedure.

dmusic148 · #2 07-17-2011, 09:12 AM

You'll be doped up on pain meds, and probably won't be able to drive anyway. But see how you feel. If you're up to it, great. If not, tell him to go front himself.

RedLeg · #3 07-17-2011, 09:12 AM

1. tell him no can do, and that he should understand the reason why.
or
2. tell him you will not be 100% due to pain and pain killers and the practice will produce diminished returns.

jonathanhughes · #4 07-17-2011, 09:13 AM

Fire him. Seriously, anyone who is incapable of understanding the situation is not worth playing with. I had all mine taken out at once, and it's not fun. You've got big gaping holes in your mouth packed with bloody gauze. You're not going to want to do much of anything for a few days, and I'm sure doing things like lifting amps would not be recommended by your dentist.

MuzikMan · #5 07-17-2011, 09:16 AM

I would tell him you will try but you are going to use reasonable judgement. If you are in no condition then dont't go. Oh well, you tried.

Honestly, if someone doesn't understand that then they are unreasonable people. Even the most tyrant boss I ever had at work wouldn't try to bring me in loaded up on pain killers.

Papa Dangerous · #6 07-17-2011, 09:18 AM

punch him in the face, steal his teeth, then demand he practices while making you a sandwich. Make the ninny where an apron with cupcakes and flowers.

Gearhead17 · #7 07-17-2011, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by SMILEYSIXX

Tomorrow I have to have an emergency procedure to remove my wisdom teeth. Recording was supposed to happen Friday, but I can't practice. How would you respond if you were in this situation, a bandmate responded by demanding you practice after this kind of procedure.

Are you getting your wisdom teeth out on Monday? By later Tuesday and into Wednesday you should be fine granted you do not go to a butcher to do the procedure. If the surgery is worse than what I referring too, you just need to tell your band mate what the doctor is telling you. If he does not listen, get the heck out of the band or fire him. Complete BS if he is trying to get you to record when you are screwed on drugs and/or in severe pain.

Rockman · #8 07-17-2011, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Gearhead17

Are you getting your wisdom teeth out on Monday? By later Tuesday and into Wednesday you should be fine granted you do not go to a butcher to do the procedure. If the surgery is worse than what I referring too, you just need to tell your band mate what the doctor is telling you. If he does not listen, get the heck out of the band or fire him. Complete BS if he is trying to get you to record when you are screwed on drugs and/or in severe pain.

Depends if he's ok with anesthesia. Getting my wisdom teeth removed was the first time I've ever been put under and I found out that it really makes me quite nauseous, as in I spent the next 36 hours next to a toilet. But I've also known people who got their teeth removed then went to work/school the next day so it depends.

pedroims · #9 07-17-2011, 09:32 AM

if surgery is Monday then you should be ready for work by Wednesday, Friday you can have a beer. Wisdom teeth removal are not bad, they just cut a little and pull the theeth. You may want to stay Monday and Tuesday at home since you will be spitting blood as hell.

SMILEYSIXX · #10 07-17-2011, 09:33 AM

Last time I got them out, I was out for a week. My wounds didn't heal for five days and I was coughing up blood. I'll skip the details, but if it's anything like last time, I'm out. And before anyone says it, rescheduling is not an option, it's an emergency procedure.

And I'm not gonna go crazy doping myself up just to practice.

SMILEYSIXX · #11 07-17-2011, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Rockman

Depends if he's ok with anesthesia. Getting my wisdom teeth removed was the first time I've ever been put under and I found out that it really makes me quite nauseous, as in I spent the next 36 hours next to a toilet. But I've also known people who got their teeth removed then went to work/school the next day so it depends.

This too. Drugs make me nauseous, but not numb.

TwinBass · #12 07-17-2011, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Papa Dangerous

punch him in the face, steal his teeth, then demand he practices while making you a sandwich. Make the ninny wear an apron with cupcakes and flowers.

invader3k · #13 07-17-2011, 10:55 AM

Not much to add, but I once did a gig a couple weeks before a hernia surgery. One of the most painful evenings of my life.

Joe Louvar · #14 07-17-2011, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by SMILEYSIXX

Tomorrow I have to have an emergency procedure to remove my wisdom teeth. Recording was supposed to happen Friday, but I can't practice. How would you respond if you were in this situation, a bandmate responded by demanding you practice after this kind of procedure.

I'd still go play and record - but maybe that's just me. I hope it all works out good for you.

drpepper · #15 07-17-2011, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by SMILEYSIXX

Tomorrow I have to have an emergency procedure to remove my wisdom teeth. Recording was supposed to happen Friday, but I can't practice. How would you respond if you were in this situation, a bandmate responded by demanding you practice after this kind of procedure.

Um...if I couldn't do it, I tell them I couldn't do it. If I could do it, I'd say ok. That's just me though.

prd004 · #16 07-17-2011, 11:07 AM

Hmmmmmm.........

I had surgury on my index finger a few years back after a work accident. It was nasty, my finger was the size of a sausage, completely dark purple, and I had seven stitches in it (on the palm side). My band leader got pissed at me because I wouldn't do a gig on Congas that same saturday! What a prick! So I feel you, but.......

Getting your wisdom teeth out is no big deal, I had my top ones removed about fifteen years ago and did a gig the next night. Had my bottom ones removed seven years ago and could have played the same night. It's not that big of a deal.

**jmattbassplaya** · #17 07-17-2011, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Gearhead17

Are you getting your wisdom teeth out on Monday? By later Tuesday and into Wednesday you should be fine granted you do not go to a butcher to do the procedure. If the surgery is worse than what I referring too, you just need to tell your band mate what the doctor is telling you. If he does not listen, get the heck out of the band or fire him. Complete BS if he is trying to get you to record when you are screwed on drugs and/or in severe pain.

It took me longer than a day or two to recover from my procedure. More like four or five.

Zooberwerx · #18 07-17-2011, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Gearhead17

Are you getting your wisdom teeth out on Monday? By later Tuesday and into Wednesday you should be fine granted you do not go to a butcher to do the procedure. If the surgery is worse than what I referring too, you just need to tell your band mate what the doctor is telling you. If he does not listen, get the heck out of the band or fire him. Complete BS if he is trying to get you to record when you are screwed on drugs and/or in severe pain.

Hmmm...that was pretty much a prerequisite for a handful of artists back in the 60's and 70's.

Bottom line: you don't have a clue as to how you'll respond following the procedure. You may be chirpy as a chipmunk or driving the porcelain bus. Either way, tell the guy to pound sand. FWIW, I'm gonna guess that this type of behavior (on his part) is nothing new. Another tip: don't chew Vicodin.

Riis...survivor of multiple broken ribs, cardiac stents, 3 hernia surgeries, septic shock, and wisdom teeth extraction.

DanNowhere · #19 07-17-2011, 01:17 PM

as long as you haven't had your middle finger surgically removed, you should be able to answer him properly.

Kael · #20 07-17-2011, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Papa Dangerous

punch him in the face, steal his teeth, then demand he practices while making you a sandwich. Make the ninny where an apron with cupcakes and flowers.

I like this guy. He's a good thinker.

Tell the A-hole no. If he has a problem with that, let it be that. His problem. You are having surgery. This is an excused absence. If he raises a ruckus beyond that, let him. You are clearly in the right here. The more people he complains about this to, the more he will be cutting his own throat by looking unreasonable. Give him some rope. He'll hang himself.