| Over the years I've learned (and forgot until recently) that the best thing is to sit down and talk it out. Be very open and very honest with your feelings. You can sneak around, and tell lies, but eventually, you are going to have to have that talk. Get it out of the way up front. Remember not to insult or raise your voice. Have a nice conversation. A story....A few years ago, I was in a band that was looking for a new drummer. Instead of telling him, we were looking for a new guy behind his back. We put up an ad on craig's list or something, and who should answer, but our original drummer. Turned out, he was having second thoughts about the band too, and if we just talked to him, it would have gone a lot smoother. | 
