To leave or not to leave?

[Pills Are Yummy]

Really not enjoying my new band. However, the only reason I haven't left yet is A:their high success rate
And B: I have no place else to go. You'd be surprised at the number of people who would rather sit and play Metallica covers alone in their bedroom. Impossible forming a new band.

[kjpollo]

Kinda need a little more info about WHY you're not happy in the band.
What's causing the stress? Band personalities? Money? Material?

[bluewine]

Originally Posted by kjpollo

Kinda need a little more info about WHY you're not happy in the band.
What's causing the stress? Band personalities? Money? Material?

Yeah, I really don't understand the post.

Blue

[mjac28]

Originally Posted by Pills Are Yummy

You'd be surprised at the number of people who would rather sit and play Metallica covers alone in their bedroom.

Yeah to avoid this kind of drama.

[skychief]

Your dilemma has a perfect analog in the professional (non-music) world. Sometimes we find ourselves in a job where the pay is good, but we dont really enjoy making widgets, and dont really care for our co-workers.

So we ask ourselves "should I quit my current job and risk being unemployed for a while, or just bite my lip and continue in this grind im in?"

Only you can really decide this. You have a much better perspective of your current situation that we do. All our combined advice and 2 bucks will get you a coffee at Starbucks.

I think thats what kjpollo what alluding to.

[refbassist]

I'd rather be in a crappy band that gigs alot than be in a no band at all,it has it's down side as well but it all goes back to you and what reasons you have.

[SactoBass]

Originally Posted by Pills Are Yummy

Impossible forming a new band.

If you have yourself convinced that it is indeed impossible, then you have two choices: stay in the existing band, or don't be in a band at all. Nobody here on TB can tell you which to choose. It's your call.

Since you posted on TB asking for input, here's mine: you might want to reconsider that word "impossible."

Take care, and best of luck to you whichever route you choose.

[jmattbassplaya]

Originally Posted by refbassist

I'd rather be in a crappy band that gigs alot than be in a no band at all,it has it's down side as well but it all goes back to you and what reasons you have.

I wouldn't. It's embarrassing to be on stage when you're playing with a crappy band.

[pklima]

If they're having a lot of success, then at least they have to have it together to some degree, right?

It's hard to say much more without knowing why you don't like this band, but my advice would probably be stick around while looking for another band.

[Floyd Eye]

If the band is doing well, you don't hate the other players and the music doesn't make you sick, you may as well stay if you don't have anything else going. At a minimum the gig money will come in handy right?

[Johnny Crab]

I suspect Rush's original drummer probably had the same thoughts and so he left.

[ChrisB2]

Don't leave.

The job analogy is pretty true except that with a job there is normally a lot of weight surrounding the question of whether to stay or not, whereas with a band it's usually a much less serious decision.

[hrodbert696]

First rule of wing walking:

Do not let go of one thing until you have a firm grasp on another.

Good advice for lots of situations.

[refbassist]

Originally Posted by jmattbassplaya

I wouldn't. It's embarrassing to be on stage when you're playing with a crappy band.

Agreed but they won't be so embarrassing if they gig much,i didn't mean crappy as in drummer who can't count.

[1958Bassman]

Originally Posted by Johnny Crab

I suspect Rush's original drummer probably had the same thoughts and so he left.

What? He was diabetic and sick.

[QORC]

Originally Posted by 1958Bassman

What? He was diabetic and sick.

Also left due to "musical differences". His health wasn't that bad back then. In fact, in later years, he got into body building in a real major way. I think in the "Limelight" documentary, Alex opines that Rutsey left because he really didn't want to go on their first big tour. The Rush wiki page said he had a "distaste for touring." And another page said that he definitely had "different ideas about the musical direction" of Rush compared to Alex and Geddy.

[MarkMgibson]

Originally Posted by QORC

Also left due to "musical differences". His health wasn't that bad back then. In fact, in later years, he got into body building in a real major way. I think in the "Limelight" documentary, Alex opines that Rutsey left because he really didn't want to go on their first big tour. The Rush wiki page said he had a "distaste for touring." And another page said that he definitely had "different ideas about the musical direction" of Rush compared to Alex and Geddy.

Perhaps he simply had good taste.

[vlado]

I'm always up for a clean cut. Do your own thing, write songs, something will come up, better then being unhappy and not doing anything about it.

[Kmonk]

Originally Posted by hrodbert696

First rule of wing walking:

Do not let go of one thing until you have a firm grasp on another.

Good advice for lots of situations.

I disagree. If the OP is unhappy, he should leave. Nothing good will come from staying with a band that he doesn't enjoy playing with. If he leaves, he can focus in what he wants to do without worrying about the current band. I've been in bands where I wasn't happy and it takes all the fun out of playing.

[bluewine]

Originally Posted by vlado

I'm always up for a clean cut. Do your own thing, write songs, something will come up, better then being unhappy and not doing anything about it.

There seems to be this notion that everybody can write songs in this forum?

Blue