Only woman. dealing with the guys

[MarkMgibson]

Originally Posted by Bert Slide

....and what's the best bass for a beatdown?


A white P bass of course, just ask Sid:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXCvQDCc0Zc

He should have done it before the show started; it would have improved their sound enormously.

[Downunderwonder]

Originally Posted by Jazzdogg

We have only your side of the story to go on, and your initial post didn't exactly establish your credibility, so the only thing I can offer is this:

Remain above the fray. Comport yourself as a professional. Do not engage in emotion-based exchanges. Do not mistake kindness for weakness. If you can remain dispassionate, assertive, and calm in the face of these taunts, you are likely to be considered someone not to mess with.

Good luck.

Very good advice. Head cases get freaked out when targets don't play along with their drama.

[Downunderwonder]

Originally Posted by Stumbo

Seems my problems are not much different than most other people's band problems. Although... I'm about to have a serious conversation tomorrow with the drummer because of his relationship drama.

Last week at our gig, his new chick was kissing the ass of his girlfriend. Playing like she's trying to be friends with her. Whatever, I don't really care but their stupid drama spilled over to me. I'm not exactly sure why and, again, don't really care.

Until the new chic wants to kick my ass. And that's where the lined got crossed.

I'm the only woman in the band & I've already mentioned I don't wanna deal with any jealous crazy bitches.

But it seems I need to elaborate this more to him. I have talked to a couple of the other guys and they agree that it was out of line. Basically its been said that these chicks are all interchangeable but I'm permanent.

Which makes me feel valued as a band member.

I love the music & all my mates, but I do not think I should have to deal with whatever chick problems they have.

Any advice to have this conversation go smoothly is appreciated.

A little too much, far too late, but take note OP! Phones have return keys.

[Session1969]

Originally Posted by nortonrider

Try this:
The next time that she gives you attitude,
calmly ask her.... "What's your problem?"

sometimes the best way to handle an issue with another person is
head on - face to face.

When she sees that your not intimidated, I bet she backs off. I'd make her accountable in a way that let's her know that if she keeps it up she won't be allowed around the band.

[PluckyThump]

Any band with attractive young single people in it, especially females, is going to get this sort of thing happening. You seem to have dealt with it well thus far; just know that it will happen again. Talk about it with the rest of the band ahead of time to make sure they will back you up in those situations. It should go without saying but sometimes men think with the wrong head, if you know what I mean.