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08-29-2009, 05:44 AM
|  | Whitest Reggae Artist | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Sarasota, Florida | | | Should this be my last straw?
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Okay, so I got my band an interview on a pretty big FM radio station a few weeks back. The date rolled around, and everybody got to the station this morning. Without me.
The lead singer, rhythm guitarist, and drummer promised me they'd get me a ride. They completely forgot me, having me wake up at 5 and wait around like a complete ass, going and royally messing up the interview I got for them.
Shouldn't I be mad? How should I confront them? |
08-29-2009, 08:46 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Plano, TX | | | You could maybe buy a car?
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08-29-2009, 08:47 AM
| | Whitest Reggae Artist | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Sarasota, Florida | | | If you want to buy it for me, I'll gladly get take it! |
08-29-2009, 10:34 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Suburbs of Chicago | | | That's what I call a b*tch move! I'd be pretty pissed, I'm sorry about that. |
08-29-2009, 10:35 AM
|  | *kidding* | | Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Northern California | | | Get them another interview, then tell them all about it- the next day.
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08-29-2009, 11:06 AM
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Originally Posted by Armbruster Okay, so I got my band an interview on a pretty big FM radio station a few weeks back. The date rolled around, and everybody got to the station this morning. Without me.
The lead singer, rhythm guitarist, and drummer promised me they'd get me a ride. They completely forgot me, having me wake up at 5 and wait around like a complete ass, going and royally messing up the interview I got for them.
Shouldn't I be mad? How should I confront them? | if arrangements were made,and confirmed and they at least to called to let you know that someone had to bail or a car didn't start or whatever i could see it.....but it sounds to me like you are dealing with kids here.....in my job the rule of thumb is that if there is a problem with something calls are made to give people the maximum amount of time to make other arrangements...anything else is not acceptable
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08-29-2009, 11:24 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Portland Oregon | | | Give me a ride or buy me a car huh? Dude , get your ducks in line, and you wont have to rely on others to line up your ducks.
Oh, and never listen to drummers.... they bang things with sticks for a living.
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08-29-2009, 11:31 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: South Florida, in the U.S.A. | | Quote:
Originally Posted by Armbruster interview They completely forgot me |
UNLIKELY, they probably left you behind on purpose.
So what, you could not take a cab, or a bus, or get a ride? You could have called the radio station and been in on the interview VIA telephone. Or did you just sit at home listening to them on the radio?
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08-29-2009, 11:33 AM
|  | You don't want to do that. Trust me. Forum Administrator | | Join Date: Mar 2000 Location: atlanta ga | | | -TAXI-.
four little letters that mean "never have to bum a ride again".
seriously, bub. nobody likes a mooch. be responsible for yourself.
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08-29-2009, 11:40 AM
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But the band agreed to a plan, then ditched the bassist and proceeded with the interview as if he didn't exist. Nobody said: "Dudes, where's the bassist?"
Possibly the most vital personal skill for a musician is reliability. In seventh grade band, the teacher told us that the only way to get a failing grade was by missing the concert. If these guys can blow you off for an interview, they will blow off a gig if they decide at the last minute that they have something better to do.
Let the band learn that good bassists are hard to find. |
08-29-2009, 12:18 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Halifax, NS, Canada | | Quote:
Originally Posted by fdeck In seventh grade band, the teacher told us that the only way to get a failing grade was by missing the concert. | NICE!!! Thanks fdeck.
I can see the points made about transportation (spinning off a DUI myself). But my take is OP more than did his share of teamwork in getting the interview. Unless this was a rare case of crossed wires (It happens. "Me?!? Shoot, I thought we'd agreed YOU were picking him up." It happens more before coffee kicks in.) this is a large minus for this band's ability to get things done. |
08-29-2009, 12:21 PM
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Originally Posted by fdeck Let the band learn that good bassists are hard to find. | Thats it, right there.
let them look around for a while to find a decent bassist, then see how appreciative they are of you.
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08-29-2009, 12:39 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Boston, MA | | | If time between the moment you realized they forgot you and the time of the interview was large enough, you could've just called a taxi and gotten there yourself.
True, your band is a band of dicks for forgetting the guy who set up the interview in the first place (and promptly screwing it up); however, you need to have a backup plan for this kind of thing.
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08-29-2009, 12:40 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2009 Location: Omaha, NE | | Quote:
Originally Posted by fdeck Let the band learn that good bassists are hard to find. | But in order to do that, they'll have to work with someone else. Furthermore, I don't know about you guys, but I'd NEVER go back to a band that kicked me out. |
08-29-2009, 12:53 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Halifax, NS, Canada | | | I don't know that anyone's suggesting OP then go back to that band. Nor that they would be kicking him out.
The implied flow I get is that "Band" X goes through several bassists, having them all leave after being treated worse than a mic stand, then decides they should treat bandmembers better, then lands AND KEEPS a good bassist. Some learn this quickly, & some never do. |
08-29-2009, 12:59 PM
| | | | Maybe they were sick of having to haul you around or get you rides and wanted to make a point. Or for whatever reason...they were still trying to send you a message. If you're interested in staying with these mates, it might behoove you to find out what that message is. |
08-29-2009, 01:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Armbruster Should this be my last straw? | This implies that there have been some other occasions in which you've been unhappy... Ultimately it's how you feel and what else has been done. While I agree with the others about finding your own transportation, this would seem like a last straw issue if the others have been this bad...
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08-29-2009, 01:11 PM
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Originally Posted by DeluxeRed Maybe they were sick of having to haul you around or get you rides and wanted to make a point. Or for whatever reason...they were still trying to send you a message. If you're interested in staying with these mates, it might behoove you to find out what that message is. | And +1
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08-29-2009, 01:16 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Hunt. Co., New Jersey | | | Believe it or not everybody..... there ARENT always taxi's to be had in areas. If I had to call a taxi, it would take 30 mins for them just TO GET TO my place.
It sounds like your under appreciated. Call them all up and give them a piece of your mind, and If they dont like it, walk.
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08-29-2009, 01:22 PM
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