My band and I are planning our Cd release right now and as part of our set we decided to include Call Me Al by Paul Simon. The rest of our set is pretty bass minimal since we're a folk-bluegrass band and have no drummer (so I end up having to play a lot of 1-5 basslines and can't play around too much with the rhythm). SO, needless to say, I was pretty psyched to have such a fun bass song suggested and am learning a slighty simpler version (see: no drummer and also I don't slap).
Today, one of the band members told me one of our bass player friends is not doing so hot since he quit his band and would love to jump in and play that song at our CD release. He could do a better job than me, objectively, since he is a slap genius. But non objectively, this kinda pisses me off cause it's litterally one of 2 songs on our set where I'm doing anything remotely difficult. I'm also a girl, trying to get gigs with other bands (because this band plays approx. 2 times a year) and be taken seriously.
So my problme basically boils down to 1) it's the most fun song, in a set that's kind of boring for me. 2) it undermines me in a boys club (awww you play so good for a girl! but we got a *real* bass player in for the tough song) 3)He's a cool guy and can play it way better than me. 4) it's my first CD release.
Thoughts? Opinions on how I should react?