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09-28-2009, 04:02 PM
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What is it about playing in a band that turns grown and responsible adults into self-centered, immature brats?
It doesn't happen everywhere, but I've seen it happen enough to wonder why. Any ideas? |
09-28-2009, 04:10 PM
|  | The Lowdown Diggler | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Huntington Beach, CA | | | Because when you join a band, you're not just becoming a part of a group of musicians, but you're also becoming part of a bicker family. |
09-28-2009, 04:15 PM
|  | Expendable | | Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Shreveport, Louisiana | | | It's all the jealousy, frustration, and back-biting you get from a sexual relationship without the sex. (Where's Freud when you need him?)
Just look at Metallica - or even their "evil ex-wife" Dave Mustaine! |
09-28-2009, 04:17 PM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: West Covina (LA), SoCal | | | I find those 'self-centered, immature brats' are usually not just that way with the band, but all the time... with their wives, kids, families, friends, etc. Theyre just tools.
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09-28-2009, 04:26 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2009 Location: Canyon Country, CA | | Quote:
Originally Posted by jive1  What is it about playing in a band that turns grown and responsible adults into self-centered, immature brats?
It doesn't happen everywhere, but I've seen it happen enough to wonder why. Any ideas? | 1. It's what rock and roll does to ya
2. It's called playing for a reason. Most of the musicians I've known are musicians because they are ill suited for most other career paths.
3. Artistic people are usually goofy. |
09-28-2009, 04:34 PM
| | Expendable | | Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Shreveport, Louisiana | | Quote:
Originally Posted by socialleper Artistic people are usually goofy. | Lol. |
09-28-2009, 04:36 PM
|  | Hip No Ties | | Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: New York, NY | | Quote:
Originally Posted by jive1 What is it about playing in a band that turns grown and responsible adults into self-centered, immature brats?
It doesn't happen everywhere, but I've seen it happen enough to wonder why. Any ideas? | Ego. Striving for cheap glory. Tolerance for dysfunctional behavior implied by "the artist mystique". Booze and drugs... 
MM
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09-28-2009, 04:49 PM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2008 Location: Bozeman, Montana | | | Or as we like to say: Douche bags.
There are plenty of them here in Montana. |
09-28-2009, 05:03 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: DFW, TX | | | Being in a band is kind of like being in a marriage. The differences being there's usually no sex in the band, and you typically spend more than one rehearsal time auditioning a spouse.
I agree that being in a band doesn't change people though. The tools were tools before they joined the band. You just didn't necessarily see it. |
09-28-2009, 10:06 PM
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Originally Posted by socialleper
3. Artistic people are usually goofy.
| There you go 
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09-28-2009, 10:15 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: KS | | | we would get along better if everyone would just do everything MY WAY! |
09-28-2009, 10:25 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brookfield, CT | | Quote:
Originally Posted by MysticMichael Ego. Striving for cheap glory. Tolerance for dysfunctional behavior implied by "the artist mystique". Booze and drugs...
MM | +1 for ego. Funny how the worst players usually seem to have the biggest ego's, isn't it?
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09-28-2009, 11:42 PM
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Originally Posted by J-Razz we would get along better if everyone would just do everything MY WAY! | Hahahha this +e^(999999999) |
09-28-2009, 11:55 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Sydney, Australia | | | I have a "friend" whose so self centred, he actually makes himself out to be this great guitar guru despite not even knowing how to use his equipment right. Tries to pass off as "better than you" because he studies a music course (in performance mind you...) at a private college. Funny thing is he has mad stage fright and has never played in front of a group bigger than 5 people...and on that one occasion he nearly fainted.
He's like that with everything else too. He reckons because he's a musician everyone gives a crap about his life and/or personal life. Like socialleper posted in here earlier..."Most of the musicians I've known are musicians because they are ill suited for most other career paths". He's completely hollow and can't hold a conversation without somehow coming back to bragging about his guitar/rig/course. And when he DOES talk about something else, he won't listen to what you say...just get his "opinion" in and disregard everything else.
Tools. They're everywhere. |
09-29-2009, 01:12 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Phoenix, AZ | | Quote:
Originally Posted by dmusic148 Funny how the worst players usually seem to have the biggest ego's, isn't it? | Very funny!
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09-29-2009, 06:03 AM
| | Bassists do it with 2 fingers...and a thumb | | Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: East Coast | | Quote:
Originally Posted by jive1 What is it about playing in a band that turns grown and responsible adults into self-centered, immature brats?
It doesn't happen everywhere, but I've seen it happen enough to wonder why. Any ideas? | RAMPANT among lead singers, in my experience.
I'm not sure that these types of narcissistic, huge egos weren't already that way when they decided to play music.
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09-29-2009, 07:24 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Blimp City | | Quote:
Originally Posted by El Raro I have a "friend" whose so self centred, he actually makes himself out to be this great guitar guru despite not even knowing how to use his equipment right. Tries to pass off as "better than you" because he studies a music course (in performance mind you...) at a private college. Funny thing is he has mad stage fright and has never played in front of a group bigger than 5 people...and on that one occasion he nearly fainted.
He's like that with everything else too. He reckons because he's a musician everyone gives a crap about his life and/or personal life. Like socialleper posted in here earlier..."Most of the musicians I've known are musicians because they are ill suited for most other career paths". He's completely hollow and can't hold a conversation without somehow coming back to bragging about his guitar/rig/course. And when he DOES talk about something else, he won't listen to what you say...just get his "opinion" in and disregard everything else.
Tools. They're everywhere. | An you call him a Friend? People like that crack me up. I think they read way into the whole I am a rock star lifestyle with out having a shot or a clue at living it. I have about .5 seconds for them in my life. You will find allot of these folks...homeless, sleeping on others couches, basements etc , living with parents into thier adult years. Unemployed, broke, addicted, mootching off anyone who will allow it. They are clueless allowing life to pass them by chasing dreams that will never be
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09-29-2009, 07:45 AM
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Endorsing Artist: Kohlman Bassworks | | Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Hampton Roads, Virginia | | | I think what it is.........is that deep inside, there are different levels of commitment, actual skill, desire to play with 'good' musicians as opposed to just 'playing', etc.
I'll speak for myself! Many times I get in situations where most of the musicians have NO idea how to play in an ensemble setting. Meaning knowing how to blend in and create a solid sonic balance. Also I encounter musicians who just don't do their homework or practice their instrument except when they come to rehearsal. Also, there are musicians/singers who really believe they have 'pro' talent when they REALLY DO NOT and act like primadonnas or stars! Then you have your drinkers and druggers. You have those with no transportation or gear/poor gear! These are the main issues that bug the hell outta me! |
09-29-2009, 07:56 AM
| | Superiorpine | | Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Milwaukee WI | | | Because making music is a personal statement. Everyone wants to be loved, and muscians are no exception. The whole thing introduces a level of vulnerability not experienced in other parts of life. Some people do well with it but many don't. It seems that musician personality profiles do not follow the usual bell shaped curve of personality type distribution. Instead, the distribution is flat, to the point where anything near normal is in the minority, and there is an emphasis on the extremes. Go figure. |
09-29-2009, 08:08 AM
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Originally Posted by J-Razz we would get along better if everyone would just do everything MY WAY! | That's pretty much it! | | Thread Tools | Search this Thread | | | | 
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