The Mode is great in big cities but useless in smaller communities. I've used Craigslist and the local music store, Alpha Music, has an online bulletin board. The biggest issue I have (not the bulletin boards fault) is in which the ads are being placed. The vagueness of ads is quite alarming and distressing, to me at least! You're forced to e-mail each other back and forth several times just to get some basic info or you have to call. I'm not a big 'phone' person. My thing is, if you're looking for something, state exactly what it is you're looking for! So basically, I place my own ads, with full disclosure, and let folks contact me. I put everything on the line in my ads. Age, rig, preferred styles of music, years experience, type of band/musicians, links to pics/demos, etc., etc.
http://norfolk.craigslist.org/muc/ http://www.alpha-music.com/productcart/pc/WantAds.asp http://www.themode.com/catlist/a757