I have small hands with small fingers to match, smaller than some women hands i've seen. :P Contrary to most advice i got, a short-scale is not recommended unless you have short *arms*, dealing with a particularily beefy neck or just like the sound of a shorter scale.
My recommendation is finding a Thin neck, coupled with maybe a small width nut, though thats optional, i play a washie with a pretty wide nut (42mm - almost like a P) and long neck (still 34" though) but its thin enough to be playable in the low frets.
I'd recommend trying out Ibanez or ESP/LTDs they have really playable necks for small hands, but pretty much everything works except SX(essex) because of the incredibley chunky necks, MMs are also a bit of a stretch but they still work(for small hands).
Washburn (Redux) #39, Mediocre Bassist #897.