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Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by WowSuchPunx, Feb 17, 2014.


  1. WowSuchPunx

    WowSuchPunx

    Feb 17, 2014
    Hey everyone, I need some advice. The backup guitar player in my band is just so atrociously terrible, like seriously, its bad. He can't even play a power chord. He takes no time to practice ever and just wants to show off to girls that he's in a band. He's a really close friend and I don't want to kick him out. Can someone please tell me what to do. I'm really conflicted.
     
  2. Got2SadowskyNYC

    Got2SadowskyNYC

    Dec 5, 2012
    Nashville, TN
    Disclosures:
    Artist: Sadowsky, Bag End, Visual Sound, Pedaltrain, George L
    If he sucks, kick him out. It's either that or let him embarrass the band as a whole. He'll probably take it personal. All you can do is assure him that it's not and spell out the reasons he has to go. He'll either be an adult about it (understand and learn from it) or he won't. That's not really your problem.

    (Yes. I've done this very thing. I've also had it done to me.)
     
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  4. tangentmusic

    tangentmusic A figment of our exaggeration

    Aug 17, 2007
    Way Out West
    You need more musically serious friends. No posers. No pretend guitar playing.
    Record your practice and let him hear for himself just how bad he is. He will:

    a) Get serious about his playing
    b) Get embarrassed enough to quit on his own

    If this wont work you must rid him from the band
     
  5. bagpipeswest

    bagpipeswest

    Apr 30, 2013
    Victoria BC
    When I answered an add to join a band I didn't know how to play. I learned the bass from the Guitar player. But I also practice alot. If you want to spend the time to help him play and if you think he has got it in him to achieve it, then do so. have long intense practices just to two of you. make him work. If there is no constant improvement then out he goes.
     
  6. sparkyfender2

    sparkyfender2

    Nov 25, 2013
    Do girls really still care about guys in a band?
     
  7. WowSuchPunx

    WowSuchPunx

    Feb 17, 2014

    No haha. But he thinks they do.
     
  8. WowSuchPunx

    WowSuchPunx

    Feb 17, 2014

    I completely agree, our lead guitar player is phenomenal. And, not to pat myself on the back, am I pretty good bass player. We've done recordings of practice and he seems to not even notice his inability to play. I don't want to get rid of him, but I'm afraid I might have to.
     
  9. Spent

    Spent Supporting Member

    May 15, 2011
    Upstate NY
    We just fired one of our guitarists and it wasn't easy. He's a great guy, but the reality was he wasn't helping. We played gig without him and it was tighter than with him. In the end, we just had to decide if it was worth paying him to add nothing to the band. You might want to record yourselves and play it back. If he's really that bad and he's a friend, he'll do the right thing and quit.
     
  10. Rhythm guitar has a skillset of its own. Few really excel at it. The rest are failed lead guitards.
     
  11. Pilgrim

    Pilgrim Supporting Member

    Call a band meeting and level with him...and make sure that the others in the band are well advised before you have the meeting. The bottom line is that he needs to get better or you need a replacement.
     
  12. fmoore200

    fmoore200

    Mar 22, 2011
    NYC
    Let him "play" unplugged?

    Or make him pay to play :cool:
     
  13. waylowrider

    waylowrider I shall not waste time with you. Supporting Member

    Oct 19, 2011
    Minneapolis
    No one who sucks and won't practice is a good friend.
     
  14. SirMjac28

    SirMjac28 Patiently Waiting For The Next British Invasion Gold Supporting Member

    Aug 25, 2010
    The Great Midwest
    Yes and believe it or not they care about what kind of car you drive. I would get another guitarist and let your friend do a few rifts that aren't difficult even turn his amp down some there's room for everyone in a band.
     
  15. :eek:

    Maybe in a BAD band...
     
  16. WowSuchPunx

    WowSuchPunx

    Feb 17, 2014

    We considered pulling a Sid Vicious on him actually haha .
     
  17. Dave W

    Dave W Supporting Member

    Mar 1, 2007
    White Plains
    Why would you want someone who can't play in your band?
     



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