Before I begin, let me state that I am a rational human being who realizes that everybody in my band, including myself, have lives and things happen. I am in no way a control freak... at least I don't think so...? My old band got back together recently, and by default I am the band leader. I am the lead guitarist now, a role which I enjoy, but also ended up in by default. I'm having a hard time getting this project off the ground. Everybody seems like they really want to do it. Our singer is new (so new that he has only been to 2 rehearsals), and I'm trying to encourage him to take the reins a little bit (PLEASE!), but he's still not comfortable and thinks of himself as a guest or an outsider. Drummer is the least invested member of this band, and his schedule is such that it's hard to get him to practice even when he is free. Bassist and Rhythm Guitarist are not leaders, just "go with the flow" kind of guys, to a fault. I ask them to contribute song ideas, and they just kinda shrug their shoulders and say "I don't care, whatever". I think everybody's level of commitment is there, but I think that if I don't do something, we'll just continue playing in the basement until we eventually get bored with it. Should I just go out and book us a gig and surprise everybody with it, to light a fire under their asses?