has anyone had a similar story to this: band member is totally committed to band, band member meets girl, band member falls in "love", band member gets married, band member disengages from band (but still plays gigs)? we're an original 3-piece, indie rock band. all members are now married. the member in question is the last of the 3 to get married. since his engagement, he started dropping things (his own practice regiment, for example) and once it got into full throttle, he started dropping finding gigs, songwriting (for the most part, he seems content rewriting lyrics to past songs to fit his current "situation") and lately, we are at his whim on band rehearsals. we have allowed this situation to fester to a point where either the band will splinter or require a new band member to replace the old one. in order to avoid splintering/releasing any said member, any constructive advice on the subject? our band is a band of equals and we would like to keep it that way. unfortunately, our track record of keeping each other "accountable" is a little spotty lately. thanks!