So a while ago me and a drummer held auditions for a guitarist for a band we were forming. Two came, one got the spot, and the other was incredibly enthusiastic and worked hard but was absolutely bad at what he did and doesn't have any taste. It seems everybody's sort of coddled him into thinking that mindless practice will produce good results without any sort of "Hmm, this is bad, let's go over this." So, I thought to myself "Where would I be today if somebody had taken the time to help me? I just jumped right into the frying pan of being in a band and learned the hard way." So I cut him a deal. We'd meet up and I'd help him work on the things he needed to work on (playing cleaner rather than fast, locking in with a band, etc.) and when the time came, he'd be able to re-audition. I haven't heard from the guitarist/singer since September. No texts responded to or anything. He just dropped off one day. He had some family issues that seemed had stabilized after he got his GED and started a full time job, but I have no way of knowing what happened. The band is no longer functioning and is really not even there as a concept anymore. Me and the drummer still jam from time to time, but I don't really have the time or enough talented members to make that into a full band. The problem is, the other guitarist who I offered to help out is still contacting me and getting together for help. I keep trying to tell him that it's solely to help him, but I keep getting texts like "You know, I was thinking we should all meet up this weekend so we can work on songs as a band" after telling him I'd help him with his songwriting. Honestly, he's not ready for a band, wants to go in a different direction than us, and he isn't seeming to get the hint. I also have trouble going through with the 2 or 3 hour help sessions because he can be kind of annoying to be around. He's not even a mean kind of annoying where he could fix something or I could hold him accountable. We're just on totally different levels mentally as far as maturity, tastes, sense of humor, etc. and he's too nice for me to make a problem of it. My conscience is telling me to lay down the line about the band and keep helping him as an individual, but I just dread the hours it takes sometimes. I guess I need some talking into or out of something. If it helps, everybody involved is 17-18.