Can I say "No" to sharing my bass at a jam?

Discussion in 'Basses [BG]' started by slick_tu, Jan 25, 2013.


  1. slick_tu

    slick_tu Supporting Member

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    It hasn't happened to me, yet, but if I go to a jam, and someone asks to try my bass or use it for a song, is it OK for me to say no? Or would that be very bad manners on my part? What is the most tactful way to decline?

    I have a Fender Custom Shop P, and I would rather not let someone else play it. After all, most guys probably wouldn't let me fondle their girlfriends if I asked, right? :bag:


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  2. carl h.

    carl h.

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    It's yours.
    Say no.

  3. dbnet03

    dbnet03

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    Your equipment, your rule.
  4. onda'bass

    onda'bass Supporting Member

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    I say no all the time....
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  6. Stone Soup

    Stone Soup

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    Just say no. ;)
  7. neren

    neren

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    No means no! My Fender, my rights!
  8. fuzzychaos

    fuzzychaos Supporting Member

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    Of course you can. If it's someone I have seen and built a rapport, I usually think it's okay.
  9. pete rallis

    pete rallis

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    it all depends on who is asking...if I don't know them, its a definite NO...if its somebody I know and is truly a good musician, I will say yes. And then watch them like a hawk.
  10. alfred88

    alfred88

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    Some people I can trust so I find no problem in lending. As for others, I would never let them even touch my basses.

    If you want to say no, especially with an instrument like yours, it's perfectly alright.
  11. charliefreak

    charliefreak

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    I tend to pimp mine out. I've made hundreds in a night trickin' a loose mim fender jazz 5. I've probably paid for it 10 fold come to think of it... And that is including money I saved on drinks!
  12. Vince Klortho

    Vince Klortho

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    I agree it's OK to say no. Especially if they have a big metal belt buckle. I always wear mine to the side and my thirty year-old bass has a pristine back.
  13. tdub0199

    tdub0199

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    I have said NO plenty of times.... Bad manners or not....
  14. GM60466

    GM60466

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    I do not lend my bass to anyone, especially at a jam.
  15. fjadams

    fjadams Supporting Member

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    Perfectly acceptable to say no if you don't feel comfortable about it. I know some people I'd trust with any instrument I have, and some I wouldn't let use a $12 pawn shop special.
  16. wmheilma

    wmheilma

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    If you do not want people to play your bass, don't let 'em! If you feel obligated to 'share' then bring a bass that you are willing to subject to unknown slime, grime, bash, and smash!!
  17. TolerancEJ

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  18. pacojas

    pacojas "FYYA BUN" Supporting Member

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    it's only bad manners if you throw up the middle-finger when saying "NO".
  19. Baird6869

    Baird6869 Supporting Member

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    Nobody is stupid enough to actually pay me to play their gear.
    If I host a jam, I always bring a backup bass that isn't expensive.

    Sorry, no drunk or hack touches my MTD or Spector, but one should be prepared.
  20. Kubicki440

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    Tactfully decline, it's good manners by all means. Don't go to a jam session without your guitar/bass, and certainly do not ask for someone else's. J/K. :)

    I wouldn't be offended if someone declined on my end.
  21. Kubicki440

    Kubicki440

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    + 1

    Drummers need not apply to this rule just bring your own sticks. :)

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