Complete Devastation

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by tastybasslines, Nov 27, 2013.

  1. tastybasslines

    tastybasslines Banned

    May 9, 2010
    Los Angeles, CA
    I'm in tears as I just discovered my good friend today jumped 15 stories from the roof of the hospital he was in. I just can't believe it. He must have been calm when he did it because he was seen smoking a cigarette first before he walked off. I just saw him in the hospital - he woke up to see me. I'm a complete f***ing mess right now. I got sober with him, we got to rehab at the same time and he was in the room across from me. We got in trouble together for smoking cigs in the room, among other things, and stayed friends.

    He had a rare disease called CPVT where his heart could not process adrenaline and that came with minor epilepsy. His sister posted that he could not take the medicine any longer. I can't imagine him going out like that so easily, so I am guessing he thought the end was near.

    I am bawling so hard, and completely devastated right now. A special guy, and so loved.

    He made the front page of Reddit today, with 2000 comments. I just can't believe it. 25 years old. Enjoy life while you have it boys. I will miss him so much. :crying:

  2. Stay strong. Definitely don't allow this to be reason for you to relapse!
  3. Tituscrow

    Tituscrow Banned

    Feb 14, 2011
    NW England
    That's terrible. Sincere condolences tasty.

    I'm sure your TB brothers and sisters will inundate you with messages of support.
  4. MartinG1957

    MartinG1957 You can never have too many bones....

    Aug 5, 2011
    Dublin, Ireland
    Tasty, sincere condolences on your loss.
    Stay strong for yourself and for him.
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  6. Sincere condolences man.

    There isn't much which is going to make it easier, though I would suggest avoiding the "why" aspect, IME it ends up being a bit circular and makes the grieving harder. Remember him the positives he brought you and take care buddy.
  7. hrodbert696

    hrodbert696 Supporting Member

    Wow. I'm so sorry to hear it. He looks like he must have been a fun guy - that's a crazy selfie!
  8. PAC

    PAC Banned

    Nov 22, 2013
    Sorry to hear about your friend. Good friends should be cherished. They are few and far between. Stay strong.

  9. two fingers

    two fingers You tahkin 'uh me? Yeah, you. You tahkin 'uh me? Supporting Member

    Feb 7, 2005
    Eastern NC USA
    Well stated. Hang in there brother.
  10. GKon

    GKon Supporting Member, Boom-Chicka-Boom

    Feb 17, 2013
    Queens, NY
    I'm very sorry to hear about your friend.
    Hang in there as best you can.
  11. hover


    Oct 4, 2008
    So very sorry to hear of your loss, stay strong.

    Tho we're faceless here (for the most part)... we still care, across the ether.
  12. Truktek2


    Sep 5, 2008
    Queens, NY
    My deepest condolences. Way too young.
  13. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    So sorry, my friend.

    We never get used to losing good people.

    Make your friend one of the people whose memory you're living for. It's the only positive thing I can think of to say right now.

    Again, very very sorry.
  14. blastoff99


    Dec 17, 2011
    I am so sorry. I can't imagine how hard this is for you, for the rest of his friends, for his family.

    Someone commented here about not letting this be a reason for you to relapse. Good call. If meetings are your thing, go to more of them. If meetings are not your thing, seriously consider going. If you have a sponsor, talk with him. If you have a counselor, get on the phone to him or her NOW. Put as much support around yourself as you can.

    I feel pretty confident in saying that your friend wouldn't want you to go down too. Do everything you can to keep it from happening.
  15. fdeck

    fdeck Supporting Member

    Mar 20, 2004
    Madison WI
    HPF Technology: Protecting the Pocket since 2007
    Sorry to hear about your loss.
  16. As already stated, don't ponder "why" too much. Simply be thankful for the good memories you have and that you have them. Condolences.
  17. Relic

    Relic Cow are you?

    Sep 12, 2006
    Robbinsville, NJ
    So sorry to hear about it, ugh. Hang in there
  18. DeathFromBelow

    DeathFromBelow Never Forget. Banned

    Dec 23, 2010
    Horten, Norway
    I feel for you, that is friggin horrible to hear. Sincere condolences.
  19. Jim Nazium

    Jim Nazium Supporting Member

    Jun 19, 2007
    Takoma Park, MD (DC)
    I'm sorry man. My mother took her own life in 2006, so I know how it feels. Stay strong, and please reach out to others for help if you feel you need it.
  20. Monster Truck

    Monster Truck Groovologist

    Aug 22, 2011
    Erie, PA
    So sorry to hear that, Tasty. Stay strong, bro.
  21. tastybasslines

    tastybasslines Banned

    May 9, 2010
    Los Angeles, CA
    Thank you everyone. When I checked this thread, I started choking up again. Thank you for caring about me and my welfare also. I still can't believe it.