I am quickly closing in on a point with playing bass, where it is truly all I want to do with my life from this point onward. I feel like I'm totally starting to focus on going somewhere with it, making money, and making it my career. It's not the first time in my life that I've latched onto something so fiercely, by any means. But it struck me this past weekend when I was hanging out with a friend of mine who's also a musician (guitar), who I played in a couple of bands with, but who just doesn't seem to have a head for the next level of things and kinda lacks the street smarts and the motivation that I have. He's also a few years younger than me and it's taken him a while to kinda grow up. We hadn't seen each other in a while so we met in the city for coffee and ended up hanging for about 3 hours. It was really good to hang out and just talk and catch up, walk around, have coffee and food. I like having friends, I really do. I tend to be kinda introverted by nature, so it's nice to have people around who get me out of my shell. It was the first instance of true socializing that I've done in a while, that hasn't involved networking with others. Yet, 3 hours is a precious chunk of time to me. And more and more lately, I just don't have time to "hang out." I just can't fathom people who go home from their jobs and sit in front of the TV and then pour themselves a drink, go to bed, and wake up to do it again. Nothing against it if it makes you happy, but I'm just in such a different place. It's hit a point where when friends ask me to go out to bars, I don't bother...why, what's the point? If there's a band I want to see, sure, but if it's just to go out and drink, I don't care. Or I get invited to a film...in order for me to spend $12 and sit still for at least 2 hours, it's gotta be something REALLY special, you know? Somehow, I'm hitting this point where when I DO allow myself some downtime from playing bass or working or writing, I prefer to just take it to myself because many of my friends don't seem to understand my level of commitment to music. Why would they, especially if they don't play instruments? And the people who DO understand it, are out there doing it too, so they're never around. So it leaves me kinda adrift socially, and it's weird. It's weird to start feeling like I have sort of a higher purpose than "other people" because I am not "other people." It's not that I feel guilty for having that opinion of myself. It's just very strange to suddenly feel like some of my friends are dragging me down and like I'm drifting away from them because I have different priorities. For those of you who are out there really doing it...how did you handle stuff like this? How did you handle having to constantly turn down other people's social invites because of rehearsals, gigs, auditions? Or to get more to the point, what do you replace them with...what happens now?