Well this is not really a girlfriend issue... this is more of a general trust issue. I have been playing bass for about three years now. I started to play bass because a local band needed a bass player because theirs was a bit of an alcoholic. I was a cellist in college and was able to play along pretty easily... (It was metal.... not that hard) Anyway I digress... I was kicked out of the band because I did not "fit the image". So I have been playing a learning for myself. But I have not been playing with a band since then. I really miss making music with other people. REALLY BAD... Here is where the girlfriend issue comes in. I love my girlfriend so so much, but she does not want me to join a band because of the "groupie" issues. I seriously think that she believes that I am going to jump into bed with the first speaker bunny that I find. With my job, I would have to find a band that only played out every so often anyway... So my question. Have any of you had any of these issues? What did you do to "fix them"?? Please refrain from saying.... "leave her" or "put your foot down"... I do respect and love her VERY MUCH. I have kids that love her as well... and it would not be fair to them or her to do so. I am ok with playing bass and getting better for myself... Just deep inside I have a sincere desire to be creative with other people. I am sure you all understand. Thanks as always for your input!