Apologies if this has been covered already - a semi-diligent search didn't turn up anything. I've only been in two bands so far. The first had a strong BL - not in the sense he was overbearing or anything - he just had tons of local gigging experience, a great network, and a good sense of how to put a setlist together. So it was pretty natural for him to get us all the gigs and handle pretty much all the details - all I had to do was show up and play at practice and gigs. Sadly, I had to leave that band when we moved. In my new band, there's no strong BL - everything is a "group decision" which on the one hand is kind-of-nice, but it takes FOREVER for anything to get done . . .if it gets done at all. And the band believes everybody should be out hustling gigs. I don't have that kind of personality and with a full time job and family - not to mention I recently moved to this city so I have zero network - we'll it's a struggle. I'm not talking pro or even semi-pro here. I'm talking about bands where everyone has a full-time job and it's just for fun and as a stress-relieving hobby . . . I'm willing to put some non-fun work into it but only to a point - I don't need or want a second job. So, of these two situations, which one is more the rule and which on the exception? I honestly don't know what the "norm" is . . . or even if there is a "norm". Am I being a whiny bitch, or do most of you in similar amateur situations have deals that are more like my first band?