Is this douchey?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by giantimi, Nov 19, 2013.

  1. Hey there talk bass,

    So the Australian bass player Dane Alderson happens to be in my town (Charlottesville, VA) playing gigs every Monday at a local bar. I hadn't yet seen him and his trio play (they're amazing by the way) and I really wanted to go. So much so, that I skipped out on band practice to go (I invited my guitarist and drummer, but they have an aversion to anything besides punk/alternative rock).

    Anyway, I figured since it was just a practice it wasn't a big deal to miss it to watch an enjoyable gig. So, would any of you guys be upset if one of your band members missed a practice to go watch a gig (with virtuoso musicians) instead?
  2. remainthesame


    Sep 24, 2008
    kind of. but then again, if cannibal corpse came to town, id totally miss practice to see them. you bring up an interesting dilemma.
  3. nojj

    nojj Guest

    May 20, 2013
    Nah, no problem.
    You'd be quietly buried in the back yard..............:D
  4. Tomorrow


    Jun 7, 2013
    Maybe if it became a habit, but in general, no. Each of us has had to miss at one time or another, for various reasons - as long as you're telling your bandmates what's going on, I don't think it's a big deal.
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  6. Philonius

    Philonius Supporting Member

    Mar 22, 2009
    2k W of the Duwamsh
    Shouldn't this be in the new "Douchey?" forum?
  7. nojj

    nojj Guest

    May 20, 2013
    wait, there's a douchey forum?
    Must have missed the memo
  8. Tituscrow

    Tituscrow Banned

    Feb 14, 2011
    NW England
    Not a dilemma for me, as my band ( there's three of us) all dig the same stuff, so chances are if there is a gig in town, we'd all be going.

    Hypothetically though...absolutely no big deal at all. Not in the slightest.
  9. If it was sprung on the band the day/night of practice, I'd say it could be douchey as this act is there every week - so a head's up should be given. Hopefully, you gave the guys a day or two's notice.
  10. @eriky4003

    Actually the situation was a little stranger than that. So, the drummer's girlfriend was kind of acting up and at the beginning of the night practice was cancelled. I then got the call that practice was back on about 2 hours before the gig and at the time I thought the band I wanted to go see was playing there for the last time (I later found that they're playing next Monday too). So I figured seeing this band for their "last" show rather than going to practice (for a band that I am considering leaving) was important.
  11. giantimi,
    Fair enough. You were told practice was off so you made other plans. My douchery call is off.
  12. Groovy_Gravy


    Apr 26, 2012
    if ur skipping it to go see music i dont see a problem...

    hell, i skipped band practice to go see Phish a couple weeks ago. The guys were only pissed because they werent going NOT because I skipped practice...
  13. Guygrooves


    Jan 3, 2012
    Albany NY
    No way~ Youre all good in my eyes.. ;-)
  14. nojj

    nojj Guest

    May 20, 2013
    Come Home, all is forgiven.
  15. elgecko


    Apr 30, 2007
    Anasleim, CA
    Not enough information to determine doucheiness.

    - Is there a gig coming up?
    - How often do you rehearse?
    - Are your rehearsals typically productive?
    - How much advance warning did you give?
    - etc
  16. I totally would. the band isn't your life. I have tons of fun at practice tho.
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  18. Fat Steve

    Fat Steve The poodle bites, the poodle chews it.

    Feb 4, 2013
    Ventura County
    I skipped a rehearsal to see Primus in 3D earlier this year. Slept just fine that night.
  19. MVE


    Aug 8, 2010
    "....they have an aversion to anything besides punk/alternative rock)."

    Maybe you're in the wrong band?

    Anybody who has an "aversion" to anything other than one kind of anything is a closed minded moron.
  20. Not yet

    Not yet Supporting Member

    Mar 26, 2012
    You not married and this a special circumstance. Hell no
  21. elgecko


    Apr 30, 2007
    Anasleim, CA
    You can't have a preference without being a moron? :confused: