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Is this douchey?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by giantimi, Nov 19, 2013.


  1. giantimi

    giantimi

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    Hey there talk bass,


    So the Australian bass player Dane Alderson happens to be in my town (Charlottesville, VA) playing gigs every Monday at a local bar. I hadn't yet seen him and his trio play (they're amazing by the way) and I really wanted to go. So much so, that I skipped out on band practice to go (I invited my guitarist and drummer, but they have an aversion to anything besides punk/alternative rock).

    Anyway, I figured since it was just a practice it wasn't a big deal to miss it to watch an enjoyable gig. So, would any of you guys be upset if one of your band members missed a practice to go watch a gig (with virtuoso musicians) instead?
     
  2. remainthesame

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    kind of. but then again, if cannibal corpse came to town, id totally miss practice to see them. you bring up an interesting dilemma.
     
  3. nojj

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    Nah, no problem.
    You'd be quietly buried in the back yard..............:D
     
  4. Tomorrow

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    Maybe if it became a habit, but in general, no. Each of us has had to miss at one time or another, for various reasons - as long as you're telling your bandmates what's going on, I don't think it's a big deal.
     
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  6. Philonius

    Philonius Supporting Member

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    Shouldn't this be in the new "Douchey?" forum?
     
  7. nojj

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    wait, there's a douchey forum?
    Must have missed the memo
     
  8. Tituscrow

    Tituscrow Banned

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    Not a dilemma for me, as my band ( there's three of us) all dig the same stuff, so chances are if there is a gig in town, we'd all be going.

    Hypothetically though...absolutely no big deal at all. Not in the slightest.
     
  9. eriky4003

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    If it was sprung on the band the day/night of practice, I'd say it could be douchey as this act is there every week - so a head's up should be given. Hopefully, you gave the guys a day or two's notice.
     
  10. giantimi

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    @eriky4003

    Actually the situation was a little stranger than that. So, the drummer's girlfriend was kind of acting up and at the beginning of the night practice was cancelled. I then got the call that practice was back on about 2 hours before the gig and at the time I thought the band I wanted to go see was playing there for the last time (I later found that they're playing next Monday too). So I figured seeing this band for their "last" show rather than going to practice (for a band that I am considering leaving) was important.
     
  11. eriky4003

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    giantimi,
    Fair enough. You were told practice was off so you made other plans. My douchery call is off.
     
  12. Groovy_Gravy

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    if ur skipping it to go see music i dont see a problem...

    hell, i skipped band practice to go see Phish a couple weeks ago. The guys were only pissed because they werent going NOT because I skipped practice...
     
  13. Guygrooves

    Guygrooves Supporting Member

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    No way~ Youre all good in my eyes.. ;-)
     
  14. nojj

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    Come Home, all is forgiven.
     
  15. elgecko

    elgecko

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    Not enough information to determine doucheiness.

    - Is there a gig coming up?
    - How often do you rehearse?
    - Are your rehearsals typically productive?
    - How much advance warning did you give?
    - etc
     
  16. DwaynieAD

    DwaynieAD Supporting Member

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    I totally would. the band isn't your life. I have tons of fun at practice tho.
     
  17. Jason Wilson

    Jason Wilson

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    This
     
  18. Fat Steve

    Fat Steve The poodle bites, the poodle chews it.

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    I skipped a rehearsal to see Primus in 3D earlier this year. Slept just fine that night.
     
  19. MVE

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    "....they have an aversion to anything besides punk/alternative rock)."

    Maybe you're in the wrong band?

    Anybody who has an "aversion" to anything other than one kind of anything is a closed minded moron.
     
  20. Not yet

    Not yet

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    You not married and this a special circumstance. Hell no
     
  21. elgecko

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    You can't have a preference without being a moron? :confused:
     

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