So, I've been in this band for the last couple of years. I've played countless shows with them, and supplied all the bass work, a good portion of backup vocals, one song, and lead vocals for that song on the band's first full-length CD. I like hanging out with everybody, I like playing with everybody, and I like the music. But I don't have time for it. I have a family, and with regard to that family, I supplied the people who do our booking with a list of dates that I firmly couldn't be booked for. Ever since pretty much November, the dates I asked off have been disregarded. I've voiced my concerns several times, but my concerns, it seems, were disregarded. I 've also been concerned over how little money we've been making for the amount of times that we play, and how many opportunities for promotion and revenue have been completely disregarded, even though I've mentioned them to the bandleader AND the promoter non-stop. The band doesn't have an official Youtube channel, and didn't arrange for ANY online releases, even though I supplied everyone who should've done it with everything they needed to have an extensive, legitimate online presence. When I found out the band got booked for my wedding anniversary and my stepdaughter's birthday, I said I couldn't do either. The birthday also fell in the middle of a day on which I have to work my day job, from which I don't get the luxury of asking for days off. I asked if the bandleader could find someone to sit in, and he dismissed my question. In fact, not only did he dismiss this question, he dismissed my concerns. Today, I found out that he booked a SECOND show on the same night as the other show on my stepdaughter's birthday. That was it for me; that's the last time he's going to disregard me. Since February's all booked up, I'll give them until the end of February. But that's it. I asked him to find a replacement for me. Funny thing is, our drummer asked him the same thing. He has the same concerns I do, and has received basically the same treatment. We're keeping everything amicable, but this is it for me. I might... MIGHT... set up a project to record the rest of my music and get it released. But I've considered this band my last chance as a musician, so it hurts quite a bit to have to step off. But, like I told the drummer, I can't prioritize the band ahead of my family.