My father has died

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  1. mellowinman

    mellowinman Perfect for Breaking the Ice at Naughty Parties Supporting Member

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    On Thursday, March 13, 2014, at 12:20 pm, my father died.

    I didn't get the news until about 5:00.

    My wife had scheduled a band rehearsal. I decided to go ahead with it,

    I gave Krystal and Arthur pieces of paper with the following chords written on them:

    Bm A E F# D G E A F# Bm G F# Em D F#

    They said, "what's this?" and I told them to just play through them, playing the F# at the end for two measures instead of one, and just keep bringing up the intensity.

    I told Scott to think of Nick Mason, doing a straight beat, and just keep making it heavier, bringing more and more fills.

    And then I sang.



    Bye daddy.
  2. Basshappi

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    My condolences to you and your family mellowinman.
  3. BayStateBass

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    Dude, hugs and lots of love to you.

    I dread the day I am in your position. It will not likely be far away.

    As a Scotsman, he wouldn't have wanted you to do it differently. We, the Irish, are similar.

    Celebrate his life and mourn not his death.

    My best to you, and that is all.
  4. Milk

    Milk Supporting Member

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    Damn.

    MY condoleances.

    Cherish the memories. That's all people are once gone. And that can be quite a lot. To be alive in people's thoughts. And then of course there's what he made you as a person. Part of what we are is what our parents were. How they shaped us. For better or worse.
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  6. Lonesomedave

    Lonesomedave Supporting Member

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    BYE, DADDY indeed....and i am sure he was proud of you right to the end

    both my parents lived with us until the day they passed, and i remember it like it was yesterday....

    think back on the good times and know that if there is an afterlife, he is looking down on you and smiling....as i said before, if you have kids, be sure and tell them what a great guy your old man was, and know that your grief shall pass....not right away, but in time

    good vibes, man...i know what it feels like


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  7. fdeck

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    My condolences.
  8. mimaz

    mimaz Gold Supporting Member

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    Sorry for you loss. Sending prayers your way for you and your family.
  9. David Jayne

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    I'm sorry. You and he were fortunate to have had each other. I wish I'd had the sort of relationship with my father as you had with yours. You were lucky. Be glad for that.
  10. nashvillebill

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    My deepest and most sincerest condolences. It's OK to cry...
  11. philvanv

    philvanv Gerbil Turds, Kitsap County Turd Core

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    and at the bottom it says thank you, and now you can **** off
    So sorry to hear.
  12. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Terrific Twister Supporting Member

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    So sorry to hear this news bro. Keep your stick on the ice.

    -Mike
  13. 4Mal

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    Sorry to hear. My dad's passing was 10 years ago. Seems like yesterday... Hang in man, time knocks the rough edges off and what remains is the love.
  14. pflash4001

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    My mom passed January 14. There are no words to express the sense of loss. Just know you're in my thoughts.
  15. Solarmist

    Solarmist Supporting Member

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    I'm so sorry Mellowinman - I just lost my mom last June. It's really sad losing a parent - my sincere condolences.
  16. GregC

    GregC Johnny and Joe Gold Supporting Member

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    My sincere condolences.
  17. pauliepaulie

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    Condolences Mellowinman. I lost my dad last year, nephew this month. Nothing surer that we're all going to go, but it really hurts,

    paulie
  18. Chainsaw Willie

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    Dad has been gone for 10 years, mom for 15.

    It will always sting a little bit, but it won't always hurt as much as it does today. Be thankful for the time you have had with the ones who are gone. Be joyful daily with the others who are still with you.
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    I am sorry for your loss, and glad that you had good memories of and with him.
  20. jmattbassplaya

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    Condolences and hugs.
  21. catcauphonic

    catcauphonic High Freak of the Low Frequencies Supporting Member

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    Sorry, Brother. Condolences to you and all of your loved ones.

    Sidenote: That is one of the most intense segments of 'Live at Pompeii'. Thanks for posting, and take care.

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