1. Welcome to TalkBass 2014! If you're new here, we just went through a major site upgrade. Please post all concerns and bugs to the Forum Usage Issues forum. We will be monitoring that forum. Thank you for all of your feedback.

    The TB Android app is working, you may need to uninstall/reinstall. The iPhone app is now updated and should work after you upgrade. TalkBass is responsive to any screen size, so we recommend using your mobile browser for full functionality.

    Please read the TalkBass 2014 FAQ for lots of great info on the new software.

Now I know for sure I want to be cremated.

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Stinsok, Nov 6, 2013.

  1. Stinsok

    Stinsok Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2002
    Likes Received:
    2
    My dad passed on Monday. Yesterday, we made the arrangements, etc. and had to pick out a casket. To me, it's huge waste of money. We selected a casket that we thought he would choose for himself. Money really wasn't the issue but the one we picked was about $2100.00. Add $1100.00 for a vault, nearly $1000 for having the grave dug/closed, and $1000 for the plot. We haven't picked a marker yet but I'm sure that's expensive too. I don't want any of that for myself. That money can be better spent somewhere else.
  2. AaronVonRock

    AaronVonRock

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2013
    Likes Received:
    2
    Agree. Being buried in the ground is a waste of money and a waste of space.

    Sorry about your dad.
  3. Milk

    Milk Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Sep 16, 2013
    Likes Received:
    3
    My grandad died this year. Astounded at the cost of the whole thing, my brother decided to research the cheapest way for one to be well...dead. Turns out you can get just basically get wooden box for super cheap (in fact they allow you to build it yourself providing it meets certain basic requirements...making a sturdy enough wooden box that'll fit a human isn't hard). I don't remember the details but he figured out you could have everything done for under 1000$ easy. The thing is, funeral parlors totally guilt trip you into getting the dead relative all the best. They know you're likely to have just inherited some life insurance and boy are they gonna make sure they can squeeze the most of it out of you. It's a sick industry. Who gives a S the quality of the coffin you're buried in?
  4. rtslinger

    rtslinger

    Joined:
    Nov 14, 2006
    Likes Received:
    3
    Sorry to hear about your Dad I lost mine a few years back and I still haven't gotten over it.
  5. hrodbert696

    hrodbert696 Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Jan 15, 2010
    Likes Received:
    10
    Sorry to hear about your father's passing. Mine died about four years ago. It's not easy.

    It's not a bad idea to plan your arrangements ahead of time and provide instructions (and funds) in your will. That can save your family these decisions and costs, and avoid the guilt-tripping of "we don't want to skimp on his funeral."

    At a quick check, looks like cremation would save money, but it may not be as cheap as you think. I found a funeral association website that says cremation costs average $1200 but can run as high as $3000. Better than the $5200 your family wound up paying, but hardly free.
  6. tuBass

    tuBass Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Dec 14, 2002
    Likes Received:
    0
    my dad wants his body donated to the medical school....
  7. CrashClint

    CrashClint I Play Bass therefore I Am Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Nov 15, 2005
    Likes Received:
    2
    Sorry to hear about your Dad, I laid my mom to rest 11/1.

    Cremation can be expensive as well if you are going to have a plot or a vault. This is what my parents chose and bought for themselves back in 1988. Even though they bought everything back then, my dad was still was charged $1,300 to have the vault cover removed, her ashes placed in and the cover sealed.

    I think I will go this route.
  8. DwaynieAD

    DwaynieAD

    Joined:
    Nov 20, 2010
    Likes Received:
    6
    feed my body to feral pigs
  9. Stinsok

    Stinsok Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2002
    Likes Received:
    2
    Not going to have an urn or any kind of vault, etc. Maybe scatter the ashes somewhere cool, I just don't see the value in having a designated place for my remains. I have family that I deeply cared about but I never visit their graves. They aren't there.
  10. 1958Bassman

    1958Bassman

    Joined:
    Oct 20, 2007
    Likes Received:
    0
    Where do you want your cremains to sit, once you're gone? If you want them in a mausoleum, that's not cheap, either. If you want your ashes to be distributed in a favorite place, that obviously eliminates this expense. Respecting the person's wishes is great, but how often have most people gone to the cemetery to pay their respects, rather than doing it wherever they happen to be?
  11. tastybasslines

    tastybasslines I'll hump your leg Supporting Member

    Joined:
    May 9, 2010
    Likes Received:
    22
    I'll provide for my own plot and expenses. I want people to have a place to come and see me. I don't believe it should be a burden on the living.

    Sorry to hear about your father. I hope you're doing okay.
  12. smeet

    smeet Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Nov 27, 2006
    Likes Received:
    4
    My wife and I want to be buried, but no coffin and no embalming fluid. Just us in the dirt, with a tree or two planted on top so our bodies can be food for it. I suspect somebody has figured out how to make that expensive too...
  13. jugglingfreak

    jugglingfreak

    Joined:
    Aug 12, 2009
    Likes Received:
    0
    Sorry for your loss.

    My mom, 2 of my aunts and myself half all requested cremation with no funeral/memorial service.

    Now, I'm not religious and neither is one of my aunts but my mom and the other aunt are. (not trying to open a can of worms, just showing it's not due to religious reasons, or lack thereof.)

    It's purely a practical decision. My family has never stood on ceremony.
  14. ProgRocker

    ProgRocker

    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2011
    Likes Received:
    0
    Sorry about your loss. I don't know what I'd like done with my body after I'm gone. Just dig a hole and throw me in. I know my wife wouldn't go for that though.
  15. fhm555

    fhm555 So FOS my eyes are brown Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Feb 16, 2011
    Likes Received:
    2
    So sorry to hear about your dad. my sincere condolences.

    While I'm doing this because I want to be as useful as possible for as long as possible, it turns out to be pretty inexpensive. The grand total to dispose of my remains will be the cost of an ambulance ride from Birmingham to Knoxville where I'll be turned over to the body farm at UT.
  16. smperry

    smperry Moderator Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2003
    Likes Received:
    0
    Very sorry to hear about your dad. My father died over 13 years ago and I remember being shocked at those costs too.
  17. GKon

    GKon Supporting Member, Boom-Chicka-Boom Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Feb 17, 2013
    Likes Received:
    2
    I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad.
  18. Phalex

    Phalex Yeah, I've got the moves like Jagger. Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Oct 3, 2006
    Likes Received:
    2
    We just went through this about 6 weeks ago. They have to transport him to the crematorium in something. We bought a big cardboard box from the funeral home for this purpose. It still cost several hundred dollars. Death is the last place they get to screw you and they take full advantage.

    My condolences on the loss of your father.
  19. Milk

    Milk Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Sep 16, 2013
    Likes Received:
    3
    "Well Sir, someone has to provide for a shovel and not just any kind, a real high quality one that won't break. We're talking at least 500$. And digging a hole, well that can set you back 3000$! Now i know i know...it may seem steep like that...but that's a lot of effort and it takes time and it has to be done according to the demanding standards of the gravedigging laws. Planting trees? yeah that can be done, for you, just 1000$ per tree. So let's see, 5500$ for a fine and simple burial."
  20. bass12

    bass12 Fueled by chocolate Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Jun 8, 2008
    Likes Received:
    3
    Death is a huge business and a lot of the profits are a direct result of guilt. When my dad died he was cremated in a cardboard box. My mom has made it clear that she wants to go the same way - as cheaply and neatly as possible. I never understood the idea of spending thousands on a coffin that either gets buried or burned. Then again, I'm not religious.

Share This Page