played at a funeral

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  1. bejoyous

    bejoyous

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    I played at my mother's funeral. Toughest gig ever. I don't really recommend doing it. The performance was ok but it could've been a major disaster.

    BTW, I played O Danny Boy in Eb, once in 1/2 position area then an octave higher.
  2. fusoid

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    Condolences. It was nice you played for her service.
  3. Chris Fitzgerald

    Chris Fitzgerald Student of Life Administrator

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    Sorry to hear that. Playing would be a good tribute. I never understand how people close to the departed can sing at funerals without completely falling apart - I always do when they do it.
  4. bejoyous

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    I was OK during the two minutes of playing but I lost it after I had put the bass down and had gone back to my seat. I had to mentally and physically rehearse it many times before hand, too.

    I still don't recommend it. The borrowing an instrument, transporting it, practicing it to get used to it, storing it, etc took up a lot of mental space when I could have been helping my brothers with other stuff.

    However, my Mom was my biggest supporter of my musical training and encourager of a musical career so it was nice to pay tribute that way. I guess I would have been full of regret if I hadn't.
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  6. TroyK

    TroyK Moderator Supporting Member

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    Condolences. Like Chris, I don't think i could hold it together. It's a nice parting gift to your mom that you did.
  7. Michael Case

    Michael Case

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    Condolences, I've done it for a friend. Her mother's funeral myself, guitar, and vocalist. It was pretty tough as soon as we started I heard my friend break down. I couldn't imagine doing it for someone I was close to.
  8. Jake deVilliers

    Jake deVilliers Supporting Member

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    My condolences on your considerable loss Bryan, and my respect. There's no way I could have played at my mom's funeral.
  9. Treyzer

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    My feeling exactly! Lost my mom this last August 1st. Didn't have to play, but I had to give the eulogy. One of the hardest things I've ever done! My best to you and yours Bryan.
  10. Monkey

    Monkey Supporting Member

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    I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I can only imagine how hard that was, but I'm sure it meant a lot to your family and it was a beautiful tribute to your mother.
  11. two fingers

    two fingers Loud Mouth Know It All Blowhard Gold Supporting Member

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    Lifting one up for your family.
  12. atomicdog

    atomicdog Supporting Member

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    Kudos. I couldn't even bring myself to eulogize my mother at her funeral, I was too broken up. So I send you big props for pulling it together at such an emotional time. Cheers.

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