Then I asked Do the others know you are looking for replacements .. I put an ad in CL, and all was well. I learned about genres that I didnt even know existed, found an excellent opportunity way too far away for my needs, wants, wishes or desires. Then came the perfect response to my ad. The tunes were within my likes and capabilities, the practice and gig schedule was perfectly aligned with my wants, etc. The BL had two bass players he was working with, but each seems a little off. I explained that we all are and we had a good chuckle over that. I went to a gig, and all seemed well enough, and the bass gent was doing fine by my observation. He felt a tad uncomfortable (I think), yet was enjoying himself. The three guitarists and drummer had been friends and gigging for close to thirty years, so this may explain the appearing slightly uncomfortable. All of a sudden it hit me, maybe the two they are working with do not know if they might be replaced, or do they even know there is another, much less a third contender? Part of me said go for it anyway, another thought was along lines of open and honest communications. So I nicely ask the BL if they knew of each other and if they knew that a third might be entering the mix. All communications stopped. I may have dodged a bullet on that one.