Goodness me. We used to have a drum set which was fine; everyone wanted to hear themselves in the midst of a loud drummer, but we had to let another group use the drums (because we're so frigging nice) so we pitched in and bought a cajon percussion drum. I ended up using it the most. No problem except: Everyone seems to want to be LOUDER in the midst of a cajon, which cannot be heard over booming bass, loud screechy guitar and feedbacking vocals. I want to tell everyone to play quiet since we became more of a percussive band and they even tell me to play like percussion, but uh...sorry...I thought that meant for everyone? I ask the bassist to turn himself down because his active pups are more than enough to emit a presence even with the amp volume being at 3. He says no and tells me to mind my own business. I get frustrated just typing this out. I ask the guitarist to turn himself down on the amp since we mic him anyways. He says I don't know what I'm talking about and ignores me. Keyboardists understands. He controls his volume from his keyboard while the main mix stays at about 30% on the channel slider. It still is pretty audible through the mix so I have no complaints about that whatsoever. Acoustic guitarist plays too quiet even though I tell them constantly to strum according to sections of a song: quiet verse, quiet strum. Loud chorus: loud and hard (hah). Booming bridge: go nuts. But it seems like the other way around... The vocalists are the only dang ones who understand so they try to turn themselves down, but can't because of the former two annoying members otherwise they're lost in the mix. I don't know what to do or say. I mean, it's common sense. We're in a 100-people room setting and we don't need the bassist ans guitarist to go all rock and roll on us. Absolutely no band consolidation, no unity between the members. It feels like they don't listen to me because I'm younger than them and is considered "not as educated in music as them." Really? Really? Might I add the bassist just plays when he's asked to play. He doesn't practice whatsoever and thinks he's better than me. To the point where he fiddles with my Sansamp DI settings (WHICH I SPENT HOURS TRYING TO PERFECT). That got me pissed off and I lashed out at him angrily. During sound check. In front of people who were setting up for service. I don't care if it embarrassed him or not. I'm sick of stupid people like him. GAHHHHH I feel like quitting. Let them handle their own problems. I could care less now. Our worship leader was forced to step down because of family issues and the ones that took over (two of them) are way too relaxed and chill. I hate that. What do I do? What can I say to make them consider my suggestions, let alone listen?