So I like to check out other bands. Often I know the drummer or guitar player and you end up hanging with them on break or before the gig, whatever. There is something palpably different about meeting a non-bassist band member, and, the meeting the bass player. Sometimes it is no problem and you feel at ease to discuss whatever. Other times, it is a dead end to the conversation. I am wondering if we as bassists are insecure, overly protective or just competitive. True, we are the only "bass" in the band, like drummers and that might lead to some of my speculations above, but really, as the former Rodney might say "Why can't we just all get along?" Like lions are we head of our pride to the exclusion of other interlopers? I am an older guy and have friends/players who are 40 years my junior. When I check out there bands I just want to get the gestalt of their music, and would enjoy talking to the bass player about their setup, rigs, technique, pedals, whatever. It isn't always that easy. Why is that?